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Elliott got kinda grungy. I was expecting him to grow up hotter....

I by no means meant to imply this was just a female issue. My 47 year old male friend now has two kids under the age of 2. I think he waited too long too. Yes, the extension of adolescence well into the 30s is an issue too. It's frankly stupider for men to wait because they don't' live as long. Settling down invariably involves some amount of "settling FOR" and our culture doesn't like to admit that.

Actually I don't think it's foolish at all. Too many people wait for everything to be perfect to find out it's too late. I have a friend making one last stab at IVF, she's 44. And at the same time this is going on, her parents' health is starting to go. If/when your kids have kids, you will likely be still be young enough to help out. Some people seem to think you should have a paid-off house and four years of college tuition in the bank before you consider having a child.

Saw him at one of the rare Adonis Las Vegas parties a few years ago. Got a lapdance and did not get the impression an escort session would be remotely worth it. Seemed more the "pose and be serviced" type. He may have since expanded his repertoire with clients.

Back in the Club 20 days Club 20 charged $160, $60 of which went to the dancer. You may be recalling that. I think Tim just figured cut out the middleman aspect of it and charge for the room then let customer and dancer do what they will. It's 20 minutes, not 10/15. presumably the minimum the dancer will be getting is what they would be getting for lapdances during that time, then more for either getting naked or doing more. Also some customers simply prefer the veneer of privacy.

FYI that $100 goes entirely to the house, not the dancer.

Bath houses as formal standing businesses, to evade rules about sex businesses, call themselves "private clubs" and have to maintain records, so they will ask for your ID and hold onto it while you are in the club, but they do not disseminate their mailing lists and are not going to contact you. It's strictly for liability purposes. Be aware that many of these establishments are extremely hit or miss and have a WIDE range of clientele. Do not expect people who look like models unless you hire an escort to go with you. And also know there's a high proportion of people who are not taking any precautions whatsoever there. So be safe.

eh, some of those pictures are ten years apart and clearly posed to look bad.

My experience with parents and siblings who were somewhat less than fully functional adults, and ingrained Catholic guilt requiring me to pick up some of their slack to the detriment of my goals kind of soured me on the idea of voluntarily taking on the responsibility of a child. Honestly I'm still kind of pissed at my family about that.

I thought I did when I was younger but I also never exactly arranged my life to accommodate them, and also wound up caretaking for my mother and later my sister which pretty much kept me from doing that.. Then I got to 40 and was like, "While technically I'm not too old, I don't feel physically with back issues/etc. I can keep up with a child" So my position now is - if I meet Mr. Right, AND he's significantly younger, AND he really wants kids, I'll do it. Should my younger sister and her husband kick the bucket, I'd take in their two. But I wouldn't do it with someone my age or older unless the child were over 10 -too much possibility of the kid being burdened with caring for aging parents when he/she should just be starting out. Also, I have 9 nieces and nephews, two of them are autistic, one of them profoundly so, and at least 3 and probably 4 of the others are general fuckups who I'm likely to cut out of the will for the way they treat their parents. So I'm acutely aware of what can go wrong. I do have to admit I'm envious of Basketballer, not that he's had it easy by any stretch.

I'm not an escort but I've definitely seen some ads over the years from escorts who pretty much restricted themselves to clients they were attracted to. It's not always a full-time gig, you know. A lot of them have day jobs and use the escort money to get ahead.

I thought it was fairly settled that something like a third of men will dabble when confined in all-male environments for extended periods, then only pursue women if they are available. It's essentially masturbatory in my opinion versus actual desire. I have zero interest in women myself but I can imagine if somehow all men disappeared tomorrow I might do something with a woman. I'd still consider myself exclusively gay in orientation.

Colby Jansen played/coached(and may still, I haven't kept up) for one of the gay rugby teams, I've seen him a couple of times at tournaments.

I've long joked that it would be cheaper for me in the long run to have a marriage of convenience with a chiropractor or physical therapist.

He seemed a lot more self-assured than Evan Hansen.

Saw Udom once about two years ago. He's very good. And located on the Strip so convenient if you are there.

So is Ben Platt officially "out" or was he simply never "in" in the first place? I haven't seen anything on it, but he certainly reads gay. I first ventured tentatively to gay bars in my late 20s. I'd come in at 6 pm, see nobody there but the 80-year-old alcoholic in the corner, think to myself, "I guess I AM the only one" and go home. I didn't realize everybody was waiting for their wives and children to fall asleep so gay bars didn't get going until 11 pm even on a weeknight.

Then that's an age range where really they're pretty much your peers, at least the top half of that range.

You know, before the MS progressed too far I remember her expressing support for Dr. Kevorkian because she would want the option should it get too bad. But then a few years ago when she came to live with me and we were doing medical directive stuff, she wanted to be kept alive in pretty much every scenario listed. I think she's just adjusted to each new stage, better than I would have certainly. For me personally anything beyond losing the use of my legs would be where I would draw the line. I believe I could deal with being in a wheelchair if I had the use of my arms. I couldn't deal with needing to be fed/changed/etc.

"always the daddy" at 37? Seriously? Are you only hanging out with college kids? I mean if you put "25 and under only" in your profile that's a recipe for feeling ancient. I always find that odd when people angrily put in their profiles that they will only consider ages 18 all the way up to one year younger than they (claim they) are. I'm wondering if all the 60 year olds you know are heavy smokers or something. I mean don't get me wrong 40something is not the same as 20 something, but the majority of 60 year olds are getting around fine, just not doing jump boxes at CrossFit.

What people fail to realize is at some point extra weight is extra weight, be it muscle or fat. If your bodyweight is 40 lbs higher, that's more blood your heart has to pump, more work your internal organs have to do, extra burden on your joints, which can wear out sooner, etc. There are tradeoffs no matter how many precautions you take. You may still find them worth it. I mean, if you told me I could look and feel like a superhero but I'd simply drop dead ten years earlier than otherwise, feeling good up to that point, I might do it. But if you told me I was going to feel great for a period but wind up in a walker or chair sooner and then be on dialysis, I'd say no.

Looking at my gym which is frequented by Wall Street types and seeing just how many more jacked 50ish guys there seem to be today versus 20 years ago, I'd say it's not just escorts using testosterone by any stretch. I presume these guys though are being more careful and are under a doctor's supervision. I'm debating giving that a shot myself for weight loss purposes.

I have some spine issues which as they progress have meant that my erections are not what they were, though still just fine for oral. As I got a late start with sex, by the time I tried anal my topping was simply not that good. If it was one of those bottoms who can open their own hole it was okay, but I couldn't really work my way into anyone who was tight.

I'm assuming there's touching just no anal or oral, much like the NYJacks party. So basically the same level of interaction as a massage with HE, which people pay for. Seems reasonable.

I have a friend who tried anal each way once way back in the 90s when he was just starting out, without a condom(may have been high or drunk, not sure), was so freaked out about waiting for his HIV test(which turned out negative) that he decided he had already "used up his get out of jail free card" and has never done anal either way since. He sticks to oral and some playing with the ass but no penetration. He is still exclusively gay though. Some people have their hangups about particular activities. I very rarely do anal(like less than 10 times in my life total) and consequently I never really got that good at it, so I don't particularly miss it. Were I in an LTR I suppose I would make the effort to get better at it.