@Just966, when I was first coming out, I subscribed to a magazine called "Unzipped" with photos of incredible men; that was sort of foundational, and then incrementally you build from there!
here's a thread from earlier this year:
https://m4m-forum.org/threads/411-on-phoenix-masseurs.136137/
I'd also go to the search box in the upper right hand corner and type in phoenix+massage; I think you will find other guys who have been discussed here.
I had a similar experience many, many years ago too; his bad directions lead me to being late for our appointment, and he was not very accommodating; I would not repeat either.