misterhumphries

Classic excuses that do not hold up under unbiased examination. Besides, pregnancy is not the same as contracting HIV. Pregnancy may bring a life into the world. HIV, however, can remove a life or several lives from it. And proper application of a condom and using adequate lubrication can address your examples of what could go wrong with a condom. Abstinence is the sure-fire method to prevent any STD contraction, but abstinence is unrealistic for most people.

Same here. I got burned once for not using a condom. Never again! As to the original question, as others have stated, the undetectable means untransmittable is good news -- sort of. Blood work gives a snapshot of a person's viral load at that point in time. If the escort has multiple sex partners (doing lord knows what with them) his undetectable status may be altered and he's not aware of it until his next scheduled round of bloodwork. In any case, do not allow U = U to lull you into a false sense of complacency. Regardless of his status, you must use a condom if you plan on any sex involving exchange of bodily fluids. You, and you alone, are responsible for maintaining your well-being.

I've always heard and believed that a person shows his true character based on how he treats waiters, call center workers, or anyone in the service industry. If you dine with someone who is complaining, persnickety, and ready to stiff a waiter on a tip for no reason at all, you can rest assured you've met an unkind person.

Yes, I see no harm in telling a sensual/erotic masseur that it's your first time. To me, it puts the masseur on alert to know how to approach your session. Massage is all about communication, verbal and non-verbal. If it's a "masseur" I'd ask if mutual touch is allowed, if there will be a "happy ending," etc. From a business standpoint, if a masseur satisfies a client, said client may become a return client and provide goodwill through referrals from clients -- just what happens on these forums. Word of mouth is the best advertising.

A deep voice

You know, this topic has made me think. There was one man who was blah in face and body but he had a BIG DICK and gave me free access any time I craved it! Once we got sex out of the way, I found him charming, intelligent, and a good conversationalist. We began dating at his suggestion. I recall our being very happy until the relationship ran its course. In contrast, I've had many gay men who find me physically attractive who assume that I'm stupid. It's the old prejudice that a man perceived as good looking cannot also have intelligence and character. Needless to say, those connections with lower expectations of me went nowhere.

Of course you do in this setting. It's like catalog shopping. You have nothing else to go on but what appears online. I like to think that the criteria would be different when confronted with a living, breathing man standing right before you.

A major lyric talent. He wrote songs that we all know in one form or another. At least he lived a good long time. I've got "The Look of Love" and "Walk on By" going through my head at the thought of Mr Bachrach

Not a pound of fat?! You must spend a lot of time alone or you date skin and bones. A percentage of body fat is healthy.

You can think that if you like, I couldn't possibly comment

Regardless of what one's opinions of the laws are, the fact remains they are laws of the land, ethical codes of various professions that provide service to the public that must be adhered to. There is nothing wrong with sex work; it fulfills a human need. I am also a proponent of the gay baths when they existed -- but let's call sex work just that. It's the wink-wink that a "masseur" is actually a prostitute under a different label that I find troublesome. Also, starting in 2020 or 2019, licensed massage therapists in my state must also complete an online training to make us aware of, how to spot telltale signs, and how to report sex trafficking. I mentioned masseurfinder and other gay-oriented sites. I considered advertising on them (I prefer to work on men and men tend to be better repeat clients) BUT the state bylaws specifically prohibit an LMT from advertising on any site that promotes or implies there will be a sexual exchange of any kind. Lastly, as a gay man, I always think it a compliment of the highest degree when a straight man becomes a regular client because he is assured that my sexuality will be a non-issue in the manipulation of his naked soft tissue.

This is what I'm talking about. A plain, unconventional face but so sexy! Just like Adrien Brody.

If you're really into it, you'd kiss with your eyes closed. Every kiss feels the same in the dark.😉

Faces don't matter that much to me. I have dated several men who would be called "handsome" but the presence of male facial beauty didn't factor much into my attraction to them. And good looks are relative so there is no absolute that would diminish all others. I will admit if a man is bodybuilder muscular, I tend to like plain or ugly men. It's a fantasy of being dominated by a big bull of a man.

My goodness! How long has it been for you, cher?

Gracious! I read the hyperlink to the document attached. My head is spinning! Who can remember all that let alone figure it out? I note in all those charts and protocols there is no guarantee that if followed one will not contract HIV. Surely, it's better and simpler to adopt a safeguard against STD infection and use it consistently and always? Wear a condom. If you take an HIV drug like Truvada or Descovy, commit to that regimen and stick with it.

cheese omelet -- eggs and any kind of cheese you prefer.

This topic is irksome for me. As a licensed massage therapist, it's insulting to be lumped in with the "masseurs" who do perform sex work under the guise of giving massage. State laws governing massage therapists vary by state, but they are united in prohibiting a licensed therapist from engaging in any sexual contact with clients. Nothing would be "taken up a notch." The history of massage therapy in this country began as a coded way to describe a prostitute; this is the image that the profession is still battling against today. I realize there are websites such as masseurfinder that list "masseurs." The rates tend to be a dead giveaway that there will be something sexual taking place. A legitimate hour-long massage should cost no more than about $120.00. If I see a rate higher than that, to me it's coded for there will be something sexual taking place. As for those who hire these "masseurs" instead of escorts, I liken it to calling an eggplant an "aubergine." Different term, but it boils down to the same thing.

What a bunch of catastrophizing! How about people get bodily piercings and tattoos because THEY WANT TO? They may have friends who have body modification and they copy it on themselves. They may be part of the S&M or leather scene. Not every choice we make in life is the stuff of a Lifetime movie. Remember the British saying, "There's nowt so queer as folk."

One of my favorite retro presumably gay photos. A daddy and his boy.

That's a gif from one of my favorite Russ Meyer movies, "Mudhoney"!

Oh, dear! Hiring an escort with a PA or nipple rings always makes me cringe. Those are my two areas that I love to play with and to suckle. I'd have to ask that they be removed. I'm not chipping a tooth. Then, of course, you'll have to deal with the holes where the body jewelry were located. But it's your session, your nickel. There is no "rude," it's just a request from a client.

I agree with you. Why bother with straight men or the undecided? There is no shortage of gay men or men who voluntarily offer their services for cash. I believe sexual dealing with a straight man is a disaster waiting to happen. When I see a man advertising on rentmen who declares he's straight, my brain yells "NEXT!!"

I always thought Oriental was fine in reference to things, but not to people. So I would describe a room decorated in the Oriental style. But I'm old, so what do I know?

So true! "Dirty" and "shameful" have no business in connection with sex. Then, too, having the right sexual partner can make anal sex fabulous.