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My first experience was with Scott/TJ, who himself was I think VERY new at the time, and he asked "Do you like girls? You seem like you could get girls." Um...no, but thanks, I guess?

That was either his precaution in case you were a serial killer or his seeing if you wanted to pay some more $$ for a 3way.

It's hard to say for sure because we're only getting your side of the story but I think, RD, you need to look carefully at the dynamic here. You seem to conclude you will do exactly what your husband says. You conclude you can't tell them the truth because that would be the end. End of what, exactly? Think very hard about what YOU want. Yes, you cheated. But you cheated because you were seriously unhappy about your relationship. Think very hard about what you want and what, realistically, you will actually have. Doesn't sound like he's ever moved an inch to accommodate YOUR desires from what you've said so far. And honestly you don't sound like you want him so much as you fear change(and being someone who's bad about change, I empathize there, something of this level is traumatic). But you really should talk to a therapist about this, I think. Strangers on a discussion board, however well-intentioned, bring our own biases to the situation.

My advice is don't leave the marital home. That's giving him all the leverage. He can go if he wants to. Also as stated above don't assume you will be left with nothing. I mean, he could burn through all the assets by dragging out the divorce, but that hurts him as much as you. And if they're your dogs they're your dogs. I am not a lawyer, but a friend got divorced recently and he had to play alimony based on the length of the relationship, not just the marriage, because they comingled finances and insurance for several years before tying the knot, so don't assume if, for example, he was the breadwinner that all the money is his. Honestly, I'm not sure this guy sounds like someone I'd WANT to be married to, given he seems to present you with a list of demands and your choice is simply to acquiesce. But don't just do whatever he says without standing up for yourself, that's kind of what led you here. If he's determined to end the relationship over this, there's not much you can do. But at that point you need to think about what's best for YOU, not HIM.

Back in the days when I visited the Nob Hill Theater: Josh Weston (meh, mechanical. I suspected he was on something) Shane Rollins (very nice guy, chatty) Tony Cummings (nice guy, fun, sorry he exited the biz shortly thereafter but he seemed to have plans for a life beyond. Hope he's doing well.) More recently Derek Atlas. He was perfectly nice/friendly/etc., just for some reason by the time he got there I was not really in the mood so it was just an okay experience. Would see him again.

Yeah I first saw him a bit earlier than that when the difference wasn't quite as stark. But he now has current pictures in there at least. Also for some his endowment might, um, make up for other perceived deficiencies.

Kevin in the West Village is good for that. And a good clinical massage as well. But he will adapt to whatever you want. https://www.massagem4m.com/gay-massage-new-york-city/kevin/ Note the pictures span a wide range of ages but the later ones are his current look and are not out of date.

lugging a massage table around the city is a PITA. You'd have to pay me more than $50 to do it. Also there's the issue of his time - the extra time he's taking for your appointment is in line with his hourly rate. Regardless of what he's doing at that time, his time has a value to him.

Johnny Castle did IIRC appear at Club 20 back in the day, but I think he only showed up once. Given he works quite a bit in the straight industry if he does any m4m escorting he needs to keep it extremely quiet. Not sure how you'd go about contacting him.

United has actually dropped a lot of their first class fares. I go to Vegas a few times a year and I found that often once you add the charge for "premium economy" the extra $$ to get a first class seat is not that much. Especially when you factor in getting extra miles etc if you travel more frequently or are on the cusp of the next status level. So I mostly choose my dates carefully and fly first now. That said even first class isn't what it used to be.

You don't have to be a linguist to recognize a writing style. You give most people who have read two authors a paragraph or two and they can tell you which one wrote it in most cases. Unless they are only writing very brief posts, most people have a "voice" when they write.

In theory it sounds hot, in practice I'd have to know him really well to take the risk.

I had two massages there in my last month, one by a Belausian guy named Alex and another by an Asian guy whose name escapes me. Both were strictly legit massages and no indication anything else was on the table so to speak. Alex was a better massage. He's also very easy on the eyes and chatty.

I'm 44 and most of the interest comes from people in their 20s and people considerably older than me. It's weird, in my late 30s there was virtually zero interest - probably because when you post that you are 39 people assume you are really in your late 50s and using an old picture...but once I turned 40 there was a wave of daddy-chasers. I experienced something similar as I gained weight, where when I had a decent amount of muscle but no abs, I was pretty damn invisible, but when I crossed the line from "a little overweight" to "fat" I entered a new sexual marketspace(and what was shocking to find is that there are ripped dudes into fat guys). I should probably start gathering data, as I am now embarking on a weight-loss program in anticipation of back surgery, and see how many hits I get at different weights....

A friend of mine is not an organ donor and claimed it's because he thinks that your ogran failing means your number is up and it's time to go and that should be it. This was ~15 years ago he told me this not sure if it was because he felt that it wasn't an effective allocation of medical resources or he was truly opposed to pronlonging life by such a radical means. I think they've made great strides in preventing rejection since then and perhaps his position has changed.