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I saw Stephen last night and he was incredible. He looks as good or better than his photos. He's a big hunk of a man with a great chest. He was very adept in bed. Great kisser. He also really listened to what I wanted and delivered. Stephen is also a really nice guy, and fun to speak with.

Are you an S/M top? That’s what it sounds like but in the past I’ve gotten a different vibe.

Same for me. I recent when for a massage and realized there was another guy there. I'm not having an HE there.

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That he lacks any hair suggests he shaves or waxes. There is no man his age without underarm or pubic hair. He should probably be referring to himself as “shaved.” I run into a similar concern because I do not like a hairless public area. And one with stubble is worse. If a provider has a bare public region, I move on.

Is he bottoming? Because that's not unusual. But he's giving very "gaysic" not for me.

I'm incapable of imagining paying someone for that.

It sounds like you've let time ravage your skin. I've never seen The Witcher, and Cavill will remain a dream because you're not a 20-year-old model.

When I reach out, I give a general picture of myself: age, fit white-collar professional who lives in Brooklyn, looking for, etc. And I ask their availability and rates. If we set a meeting and the price is confirmed, I will share a pic so they know who they're meeting. I've never had a rate increase. Now, and I'm not saying this to gas myself up, but it's what I'm told by nearly everyone when I say my age. I look about a decade younger. So, if I'm meeting a provider in his 30s, there are times when he looks older than me. I haven't had anything done, but I'm religious in avoiding the sun and moisturizing.

I live and hire in NYC (Brooklyn, obviously). I have no interest in porn stars or guys with huge OF accounts. So I think similar to @pubic_assistance the guys I hire are attractive, fit guys who love sex. I also tend to steer clear of twunks or people with ridiculous bodies. No shade; I just don't find them as appealing as "guy next door" type. So I still see plenty of guys in the $300-$400 range - $500 for two hours. I don't think I'd ever pay $1,000 for anyone. But people are commanding that price, partly due to OF, inflation, etc. I also notice that many of the guys I hire do this as a side hustle. I feel like there are two types of them. One type sees it as a nice addition to their income and charges a reasonable rate. And another type who see it as something they will only do for a specific price and, generally, only with men they find reasonably attractive. These guys will also charge someone they find attractive less than someone they don't. I was chatting with another member here and realized he was charging this other person $200 more an hour than me. I thought that was a bit wild.

Yeah, I just had this exchange with a provider.

Yeah, I generally agree with @Simon Suraci but I think this was misinterpreted. I read @Italiano as saying "we're doing all this sex stuff and it would be fun to move it to the bed with the compensation. The provider responded by making it clear he didn't want to go there, so that's that. The provider could also have responded saying "I'm not comfortable with that," or "That's more than a massage, and I charge X for that." All of these are totally fine responses. As a client, I'm not necessarily comfortable saying "If I give you $100 more, will you fuck me." It feels like pressuring someone. I've had providers move me to a bed or start on a bed, etc. Some of those have stayed as just sensual massages, some have gone all the way.

I think this is a niche but growing desire among some men. I hired a provider recently who was very excited about lace.

Uh, the guy who started this thread not only still has his profile but was on here recently. If you're claiming to be the provider who blackmailed and threatened him, I'm glad you're no longer harassing people.

I agree with others who've noted you've not humiliated yourself. You asked a question as a relative novice and gotten a lot of feedback from more experienced clients. Take the wisdom and let is help shape your approach.

I have a different take on this, which I think boils down to: do you hire for convenience or do you hire to have sex with men you believe would not be interested in without payment? I mostly fall into the former category. I'm not hanging out at bars or clubs much anymore. I don't drink or do drugs. My job is very demanding. And I have disposable income. So when I hire, I do so because I do not want to spend 2-3 hours on Grindr being approached by guys I'm not interested in or rejected by guys I am. So when a masseur I see regularly compliments my oral skills or notices I'm fitter than when he last saw me, I take the compliment. I also tend to hire guys closer to my age (late 30s to 40s) and more conventionally attractive (e.g., not ripped, not with 11 inches, etc). Now, if I were hiring a 25-year-old who is 6'2" with an eight-pack, who has an active OF where he fucks similar guys, I would probably feel like this guy is shining me on if he compliments me. But clients also have to maintain that they are hiring a professional. I have specific skills that sometimes provide pro bono to some friends and organizations. But I'm also regularly approached by people who want my services for free. That doesn't feel good to me. But I've also taken jobs where I might say, "This is so much fun or energizing that I'd do it for free." A provider saying they MIGHT have approached you off the clock is saying the same thing. They're enjoying their time with you, which is excellent, but that doesn't mean you've suddenly stopped being a client. Take the compliment and enjoy it, but understand it doesn't change the dynamic of your relationship.

Nope. I always tell guys I have a dog, primarily in case they're allergic. If I was given the same option you were, I'd move on.

I just declined to hire someone who wanted Ubers both ways. It increased the cost by 30%, which in a city where his taking the train would cost $6 and would take half the time makes no sense. I would happily send part of the fee as a deposit, but I wouldn't take a car if I went to his neighborhood because it's expensive and slower than the train.

I tip and not a huge amount for truly exceptional experiences, where I feel they've undersold themselves. Otherwise, they are setting their rate. When I do certain types of work, I set my rate and do not expect to be tipped.

If you were feeling up to snuff, but with a little cough, I’d say just disclose. Colds are most contagious even before you show symptoms. But since you’re not feeling great, I’d postponed. I have the most respect and am far more likely to rehire someone who is upfront with me.

I agree this is the main factor. If the masseur is turned on by you and he sense you're into it, he'll go for it. It's happened to me a surprising number of times. I'm a good looking guy but not like a 10. However, I do have a great ass that many masseurs can't seem to resist. 😈

Yes. We met up and he was fantastic.