Thelatin

Your entire profession is to deceive.

I am sorry you are going through this. I have been in this same situation. You are not alone.

You can either make yourself more attractive. Or hire less attractive providers. They can only pretend so much.

This arrangement has worked well for me in the past. We both get sleep, I cum and go. I had a regular pre Covid that I swear never slept. One of those people that always have to have noise in the background, all night. I used to get a room that had an outside patio. His friends would come over and good lord, they would yap all night long. I enjoy that sound in the background. He would come take care of me, go back to yapping.

For me an overnight would be, meeting around 5-6 PM and them leaving after breakfast. Depending on what they like the time would involve a nice steak house, maybe checking out a bar, the hotel fitness center and pool, some Netflix etc. I've gone out of my element a bit lately and tried both older providers and shorter dates. Just not my cup of tea. It's like the car wash, I want the super deluxe wash with extra carnuba.

Omg - there is no ambiguity, no oh jeeze shucks, maybe it means different things. The guy is trying to rip you off.

Mine went away with weight loss and cutting out alcohol.

If he does want to come back - it doesn’t hurt to be on vacation with someone else in an exotic location. It cuts both ways.

Hmmm, Vanguard's money market over the last year has returned 5.38%

I’m respectfully serious. I’m always working on myself, there is always room for improvement. If he senses an issue, maybe he should address it? He would be happier in the long run?

We don’t know. Are there some things you could work on?

Why did you make plans with a person with no reviews? Who is basic looking? And claims to travel all over?

I’m 53 and typically see guys in their mid 20’s. I’m not looking to discuss middle eastern politics…

Hah - the therapist I’ll take old.

Oh - and where will I find the money for this luxury? Lol.

Yes, I have been blessed. I did get sucked into thinking I was in a "relationship" once or twice, ouch. I've learned to accept it for what it is now, it's been nice.

I have recently tried a few older providers, so like 10 years younger then myself. I'll just be blunt. I enjoyed bottoming as they were very experienced tops. But I couldn't finish, as I wasn't attracted in the same way as I am to younger very in shape providers.

I’ve been told to go fuck myself many times. If only I were younger.

100% - I have zero problem judging. Especially as I'm the same way, like that vacation booty.

Not really - but it’s just a discussion. Just bang your husband. You can always hook up elsewhere. Why so desperate on this trip? It’s actually a sickness. Unless I have sex with a hot stranger on my vacation, everything is ruined. Is it? Really?

I do have to admit I’m a bit confused as to why you are so desperate to hook up, when you are there with your husband. Is he also looking?

I tend to get in trouble for this. However, it's no secret that gay guys love to vacation in Palm Springs. If you have a masseur that you have used somewhere else, and you are open to the idea, perhaps invite them to come on your trip? I just booked a home with pool/spa etc. for 7 nights and will be traveling with a masseur. We did this together last year and had a blast.

I have some family members that are red necks (anything fancy is stupid), and some that enjoy the finer things. They have simply decided not to travel together.

I routinely have conversations with providers. Twice it's gone too far. The first one now has a serious drug problem and I attempted to help, not a good idea. The second one I saw for several years. I went from a client, to a "boyfriend", to being "like family" - arg. Now feelings are being hurt, as I really don't want to go on vacation with "family". So yeah, I'm friendly, but not friends.

Huh? I saw him recently and he is nothing like his photos. I'm close to being in better shape. He also has that funky smell. I had a decent time, but wouldn't repeat for the price.