Being out isn’t about publicly discussing your sex life. It’s simply publicly acknowledging an inherent, immutable, enduring same-sex emotional, romantic or physical attraction that doesn’t conform to heteronormativity. Like when you and a boyfriend are traveling and check into a hotel, and the desk clerk asks “one bed or two?” When you say “one,” you’ve just outed yourself to the clerk. You haven’t said, “We plan to give each other head, and maybe try out a new double-header dildo, so two beds are a waste.”