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I'm not entirely convinced a double standard on cosmetic surgery exists anymore. We simply have not had a male version of Joan Rivers. I was thinking, if Mickey Rourke had been a similar comic, he would have taken similar heat. Even without comedy, he took a lot of bashing in the press because of what he did to his once handsome face. His career definitely ended among casting directors. The show business industry and the public know when someone "goes too far." It becomes a lot harder to find jobs and maintain respect. There is a growing list of samples where this is quite the case. Madonna is not going to go broke anytime soon, but there was a media shitstorm over her most recent facelift. It got so bad, she felt the need to publicly lash back. The world has its way of telling you that something isn't quite right. OTOH, no one has had more cosmetic surgery than Jane Fonda, and I've never heard much ridicule for "going too far." Even at (almost 85), she's looking good enough to be cast again.

He reminds me of my first love in high school. A very hard and difficult crush. That family is so talented. I love Alexander in everything I've seen him in. I did not know about this one. Thanks for the head's up.

I've been gay since early grade school. The first time I saw a naked cock in the gym showers, ding went the bell. Couldn't wait to see another one. Couldn't wait to lick one. I played "doctor" with several cousins, and had the chance to smell female and male genitals long before puberty. I knew then that cock was for me. Coming out to family was not easy in those days, but I will never forget how free I felt after I did. Free as a bird. I think of my coming out as a very personal achievement, an early moment in my life I look upon with deep pride. Young kids today seem to have it so much easier. They're smarter, and the people around them are more understanding and compassionate. I'm very happy that progress has been made.

Please don't knock the girls with a dream. 😎

I did not say that. I said "some prison gang members look hot and sexy in the movies." Typically, it's a hot looking actor to start with, handsome face, nice body. The tattoos are like a costume, and they often work for a bad-boy character. Sometimes, that can be sexy.

I enjoy those things, too, but I don't need a legal contract to enjoy them, especially at 80. I should have chosen my words more carefully. I apologize. However, when things go wrong, the headline above is not something I would want as a famous billionaire. At 80, with fame and great money at the ready, why invite trouble with a legal contract? I guess I might have more respect for this relationship had there been a pre-nup. That legal contract makes sense to me. If you are wealthy, and you truly fall in love, then designate a loving number in your will, or in your pre-nup if things don't work out. I just don't see the need for a marriage, especially to someone 40 years younger.

With growing narcissism, it will only get worse. Not sure what to say about double standards. Will anyone ever be treated equally? Hollywood is mostly run by immature older men who love their young-girl fantasies. Good luck changing that.

I have no idea what that means.

I love the look of beautiful skin. My eyes and cock are not attracted to the human body looking like a NYC subway train from the 70's. While some prison gang members look hot and sexy in the movies, I doubt I would pay to see it up close. The thug look is not my thing. Body art is not the turn-on for me. The turn-on is plain, simple naked man skin. I don't have a problem with moderate ink tampering. I find some tattoos clever and sexy. I definitely have visual issues with guys who cover entire limbs, or, especially the neck and face. Tattoos on the cock? No thanks. Never.

That sounds very 1970's to me. More and more men are having cosmetic surgery these days. The desire to look younger, especially around the eyes, invites all genders. Those in the public eye must endure more scrutiny for sure. But given how narcissistic our society is now, these vanity issues are very commonplace. If Joan was anything, she was indeed a survivor. Her story is intense. A ton of pain. Much like a movie, or a single performance, it often boils down to a simple thumbs-up or thumbs down. When Joan took her hate comedy to the Red Carpet, pretending to be some fashion authority when she was not, and criticizing her show business brethren, many saw that as a last straw, low blow. Public career choices on top of the surgeries turned her into an easy punching bag. She always made it very clear, she wanted money. More money. She defined her life by working and making money. When money is the ultimate goal, there is no quitting. Joan had strong motivation to fight back, no matter how badly the surgery criticism got.

In simple terms, I suppose this can be the only answer. Money does change a person, and he's had his wealth for a very long time. It's definitely a world quite far from my own.

I disagree with that. Much like Michael Jackson, at a certain point the cosmetic surgery went too far, and hers became a punchline within the industry. People who like to see successful people fall and be ridiculed had a field day, especially the folks who disliked her "hate" humor. Madonna's recent facelift had a similar effect on the industry. Cosmetic surgery is now mainstream in America. People recognize its ability to work magic, especially on severe cases. However, in show business, if you cross the threshold of what people call and consider "normal," into the realm of "alien," it can have a devastating effect on public perception, and it can fuel the gossip mill. .Not all men age well, or grow into a handsome "character." Oftentimes, male celebrities who engage in cosmetic surgery find their careers over. The only women who get called "grotesque" are the women who go too far and become grotesque. There are countless examples of female cosmetic surgery that gets labeled as "success." The number of cases that fall into the "grotesque" category are quite small, but they tend to really stand out in the crowd.

Why would an 80-year-old gay billionaire get "married" to a 30-year-old? Sounds really stupid and mentally fucked up to me. What on earth is lacking in a human connection, that one would need to get "married" at the age of 80?

I'm not so convinced it's as simple as that. Yes, misogyny exists, but Joan always had an angry edge. It got much worse as she aged. Not unexpected when your mother calls you "ugly" from an early age. Joan had some serious baggage, and then she turned her face into a handbag.

Being a Marine stays with you forever. Can't imagine being a woman in the Corps at that time.

Sadly, her comedy turned a lot of industry people off. Many folks in the industry branded her mean-spirited, and cancelled her before cancel was a thing. She was Don Rickles on steroids, except people knew Rickles was joking. Many in Hollywood did not feel the same about Joan's jokes. There are many videos on YouTube showing Joan on the celebrity attack. It is not pretty. Even her daughter could not stop her from hitting below the belt. Joan had a fighting life and career. Her edge grew to be too sharp to soften.

Super nice body. Love the name, too. Far too many aren't sane.

Joan would often surprise me, too.

I recently saw a lengthy interview with Bea Arthur on YouTube, speaking about real life. She happened to say in the interview, "It wouldn't work!" She said, "Even with writing by Susan Harris, it just wouldn't work." I got the impression that Bea preferred to live alone. If money was no issue, I'd probably jump to live with 3 good friends. Love and companionship means everything in life. People of all ages live all over the world, and find a way to deal with common challenges. As of today, health care would be my biggest concern. I could not imagine giving up the doctors I currently have, and starting anew. But if I had the 3-4 right friends, I might say fuck it.

That's fair. I want to believe in redemption. I did say something similar. I'm not a fan of David Geffen, but I am so grateful for GMHC. Every little bit helps, given what gay men have been through in the last 40 years. You're a better man than I am. For sure.

For some reason, this ended up in my Feed today. I remember seeing Joan's Thanksgiving spread, which was quite glamorous. I think I also saw her give a tour to Hoda and Kathie Lee. This is the first time I've seen it like this. A very special piece of NYC, and fitting for woman like Joan.

I just found out that Colman Domingo is in fact gay. I had no idea. No wonder he was so good at playing gay (and straight) in The Four Seasons.

The invasion of commercials on streaming is insane. No matter what you pay, they want more money. All of my services have been gifted, so a beggar can't be too choosy. I absolutely hate the commercials.

LOL. I used to be charming. Sometimes incredibly. These days, if you want charm, show me the money.

The buzz surrounding the Netflix show was intense in the beginning. I watched S1, and found it interesting. Somewhere along the line beyond S1, I felt the story had jumped the shark. I couldn't stop rolling my eyes, and I grew tired of the dark hallways with flash lights attempt at scaring me. I stopped watching. I was surprised they brought some version to Broadway. Somebody likes to gamble.