When I started on my coming out journey in the late 70s/early 80s, I spent a lot of time in WeHo, the Castro, Provincetown, Fire Island, Mykonos, Ibiza... I never felt any shame. I met many great people and we all had a lot of fun. I am so glad I was gay in my 20s/30s during that time instead of queer in my 20s/30s today. So much more fun meeting people in bars , than meeting people on Grindr.