Personally I agree with those who said you should have paid him the "normal" price. Most massages I get with a HE don't include me jerking the masseur off. It's kind of presumptive on your part to just expect that and assume you're entitled to it. You don't own him and can dictate what his sexual behavior will be each time. What's up with that? I suspect he was giving you a message that it was time to restrain yourself and your reducing the fee was quite unfair. You might not be the only one thinking it's time to move on.