Jason Dutch

Now we're talking! This is better than any savings acct APY I've seen (or at least been eligible for) for a while. Nice.

Travelling alone for escorting work can be super fun and adventurous but can be really lonely. Travelling with another escort can be also fun, but inevitably creates some logistical knots. If I'm travelling with family, a partner, a good friend, I decide in advance whether I'm going to work on any of the days and usually I prefer not to work at all during some of those trips. Also, not all destinations are worth the effort due to being remote or without the proper infrastructure

Only ever even considered it for street pick up situations

Thanks for this! I'm also going to Vegas for my first ever visit and will be working - someone recommended the Flamingo to me so that's where I booked a few nights. Anybody have experience with meeting up there?

Brad and I shot a scene or two and have gotten to know each other a bit since I started living part-time in Buffalo. He's a wonderful, masculine, thick 'n' sexy, professional daddy bear with a hot firm belly that's grown in since his studio days. He certainly does love to chat, which I for one always enjoyed. He has a strong and bright personality, but he's really just there to please and do what's expected of him whether in porn or massage. I know this is long after OP's visit, but figured I'd drop my thoughts in case someone else goes searching.

Thank you both @Decatur Guy and @Archangel

Once I've locked in time and place with a client, I always say "My only request is that we both be showered and brush our teeth ahead of time so we can get right into the action." Sometimes I ask if they prefer I do or don't wear deoderant depending on the conversation we've had. I'd estimate 80% of my clients prefer that I don't wear deoderant and I figure I can always put some on but I can't easily take it off. So if we haven't discussed it, I always have some in my bag and take no offense at all if my client requests or suggests that I put some on. As for trimming, I've had a few clients request that I shave completely which is not on the table. I shoot porn every week and being hairy with a bush is part of what my fans come for. I do my own light trim regularly and I'd need someone to offer a substantial rate increase to consider anything more dramatic.

Just on a break right now while I help my mom through chemo. Thanks for checking in.

As others have said, it takes a lot of prep to get ready for a session of any length so that's built into the higher price for a shorter time. Depends on the city but typically my I ask $300 for the first hour and then $200 for each hour after that. I don't advertise half hours but if someone requests one, I usually price them for $200 outcall and $180 incall.

Ahahaha lol you know what that might be so

I don't mind texting a bit back and forth with new connections, it can be kind of fun and hot. That said, experience has taught me that people who are serious about booking don't tend to belabor the exchange though - they want to ask any basics not covered in the ad and zero in on a time, bada bing bada boom. First time clients sometimes need to bat around the idea of meeting up a bit more vis a vis some horny texting, pic exchange, maybe a 5 minute call. There are also regular clients who like to check in here and there and maybe share a recent horny story or fantasy. I have one or two guys who text me almost everyday, and I try to keep up because I'm fond of them and want to meet again when I'm in their town. Overall, I find it hard to keep up with the expected pace of messages. People (not just clients) treat texts like a customer service chat! I've had a few people get pissed if I take even 5 minutes to respond, or hit me with the classic: Maybe it's my ADHD but I often feel way out of sync with texting culture. I've always treated texts more like emails than phone calls — I'll respond when I can. That doesn't cut it anymore though... Yes, I understand the expectation of a quick response with clients/inquiries, especially if I'm signalling that I'm online and available. So i try to be quick in my responses. But regulars, guys on hookup apps, even friends (especially younger friends) seem to expect an immediate response to every message (even inane ones) without regard to what else I may have on the go. Am I really supposed to write back immediately to some horny guy 35 miles away who texts me at 8:06am to say, "nice ass, how much" Am I supposed to tell present company to take his dick out my mouth cuz I "gotta do a phone thing real quick" every time I buzz? If I'm literally driving across the city to see you at this very moment, am I rude for ignoring five horny texts about all the things you want to do?

It depends on present company and context of course, but I think your instinct towards discretion makes perfect sense. When I've run into clients "in the wild" I've normally taken the lead when I've thought it was safe/appropriate. Once I ran into one of my sweetest, kindest foot subs while both of us were alone shopping at the grocery store. When I greeted him with a smile, he was astonished but soooooo happy haha.

I use escort, sex worker, and, in my day to day, I honestly love the word hooker

The call to "expose" escorts sharing information is totally irresponsible and honestly pretty hypocritical given the forum that we're on. Please take a moment to consider what you're suggesting. Mr Number is just one of several safety methods used by workers to protect themselves in the course of offering unique talents, experiences, pleasures and expertise. It's part of a centuries-old (at least) tradition of informal knowledge networks and bad date lists and meant to protect escorts. Things have changed in some places, and naturally, I acknowledge that clients take their share of risks as well when arranging to meet and meeting providers. But in most contexts, sex workers of any stripe take on much greater physical social, legal, personal and financial risks. As someone above said, many (mannnyyyyyyyy) people messaging escorts never intend to meet or pay. Every day, people text me out of the blue with expectations of rapid, extensive, unpaid sexting or phone sex, or worse. While most of the clients out there are genuinely good people trying to to do business, there are unfortunately a significant number of "clients" who are not... People who seek or choose to stalk, harass, rape, assault, doxx, scam, harm, and, in extreme cases, even kill sex workers. Not to mention, SW remains illegal in most places and police around the world still expend heinous quantities of cash in their efforts to entrap and charge sex workers. Perhaps an example would help. I am based in Toronto. I was approached, by online message and text message, by Bruce MacArthur, whom most people will know was a sadistic serial killer preying on gay men in Toronto for at least a decade and who killed at least one sex worker and brutalized another with a metal pipe. If I had not cross checked his info with my peers at the time, I would not have known about the various red flags that had gone up in the community and would likely have met him. Similarly, somebody I once declined to meet after a cross-check later restrained and raped another provider who was not plugged into these info networks. If someone can't see why tools like this are important, then I suggest they do some deep, deep thinking about their priorities and their capacity for empathy. Of course, I'm not calling anyone on here a killer or a rapist. I love my clients and by and large I've found I can develop mutual trust with a guy independent of any lists or comment boards. The information on sites CoM and MN is ultimately that — information. Escorts (and anyone with the app) can take that info and use it to make safer and better informed decisions — it's not as though you're cancelled forever because one person said you never booked, we all recognize that not every client is going to book. Tbh, I don't think I've ever seen a number that has negative comments from just one provider, and if I did, I would never write someone off based on one or two comments. What's most useful is seeing if there's a pattern of behaviour or red flags that we can take into consideration to protect ourselves. Sorry for the novel, just was feeling aghast that anyone would think this is controversial or worth disparaging

I agree — That looks like a pretty fresh/recent/undressed burn wound and a moderately severe one... To me, the shape, intensity and placement of it make me think it was from a butane torch. IYKYK.

I'm lucky to count him as a friend. Just an awesome and honest person who is totally committed to his craft. Personable, gracious, sexy, smart!

Wow - I live only a few blocks away and had no idea this place existed. Very curious about it.

When a potential client asks me what I'm into I sometimes find it baffling haha... On the occasions that I've shared a few things that I'm genuinely into, I've either not gotten the booking, or we didn't do those things anyway. Escorts often have to be shape shifters and satisfy a range of desires both spoken and unspoken in each client. People often tell me they book me because they want to have fun their way. I'm proud that I seem to hit a home run with most of my clients and push just the right buttons. That in and of itself gets me off - to be prized, to be materially valued, to be desired and told I'm sexy... I'm proud to know that I can get off all different kinds of guys, and that I can get into and enjoy many men and activities that I wouldn't necessarily seek in my private sex life — the situation in and of itself gets me off enough that I can be flexible about the specifics and surprise even myself at who/what I can pull off (or get off!). So in the case of OP, whatever you're into, I'm probably into given the dynamic already at play!

Thanks guys for these awesome stories and memories! And good natured humor haha. Would love to hear more.

I maintained a profile there and checked in often fora few months but traffic really never picked up for the M4M side of things 😕 I let my profile lapse. They also used to run Switter, the mastodon Twitter clone for SW but I think that folded.

I've had many satisfied and enthusiastic clients who tell me they are happy to leave a review only to find that RM doesn't allow them to because they aren't a premium member. Even if they write out a thoughtful review, it now only shows the star rating and a few basic questions. It's really frustrating, because I would love for potential clients to be able to hear from my guys! But alas with RM reviews almost entirely restricted, and sine the new reviews site from this forum is still in the works, there's really nowhere for them to put their thoughts. Many of them are first timers or otherwise discreet guys so I don't feel comfortable pushing them to join a forum like this, much less pay to upgrade their RM, so I guess I'm out of luck 😕

Question for you guys — What is something a provider has done that made the experience stand out for you, perhaps above any others? Or, what's something that a guy has done (or does) that enhances the appointment or the connection? It can be small or large, a one-off or something consistent, just looking for insights and memories about ways an escort has made an otherwise good date into a great date... I saw a similar thread on twitter mostly pitched towards straight hobbyists and there were some really sweet positive responses and great ideas posted in the replies. Thought I'd put it here and see what people said

This was quite the ride. I think where you landed was fair but more so, kudos on how you approached the conversation with him and didn't take advantage of his guilt by giving him nothing or just the 2 that he asked for. You're a dream client, from what I can tell.

Rest in Power. The media did him so dirty.

Strike now or strike later, I am very serious about starting a hustlers union. There are a many SW-led advocacy projects and even some self-styled unions that are mostly women. We should definitely be organizing to build collective power ( issues of labour, criminalization, violence/exploitation, stigma and health, and I believe part of that could mean building worker run platforms/collaboratives that serve us rather than the profit driven sites we are stick with. In the amateur porn sphere for example we have Justfor.fans which is owned and staffed my models/SWers. We could all be better off bu pooling our resources / labour power to secure much needed rights, standards, and more dignified ways of working. Alas, Right now, male SW solidarity remains uncommon and decentralized. The scarcity mentality driven by RM and similar sites (compounded by state criminalization, widespread societal scorn, neoliberal capitalism in general and most recently, our global payment processing overlords) pits us against each other as competitors, fracturing our ability to push for changes and generally driving standards down. Imagine what happens when we can meaningfully harness our collective influence so far but I feel like we are on the precipice of changing that. Taking control of our working conditions doesn’t stop at the platforms either, in my eyes. We would all be better off if a critical mass of providers can establish (or at least push toward) some shared minimum rates/service for example. Lets expand on and safety systems like bad date books, screening tools (much more common for women/femme SWers I have observed) and safety check in systems. We could develop regional networks for mutual aid and travel support/exchange, create infrastructure kn our terms…there’s so much we could do! We are talking and planning about this sometimes in a private forum I run for/with other guys. Providers (and I mean providers only please) DM me if interested.