EastbayMike

Trust your instincts.

Contact the hotel and ask for recommendations.

How can anyone (provider and clients) think this is acceptable behavior? Even checking once is to much! Don't put it on vibrate, don't put on silent- turn off your fucking phone for an hour. The world will not end if you miss a text message or a call.

You're right, he's been in the business for a long time and using those same photos for just as long.

But is he a masseur or an escort? Hard to tell from his copy.

What evidence do you have that only a "fraction" are taking PreP consistently? And I'm at a complete loss to understand the second part of your post. If they're in the MSM category, how can they not need to be talking PreP? Finally, if barebacking concerns you, don't do it.

But is he a masseur or an escort? Hard to tell from his copy.

I've reached out to Ryan on both rentmasseur and a4a. Cute guy but he wasn't very personable on either platform so I never followed up with an appointment.

Checking your phone even once is unforgivable. I've gotten off the table more than once when this happened to me. Paid for the time spent and left.

I thought this was going to be a thread about Boris Johnson.

What does it matter if they play safe or not? As long as you play safe with them (whatever your definition of "safe" is) what does it matter what they do with other guys?

Yes.

Hate to be the odd man out but I found Karl just average.

Well, at least half of your statement is true. ;-)

He's been on the business for many years with a lot of positive reviews here a on the forum. Use the search function. (He might have been using a different name in the past.)

So basically he completely misrepresented himself in his ad. I would have politely excused myself as soon he opened the door.

It might mean he has two phones....

Yup! It used to appear in Frontiers Magazine at least as far back as in the late 90s.

In my teens - yes. In my twenties - maybe someday. In my early-thirties - not sure. In my mid-thirties - oh fuck no. In my forties/fifties - I thank god multiple times a week that I am child free.

Except a lot of those who died in the 80s (including my own brother and many of my friends) were likely infected before the virus was isolated, before doctors knew what caused AIDS, and how to prevent its spread. I agree with caliguy.

How about the flip side? Shouldn't HIV+ clients stop hiring escorts? If fact taken to the extreme, shouldn't all HIV+ folks just stop having sex all together? "Wouldn't it be proper not to expose others?"

How so? Whether you intend to fuck or not is not the issue. The issue is whether you believe the reply. From your post it appears that the answer would have a bearing (baring?) on what activities you'd include in your encounter and/or the use of condoms. If a stranger tells you they're negative and you believe them and then have unsafe sex you're an idiot to think it means there is no potential exposure to HIV (or any other STDs). Even if the stranger did receive a negative result, the result is only as good as his last sexual encounter prior to being tested. If he's having unsafe sex with you he's also having unsafe sex with other people who are also saying "don't worry, I'm negative." All of us are free to act as we see fit every time we fuck. Just make sure you understand that each encounter has risk and you shouldn't rely on the "don't worry I'm negative" bullshit. Same for "don't worry I'm on PrEP." What he's really saying are two potential falsehoods, "I'm negative AND I'm on PrEP." Again, believe if you want to but understand the risk. If people ask me, I tell them I'm negative and on PrEP but I also tell them they it's a meaningless question and they shouldn't believe me. Carlos45 gives the best advice, assume everyone is positive and act accordingly.

Listening to them have you a raging hardon so why would you consider doing anything else?

You dodged a bullet. Always trust your gut and stay away from the crazies. I meet a guy in LA once (I live in the Bay Area) who was cute and the hookup sex was great. He asked for my phone number and address. (This was back in the early days of email and texting, writing that seems so quait now.) I gave him my address but something told me not to give him my phone number so I changed the last digit. Within three days of my return I had three different letters from him saying he tried to call but the number was wrong. Without time for me to respond, the fourth letter came handwritten in all caps where by he cussed me out for not responding to him, called me a drug addict, insulted my friends and parents for the way I was raised, and said our relationship was over and I was never to contact him again! So glad I never gave that psycho my real phone number.

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