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In my personal experience there are two ways in which this happens.
 
The first and most common way, is after a shared intimacy, after a passionate session or few years of getting to know one another, he looks at you with a glint in his eye, says "I fucking love you, man" slaps your ass, smiling and moves unto something else. In my experience, when a session goes the way I want it to go, I fall in love a little, I feel butterflies a little, I cherish that special moment looking into each other's eyes, which makes it very easy for me to imagine he will also feel that.
 
There is no promise, no contract, no attachment, no exchange of vows, and more importantly, no benefiting from the other's vulnerability. There is only love, encounter, tenderness, passion, all lived powerfully in a magic moment, then forgotten, till next time.
 
The other way is when after one or many sessions you notice the client suffering, tentative, demanding a lot of attention, constantly trying to break the pre agreed privacy boundaries, asking for reassurance, information, promises, or a lot of time outside of the time you spend together. Sooner or later when together, he will break down and in a very emotional way he will say something like: "I have not been doing well, I am suffering so much because of my feelings for you... I love you so much that I _______". You get my drift.
 
In this case, I listen attentively and compassionately and explain that under these circumstances I am unable to continue seeing him because that would only be damaging to him. I clarify that because of my professional ethical rules I will never -under any circumstance- start an emotional partnership with a client because I believe the power imbalances and mutual transferences and expectations will make the relationship unhealthy from the very beginning. I then strongly encourage him to look for professional help, someone with whom he can talk about this. Not another escort, who might potentially take advantage of his vulnerability, but a psychologist who might be better equipped to help him through that.
 
I tend to prefer not to wait till all this happens and look for the signs of emotional attachment before they further develop.
 
I have no problem with having a passionate, romantic boyfriend experience. Love traveling to romantic places with dear old clients of mine, with whom I can allow myself to be vulnerable and absolutely available because they understand, respect and celebrate the boundaries and nature of our relationship. What I won't do under any circumstance is keep seeing a client and charging him even if I know well that I will never be able to give him what he believes he wants. Making money out of heartbreak, to me, is just not an ethical thing.
 
To me love and vulnerability have never been a problem. They are the goal.
 
Attachement, expectations, blurred boundaries and emotional exploitation are an absolute no no. As soon as they show up, I will end the relationship.

December 2, 2015: The day I first considered engaging in bestiality.

December 2, 2015: The day I first considered engaging in bestiality.

December 2, 2015: The day I first considered engaging in bestiality.

December 2, 2015: The day I first considered engaging in bestiality.

I had a regular fuck buddy where the sex was really good. We were about to set up a time to meet up and he asked me, "are you into anything kinky? wanna try something new?"
 
I was pretty vanilla at the time, and I told him I'd get back to him. I thought about different fantasies, role playing, etc. that might turn me on. I ended up coming up with one thing that seemed incredibly forbidden, totally taboo... even frightening. I got back to him the next day and I said, "when I'm fucking you... and I'm getting close to cumming... I want to kiss you hard and say 'I love you' and when we're done know it was just a term used in the heat of the moment - and after don't freak out or be awkward about it - and know I'm definitely not looking for a relationship, but I kind of think it would be nice to say as I haven't said it in a long time." He was open to it. (He also told me a fantasy he had which we tried one time that I'll save for a different post .)
 
Well, we did it - I did it... and afterwards it was totally fine. It was nice to say, and it made me cum my brains out because it made the experience much more intense. We stayed fuck buddies for a while after, with the sex eventually fizzling out - never going back to using that word except for that one time, and I had no real desire to use it again on him after that.
 
If part of the fantasy is saying it - it should be made clear beforehand that using the word is just that - a fantasy. I have yet to have a discussion about this with a client saying this to me, but should it come up (before or after being used), my approach would be that of flattery and empathy. I might choose to play down any discomfort he may have after the fact and follow it with an honest discussion of whether that word is something that we both would feel comfortable being used, the extent of that comfort and drawing clear boundaries.
 
Sometimes we need to feel loved - other times we need to give love. Someone once told me, "sometimes the best gift you can give someone is to accept their gift." Roll with it, but like I said, have an honest discussion about it - try not to dismiss it or make it seem wrong or bad.

A while back, an escort of very fine ethics told me he couldn't see me anymore because we had "become too close". He thought my thank you notes, tips, and small favors meant I was falling in love. I wasn't. I moved on, but always wondered what I had said... Now, when I'm getting to know a guy who might become a regular, I tell him I'll treat him well because that's what I'm comfortable with. That's all it means. I want a boyfriend experience --not a boyfriend.

A while back, an escort of very fine ethics told me he couldn't see me anymore because we had "become too close". He thought my thank you notes, tips, and small favors meant I was falling in love. I wasn't. I moved on, but always wondered what I had said... Now, when I'm getting to know a guy who might become a regular, I tell him I'll treat him well because that's what I'm comfortable with. That's all it means. I want a boyfriend experience --not a boyfriend.

Quite a while back, I had an (unpaid) one-night stand with a guy who was just passing through town. The circumstances were such that we were both totally clear that there was no future for us. However, for the few hours that we were together, we had an intense connection, sexually, as well as emotionally, as our senses of humor were perfectly synced and our pillow-talk was unusually candid. During that short period, there was no world outside of him, and I sensed that he was equally focused on me. Even in the moment, I knew that I was in love, but I knew that it would be over when I walked him to the door. I don't remember his name, or have any recollection of what he looked like, but I will never forget the time that I was "in love for five minutes." I cherish it.

A while back, an escort of very fine ethics told me he couldn't see me anymore because we had "become too close". He thought my thank you notes, tips, and small favors meant I was falling in love. I wasn't. I moved on, but always wondered what I had said... Now, when I'm getting to know a guy who might become a regular, I tell him I'll treat him well because that's what I'm comfortable with. That's all it means. I want a boyfriend experience --not a boyfriend.

A while back, an escort of very fine ethics told me he couldn't see me anymore because we had "become too close". He thought my thank you notes, tips, and small favors meant I was falling in love. I wasn't. I moved on, but always wondered what I had said... Now, when I'm getting to know a guy who might become a regular, I tell him I'll treat him well because that's what I'm comfortable with. That's all it means. I want a boyfriend experience --not a boyfriend.

If you're still looking for the source of that quote, try Pascal. From Wikipedia, about a TV show named "The Heart Has Its Reasons":
 


Comes from Blaise Pascal, a 17th-century French author, who said, « Le cœur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît point » ("The Heart Has Its Reasons that reason does not know").

Mike, if we ever get together and I say I love you, please respond "I love you too" that will snap me back to reality. If that doesn't do it, I suggest saying: By the way, it is an extra $50 if i say: I love you. I can guarantee that I will not love you at that point.

Whispering "You can cum in my ass" during the session is not clear enough. It sounds a little like hot talk to me. It sounds like an endearment you say while making love.
 
Saying "If you are going to cum during the session and if you can cum while fucking me with a condom, that would be my absolute preference. That turns me on immensely." before the session is a much more efficient way of making it more likely.
 
In the end, of course, escorts are people. Sometimes they might be able to cum like this, sometimes they won't. It has absolutely nothing to do with your worth as a bottom.
 
Also, if it is not talked beforehand, the escort might just be protecting you, thinking about your safety or thinking you might thoroughly enjoy seeing him cum the way people cum in porn, you pull out and shoot where it can be seen. However, wondering why past escorts haven't done it is not useful. The only useful thing would be starting to communicate clearly and effectively before the session.
 
 
It may be a little unrelated, but it cracks me up sometimes how some clients are a little distanced from the physical reality of sex. Maybe out of a lack of experience, they regard the escort's body as a machine that can perform things on demand. This is always very evident when it comes to the escort orgasming. To give a few examples:
 
Client receives a massage for an hour, then turns over, touches the escort's leg and then says: "Cum on my chest now".
 
Client takes 25 minutes to open up, and when finally the cock goes in, after two really slow pumps says: "Cum now, I won't be able to take it longer".
 
Client tries to suck cock but deems it too big to go into his mouth, instead says: "Cum now, but come inside my throat".
 
In my case in order for me to cum while fucking someone it only happens after a LOOOONG time fucking in a very barbaric way. Very, very few bottoms can take it and if a bottom is not relaxed and experienced trying to cum inside him would only be incredibly hurtful.
 
It's not for everyone.
 
However if someone tells me during the hiring process that I must cum in his ass or else, I am very likely to pass on the session. I don't negotiate or promise sex acts or fluids. Not only that is illegal in my country, it is also de-humanizing and I find that it destroys the natural flow of intimacy and fun.
 
As with every other lover with whom I might have sex, I will pay great attention to your limits, suggestions and fantasies but will abandon myself to the natural flow of the passion. So far I have found it works really well for me and people that are compatible with me.

I've wondered if there is someone with multiple personality disorder with different handles taunting others and keeping the threads going! The angel, the antagonist, the bitch, the hot boy everyone wants but no one has met, the writing diarrhea guy...all one person. Spooky. Of course, that's just my conspiracy theory disorder kicking in

This happens to me too if the condom doesn't fit or the reservoir at the tip is too small. You need to try a lot of different brands until you find one that fits just right. There are as many variations in condoms as there are in men's shoes. Would you rather wear your favorite running shoes or the wingtips you've had in the back of your closet since college?

Pay for sex...

Boy, it's nice to be able to agree with the Baron for a change.
 
I can't comment on "Sugar Daddy" per se, but I can comment on "Sugar Friend."
 
Another word that I don't like that hits the same idea is "polyamory."
 
Or arguably, another word that describes the same thing is dysfunction, but if so I have set up some pretty enduring dysfunctional relationships with clients.
 
I've had and have a number of clients that I've known for, in a number of cases, over a decade. The boundaries between "client" and "friend" and "on the clock" and "off the clock" are fluid in that all of them at one point or another have crossed the line, all in different ways. It sounds like self-serving bullshit, but I can say some of my best friends are clients, just like I know teachers and business people and other professionals who can say some of their best friends are colleagues. In some cases the paid relationship morphed into simply friendships, in other cases it endures as "paid" relatioships with dollars and strings attached, at least most of the time.
 
The "Sugar Daddy" model is tried and true throughout the ages and the downsides are the ones Baron points to. In particular, it is likely to have a relatively short shelf life. "Sugar Friend" is a different thing, and I think one main difference is that it allows both parties way more psychological (not to mention physical) space in the context of a sort of committed relationship, although the commitment is never formalized in any way. That's actually probably a good thing too, because the commitment to continue being "friends with benefits" is basically as good as the relationship itself, which I think is as it should be.
 
It also probably helps that I'm a bit over the hill and my clients are even more mature than I am. Yeah, it sucks to get older. But guess what? In youth and beauty, wisdom is rare.

...have balls. The 'roids turned them into raisins.

Not to knock Ryan in any way, but the OP asked for a "huge cock". To me, "huge" means someone like JLA. Keep in mind that he's 6'3" as you mentally measure this.

Not to knock Ryan in any way, but the OP asked for a "huge cock". To me, "huge" means someone like JLA. Keep in mind that he's 6'3" as you mentally measure this.

Not to knock Ryan in any way, but the OP asked for a "huge cock". To me, "huge" means someone like JLA. Keep in mind that he's 6'3" as you mentally measure this.

Also consider Spencer Whitman....GREAT Guy and BIG!