Km411

There have been many hetero pop-culture references to some guy dating the so and so twins as a measure of his popularity, virility, and/or appeal (remember Fonzie?). How is this different?

There you go; you could be a writer for his next gig 😂

😂 Colbert is one of the most influential political satirists of our time. But, he’s widely popular among the liberal and educated, so I can understand why you’d only see hateful rhetoric and a twisted mind.

Conspiracy or no, CBS’s timing couldn’t have been worse. CBS viewership leans left, and Democrats trust the network more than Republicans. They’ll lose critical viewership when then can least afford it. Or maybe that’s the plan; rebrand as a conservative outlet. That doesn’t seem smart given the competition in that space and the limited demographic. We shall see.

Sense of entitlement? Must have missed it. Colbert won’t skip a beat; he’ll simply move to a new platform. But CBS will lose viewership and advertising dollars big time. Even if their motives were purely financial, their timing couldn’t have been worse.

I don’t think the concern is for Colbert

Not a huge fan of police/detective stories, but very much enjoyed the series.

This is all any of us can ever do. You might take issue with the way @ApexNomadcommunicated it, but the point is he’s offered alternative perspectives from which the OP might view and understand his dilemma. That he would share his wisdom and experience with the OP at all is a gift. For the OP, it will take time to understand.

Pause and reflect. Everything @ApexNomad has said is true, you just can’t see it yet and you won’t until you put in the time and work.

As an aside, many of us spend time with providers for reasons having nothing to do with loneliness, neediness, etc. I reject the premise in some of your posts that these are the reasons people seek them out. Just saying….

Loneliness is common, as is your response to it. And it’s good that you’re asking these questions; it means you have a chance to break free from it. The next step is to allow for the possibility that you’re viewing the cause and effect of your loneliness through a distorted lense and with some significant blind spots. The only real, lasting love any of us has is the love we have for ourselves. Relationships with others are merely a refraction of that love (or lack of it). My recommendation is that you pause, stop writing, reflect on the wisdom shared in these posts, and begin an interior journey. If your therapist can’t guide you, find another. It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but if you do the work your loneliness will be vanquished.

Where have you been my hole life 😆

Definitely worthy of a smoke lol

As the parent of a Bi son I can say that is what I care most about.

In my view, it’s not a question or weakness or courage; it’s about having the tools needed to navigate these issues internally, e.g., self-acceptance. Coming out or not coming out is a personal choice, and I don’t believe one choice is necessarily better than the other for everyone under all circumstances. But one needs the right tools to make the correct choice for them. Develop the tools (e.g., seek counseling, read, etc.) and free yourself. It’s ultimately about being at peace.

Maybe I can write about this. I knew I was Bi from a young age, but there was no word for it then (or at least not one known to me); you were gay or straight. And gay was unacceptable. My first experience with a boy was age 10 (might have been younger). He was several years older. (Given the age difference and that I was prepubescent, some might say I was abused. I wasn’t.) We played together for over a decade. At the same time, I was attracted to girls and dated throughout high school and college. Without a word for this dual attraction, I was very confused about my identity. And same-sex attraction was unacceptable in my family and broader community. So I very literally lived two separate lives. This duality was the trauma. Eventually, my relationship with this boy ended, I completed college, and I made the decision to live a “normal” life. I married, raised a family, and never looked back. Then, without any foreshadowing, my son “came out” as Bi. He was very proud of his identity and fully embraced it, and I was very proud that he could do so without inhibition. But it was also a moment of truth for me. By this time my wife and I were living apart much of the time—still married and committed to each other, but each pursuing our own interests. So, about two years ago I decided to re-explore my physical attraction to men. This hobby was the perfect solution; I could do so on my own terms. I’ve not “come out” (except in a limited way to my son and a close friend); it would hurt to many people. Long ago I made a choice, and I’ve decided to live by it. Yes, a duality persists, but now it’s intentional and I’m at peace. I’m not one to entertain regret, but I do wish the word for my identity had been known to me when it mattered most. I imagine I might have lived one identity more openly, maybe similar to @pubic_assistance. But, we meander through life, share our experiences, and gain a broader understanding of ourselves and the human experience. I’m pleased to be a small part of that, and all is well.

I will never be able to write on this topic but thanks for initiating it.

For me it’s not whether they do or don’t have tattoos, it’s how they carry it. It’s all about attitude for me.

Agree with the comments here. Unfortunately, so many viewers are unable to discern the difference between news and infotainment. Consequently, these types of shows do little more than widen the divide and entrenchments. Garbage in, garbage out.

I was just thinking the same as I was reading through these posts. I’ve never met him but have exchanged messages—very polite, upbeat, and genuine. Not sure I understand the skepticism but maybe it’s simply becuase he’s super hot.

I quit network tv years ago; I don’t even know what I’ve missed. But sounds like not much.

As a Catholic, I spent a solid decade of my adult life fully immersed in the religion, utilizing its prayer traditions and sacraments as exercises to achieve personal spiritual growth (which to me is the whole point). I could have picked any religion for this (Christian and non-Christian), but having been raised in the faith, it was the most familiar path; I didn’t have to break through cultural barriers, learn new vocabularies, faith traditions, etc. I was fortunate to find spiritual directors within the church to guide me (there aren’t many and they’re hard to find). It was a fruitful journey. What I learned (for me) was that, beyond providing individual pastoral care and spiritual direction, the institution of the church is largely unimportant if the goal is personal spiritual growth and maturity. I believe Francis fully understood this. Since I’ve never looked to the church (or any religion) for approval, acceptance, or belonging, I don’t care what the pope has to say about social issues (except insofar as it enlightens society); that’s all power and politics. But I’m hoping the pope continues Francis’s emphasis on pastoral care, because in my view that is the only mission this or any religion should be focused on. Everything else is temporal. I hope I’m right about this (and that this post doesn’t violate forum rules); otherwise, its eternal damnation for me 😆

I see him as a compromise—clinging to doctrine while maintaining the pastoral and social justice tone set by Francis. Great things could come from this, of course, but I think he was a safe pick.

Congratulations @Pd1_jap; you’ll never regret being fit! A bit off topic but I really don’t understand what the term daddies means. Age? Body type? Attitude? Some combination of these?

I’m in full agreement.