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This is great advice but I guess I should have been more clear that I'm specifically talking about how to talk about money/payment. Like I am just unclear if it's ok to just say "of course I understand this will cost more" or "I'm obviously happy to pay for.." or things like that. I'm trying to remember how exactly we talked about it in the beginning but I don't recall. If I remembered, I would just try to use that same language.

I've been seeing a really great guy fairly regularly, and I'd like to ask him to make videos for me. The problem is, I am not sure how to talk about payment. I know that I should of course pay for somethinng extra like that, but I don't know how to handle that. I know I am probably overthinking this, as he's a very chill guy and I know it's unlikely that I'll offend him or whatever, but talking about the money stuff feels very awkward to me. There;s other things than videos that I'd like to ask about also, which I would obviously not expect as free bonuses, but this seemed like the easiest example. I have posted about similar issues here before. I have some difficulties with social interactions and communication (some have suggested that it's a bit of autism, or even asbergers,) and I have found it extremely helpful to come here and ask for advice. Yall have been very helpful to me so far!

I've had really good luck with rentmen, but am interested in seeing who else is out there. I know about friendboy, but are there any other sites (or methods) that yall would recommend?

And after all of this, the guy ghosted me! On Saturday night we agreed to 2pm today, he would host. I messaged him around 9 this morning, saying "good morning, still good for 2pm today?" And never heard back. But I'm glad I made the original post anyway, y'all really gave me some very helpful information and opinions.

Wow yeah as socially awkward as I can occasionally be, I DEFINITELY know not to be this guy lol I do like to have a chance to put out my interests and requests ahead of time, I also enjoy it if texts get hit or flirty, but I certainly don't want to monopolize anyone's time. I would like a way to say, basically, "hey are you up for some text conversation beforehand to lay out interests and requests, possibly set a little vibe, possibly a little sex talk, I am willing to pay a bit extra for that if you'd like, or also you can just say no you're not open to more than a basic introduction text" but, y'know, a little more succinctly.

Yeah generally my first/second messages are exactly like what you said.

This is great, thank you

Your whole first paaragraph is EXTREMELY helpful, thank you. This definitely isn't my first time, but it's my first time with him, and that always brings a bit of nerves (not in a bad way, but, you know what I mean.) I know some guys are happy to text quite a bit beforehand, some not so much, sometimes I have a hard time getting a feeling for which is the case. So it's nice to hear how other people handle it, that gives me some frame of reference. Thanks!

I thought about saying something like, hey would you mind if we had a bit of conversation over text before meeting, I'm happy to send you a bit of a deposit first if you'd like, I don't expect free labor

I'm seeing a new guy tomorrow, I contacted him Saturday night. I gave him my usual quick two-sentence about me/what I'm interested in that I send when reaching out. I'd like to talk to him a bit more before we meet tomorrow. I can be a little shy on the spot and sometimes I find it easiest to express specifics via text ahead of time. A couple of times it's turned into very hot back-and-forth. However, I do want to be respectful of providers' time and I don't feel entitled to free labor. This feels like a silly question, but as someone with a bit of the ol' social anxiety, anyone have any suggestions? On how to request some pre-meeting interaction without being a pest? Y'all have been really helpful with my questions before, thank you!

I am not usually very good at asking for what I want. Part of the reason I decided to start meeting with pros was so I could hopefully feel less shy about doing so, but it can still be difficult for me. I met with a guy a few weeks ago who I gave a few very brief general sentences about what I was looking for. When we met, the chemistry was amazing, it was almost like he was reading my mind. I'm seeing him again tomorrow. Is it ok to ask him if I can send him a few links to porn that I particularly love (or screenshots) to convey more of what I'm intersted in? During our time together and a few texts since then, he has genuinely seemed interested in what I enjoy and want. I don't want to come across like I'm expecting him to do homework, but, yknow.

Thanks, yeah I did go look through and they were all from differnet profiles with names that weren't obviously bots. Should have thought to do that before I asked here lol

I've found someone in rentmen who's got me very interested. He's got 151 reviews, total score 5 stars. Initially I thought this was a really good sign but now I'm thinking, like, that can't be right. Is this even possible? Or a red flag for bullshit?

Sure! Dominik Ward and Donnato, both from rentmen