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Don't be sad, and don't pretend to be happy when you're not. Don't go to bars if you're not going to have fun there. Bars are places where many people pretend to be something they're not anyway.

Right, cheers, thanks a lot.

Sounds like a script for a comedy at the Geffen.  The wheelchair character, the hot butler and so on.

Reminds me why I stay in Cali during the holidays instead of flying 1000 miles to be with family.

Well, considering that I am half Dominican, I think that you should check your American self-serving shit before insulting a country that chances are you've never been to. So feel free to stop talking out of your ass and go fuck yourself, asshole.
Nobody's asking for it.
Stop right there, not worth addressing so many erroneous presumptions about my or my husband's family, nor my vacations, my traveling, nothing.
Thank you. BTW, my in-laws are normally lovely people. just not great travel companions. They have thrown surprise birthday parties for me, they have been there when my husband has been sick or when I've been sick, we get together for Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc, and as I said before, they get along among themselves much better than my own family. Also one of them does have a disability that affects her cognition. They're just not the best people to vacation with.
Here are a few pictures of the "shithole" where I'm staying.

Gentlemen, thank you for your thoughts and for sharing your own horror stories. A rather strange type of solidarity. Much appreciated, though.
Update:
Yep. definitely been to Santo Domingo and it's richer in options. All-inclusive resorts are not necessarily my type of vacation, so this was purely to please my husband. Oddly, I've been to La Romana, and I've hooked up with people there without any issues.
So I wasn't able to flip the Butler, but as I have always said, it doesn't hurt to ask. I asked him if he flips and he said no, but he had a few names of guys who will gladly help. Something in the back of my mind was telling me that there has to be some kind of covert activity. I'm sure there have been this type of requests in the past.
I was referred to a few local providers, two of which I chose, one Dominican, the other Haitian. They were perfect, affordable, safe and hot as hell. Had a great time last night. As everything in the DR, they were versatile in many ways, one of which was that they also sell merchandise, so I got mugs, t-shirts and other souvenirs from them.
Today I saw the Butler and he did notice my change in mood for the better. He was discreet but inquired about "how was my day".
I rarely come to places where this type of things are more underground than easily accessible. I still feel that it was risky to ask the Butler if he flips and for info, but I'm glad I did. This chain of resorts is gay friendly (yes it's also LBT... friendly, but I'm talking about me) and this is an adults-only resort, so I guess that I'm not the first to make this type of request.
I also decided to tell my in-laws that I need "me time", so I haven't seen them. I'm glad that I was able to please my in-laws, please my husband and now please myself. Now I feel like a real vacation.

I’ve had to effectively disown my sisters. When the nephews were young, I made an effort but all very controlled. Separate houses or hotels. I love to travel but there are not that many people I want to spend that much time with. 
 
Guests, like fish, begin to smell after 3 days. The decay time is far quicker with toxic family.

See if you can turn the butler.