FaustOust

And what does a “non-awkward relationship roadblock” look like? It sounds like a means of prolonging a provider-client relationship by manipulating the client. If so, how does that benefit the client?

I will preface my comment with the fact that I am new to this forum and what I have read in my short time here might not be representative of the dialogue that has happened historically. However, it seems to me, although not from everyone, that there is a fair number of providers complaining about clients or would-be clients and a fair amount of clients complaining about providers, even if they never hired the individual, and sometimes appearing rather mean to an outsider. Sometimes otherwise helpful advice is delivered in a tone that suggests chastisement and sarcasm. I sense ancient feuds, obscured sensitivities, and unhealed wounds; it appears that people in the forums are triggered by a history unknown to me. Maybe I am just naive to think that we should be a community of gay men who can treat each other with dignity and respect, regardless of what our differences may be. At the risk of inviting snark to come out of the woodwork with this post, can’t we all just get along?

Difficult to schedule but to me he was truly amazing. The absolute best.

Do you think a regular client-provider scenario can be a type of relationship? By comparison, although I’m in a completely different line of work, I have clients and I think about them all the time as I must look out for their best interests, not just when I see them or when they call me for something. I always feel as if I am cultivating a relationship. When I see or read something that may be of interest or concern, I inform them. I may sometimes inquire how they are doing or send cards at holidays, birthdays, etc. I am acquainted with some of their likes and dislikes. I am often in social settings with them or even their families. So it’s never an out-of-sight out of mind transaction. Wouldn’t it be beneficial to a provider to think the same way?

How does one know if an OF creator or porn actor is also available for hire? Should you contact them through OF or social media or is the industry all on RM?

Other than being hygienic, on time, and not haggling over his fee, what can I as a client do to make my experience with a provider as pleasant and easy as possible for the provider, so that he would welcome me as a repeat client, particularly in overnight or multi-day engagements?

Thank you. I guess I should realize that for them it is likely only about the benjamin$ and just try to enjoy what I am paying for.

Should I be concerned about a provider who has lied about his reason for being late, shaved a few years off his age, or modified some details about his background, but otherwise provided a good experience? While I think that each of us is entitled to a little bit of reinvention as life progresses, and in this case I assume the lies were designed to help build my positive impression of him, I am more concerned about the untruths around the delay/logistics of our meeting. In other aspects of my life, I have followed the principle that if someone is deceptive about small things, chances are they will be deceptive about the big or important things, too. Should that standard apply here when, if you actually think about it, the whole transaction is based upon a sort of deception? Nonetheless, I think that I have to be able to trust a provider, a stranger whom I have literally invited into an intimate space of my life, and the little white lies worry me, even when the overall experience was good. How should I respond?

Does a good connection during a boyfriend experience have to have any basis in reality or are good providers just good actors involved in a monetary transaction? Should I even care whether he is acting? I’m newer at this and don’t want to appear foolish.