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The issue is I'm in a less populated town in terms of providers, so they're a little harder to come by lol. But I do appreciate everything that you've said.

Thank you for plainly laying this out. I am an overthinker and very prone to falling down rabbit holes. I will admit that your fifth point about the murky is kind of the hope I guess. But a blend of the third and fourth points should be what I work towards.

I am grateful for that. But I guess the perspective is that I need to remove myself a lot until I get my head on straight?

There are absolutely no sexual involvements now. Id say theres some money involvement, and there was more historically (i.e. I've helped him with his rent occassionally) but hes also aware of what's going on my life, so over the past few months, hes never really asked for money, and i havent really given him any. I started the conversation last fall, and hired him a few times after that. Then in January I just kind of stopped hiring him, but we still were hanging out, and we never really discussed it again. Yes, you are correct in your assumption. Like he's constantly talking about all of his hookups. And to be clear, I'm not bothered that he's promiscuous, I'm bothered that I'm not included. I know no means no, and it's why I haven't bothered pushing the issue with him. This is all my burden to bear, I'm just not sure how. And i will take your suggestion to my therapist when we meet next week.

Thank you for sharing your story. I do appreciate it. And i agree woth you. I wish you luck on your journey.

I wholeheartedly agree that no means no. And thats why I havent forced the issue regarding sex anymore. Or dating, though that was a minor want and not a big deal to me. As for the quoted part, thats currently the issue I'm having, and im struggling to separate the two. I do want him in my life, but I also think its not fair to him or myself to be feeling some type of way and not being able to separate it out or at least have a conversation about how im feeling (though that thought terrifies me on other levels). I have a therapy appointment next week and this will probably be the main point of discussion lol.

I do believe him, I guess my issue is just reconciling the fact that what I want is different than what I want, which is my burden to bear. The ordeal I referenced didnt have anything to do with the current situation, but it was an ordeal, and did leave me with some unresolved trauma. I am overthinking a lot of things, and I'm aware of that fact, I think one of the issues is making the mental transition from the fantasy of hiring an escort to not having that fantasy anymore. I'm 35 and hes 32, though he won't admit that lol. And I would say yes my age does have something to do with my way of thinking. I do appreciate your insights thus far @MscleLovr and you @WoolCave

This thread has been very illuminating to me, and I wanted to give a summary of my story and see people's opinions. I first started seeing an escort in January 2025, the first meeting didn't go great (he had the flu) but after that they started going really well. As in I would pay for an hour, and end up staying 6+ hours and we would just hang out and watch movies. I did help him a little bit financially off the clock (like a few hundred here and there to buy things for his house because his heirlooms got damaged). Over the next year, he did ask for money, but it was airways a pay now, perform later situation that he did always follow through on. In January 2026, this changed. He asked for money, and i told him that I needed to be paid back, as I was going on a long trip i needed to save for (spoiler alert, he never did pay me back, which I'm rather ambivalent about, honestly). That time up until about a month ago, I would give him money if he needed it, and if i said I needed paid back, he paid me back 90% of the time. I'd say in March we started transitioning into being friends, and we would spend every day together, and have since. At this point, he's doing everything in his power to not borrow money from me, as he's aware of my financial situation. For example, today he had rent problems, and i offered to help a little bit, which he flatly refused, but he did ask if I could go with him to sell some items he was sentimentally attached to. As a probably relevant side note, while it has been diminishing lately, we have maintained a pretty physically intimate relationship, such as cuddling, or constantly having a hand on a thigh. I guess my problem is two fold. And for context, I have zero dating history besides a 12 year toxic situationship. But the first problem is I'm developing feelings for him, and he has explicitly said he's not looking for a relationship. The second problem is that I would like to have non transactional sex with him, and ive mentioned it twice. The first time in May, he said he was open to it, but was a little wary because he was staying to care for me and he didn't want to make it weird. The second time, last month, he said he'd prefer to not be in that situation. Let me first say, that I'm not going to push him to have sex or be in a relationship if he doesn't want to. My questions that I would appreciate advice on are 1) im not upset that he's sexually active both on and off the clock, but he's just not with me, and that does bother me, and i don't know how to reconcile that fact. 2) i don't know if I'm overly invested in him and have an uneven relationship with him, and whether I should back off to figure myself out, or if I should try to have a conversation with him to define our relationship. My fear is that I've conflated how we are now with the sexual intimacy we had while I was hiring him.

Hello everyone, Forgive me if I'm a little vague on details, but I'm not sure what's allowed here. I met an escort several times last year, and we transitioned into being friends at the beginning of this year. Since then, we've been hanging out a lot (nearly every day since March), and i developed feelings for him. We have talked about being in a relationship, and he said he wasnt interested in one right now, which I respect, and i havent brought it up since. I do have somewhat obsessive thoughts, which I'm currently keeping in check, but I do want more out of him than what hes willing and capable of giving. Ive only been in love with one other person in my life, and that was a strange complicated fourteen year ordeal. Also, one of my biggest laments at the moment is that I've always had self esteem issues regarding my body, and hes incredibly active with everyone but me. I dont know how to move past these feelings, without completely cutting him out, which I dont want to do. But maybe thats just creating a vicious cycle for me. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how I should proceed. Feel free to ask questions or dm me. Thanks!

Hello everyone! Does anyone have any experiences with RussianFlame? He's coming to my town, and I'm interested. Based on the amount of reviews he has, I'm assuming that he's had a name change. https://rent.men/RussianFlame

I would be incredibly wary. I just had a pretty bad experience with him via text. Feel free to dm me if you want more info.

Hello everyone! xxxREBELxxx is coming to my town soon, and i was wondering if anyone would be able to share their experiences with him? Feel free to dm me. https://rent.men/xxxREBELxxx

I did just reach out to him to ask some questions, and then came here and found this.

He had told me he's got a couple options for a duo. Though I passed on those for the time being. We have a session booked soon, so i can let you know about it after it happens.

Hello everyone! I was wondering if anyone had any experiences with this provider, either him solely or with one of his duos. Feel free to dm me! https://rent.men/HealingTouchOne