There’s a lot of subtle racism in the US of which most white guys are probably not aware. My husband is a Mexican-born US citizen. He is proud of his heritage and wears a big ‘stache. He also has an advanced degree, owns his own business with 6 employees, and has an income over twice mine. However, invariably, whenever we’re checking into a hotel or a restaurant, or other professional establishment expecting service, I’m the one that is addressed first and all subsequent responses are directed towards me and only me. When we travel, he’s the one that gets “randomly” selected for extra screening at security or immigration. Being his partner for over 20 years has made me much less inclined to express doubt when non-whites feel they have been slighted because of their race.