just tonight I was texting with a provider visiting my town.....after a couple rounds of polite texting (trying to confirm my sincerity and "real"-ness), I was very specific about what I like and asked if he was ok with it......didn't get an answer over the next couple rounds, so I asked again.......he replied that his fee is for time only and that he "likes a lot of things".......I was impressed with his professional discretion and told him so.......yeah, it's a bit of a tightrope navigating the payment thing and trying to make sure you get what you want!
(however, because of a deposit request, we won't be meeting)......