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I almost suggested asking HER that question but it is obvious that she has some balls on her already. Maybe you could ask her when she plans to have the “top”surgery.

W. T. F.? I literally can’t even literally can’t even imagine how the topic of gender reassignment surgery could come up in conversation unless you presented as a woman and stated you are transgender. EVEN THEN I literally can’t even imagine saying that, but that is just one “literally can’t even” not two. W. T. F. ?

He's OK. Wouldn't be my first choice, but if there was no one else available I'd hire him.

Emergency calls have been traceable (whether or not caller ID is blocked) for decades. This is not a new-fangled thing.

I can't think of anyone who fits the bill. San Diego is hit-or-miss to begin with and becomes pretty much a wasteland when looking for someone with specific characteristics like muscular and into wrestling.

Oh, no - my approach is not subtle at all. I'm advocating asking one or more of the group why they did not invite @Smurof to the play. It really does not get more direct than that.

Could be. The area code associated with his phone number is 219, which is largely the Indiana side of suburban Chicago.

Hmmmm...It does seem like the addition of a self-described man-hater to your social group is the reason why you were not invited to see the play. As much as I'd like to say I would not engage in self-conscious over-thinking about how my actions could have contributed to me being excluded from the play, that would be a huge load of bullshit. I'd feel the same way. However, your friends should have included you and given the man-hater the opportunity to, um, woman-up and accept you or stay home. When the sting of being left out has abated, you might want to talk to one of the people in the group. It sucks to be in this situation. I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Hang in there. PS: It is gratifying to see that you feel comfortable discussing this topic with your fellow Forum members. That's what friends are for. Virtual hugs.

Although it may not have sounded like it, I agree with you: it is an ongoing lifelong process. However, for me it is less about making and re-making declarations and more about telling someone about myself, as you did. I'm fairly well-known within my rather large company thanks to holding a position for a very long time that touched virtually every business line of the company. I'm also very open, so most people know that I am gay. At a very large meeting recently we were discussing joint bank accounts and I said something like "If my husband and I have an account." No one but a new consultant batted an eye. He came up to me later and said he wished he was as comfortable as I am to say something like that and then went on to say "I'd never have guessed!" I let him know that I am not currently married and he arched his eyebrow and said "oh!"

That’s the thing about being out: once you’re out your out - you don’t have to make declarations.

He reminds me of Thanos (Rugby, Greek, and Rugged)/Rugby Dick/Habib/Tom (Rugby and Rugged)

"GoldenHole" sounds like a men.com take-off on a James Bond film. Manpussy Galore, anyone?

"Ding-a-Dong" was #1 in Switzerland and Norway!

AAA has people in trucks that will do that for you.

Interesting that a post about vocabulary is incorrectly titled. It should read "Americans' Poor..." not "Americans Poor..." Reminds me of the time an employee stated on a self-evaluation that "grammer" was one of his strengths. Then again, he did not list "spelling."

Well, you might have to wait 40 years, but it will be worth it.

Over the seven years I facilitated the men's coming out group in San Diego (2009 - 2016) I found that many men still experience anxiety about telling family and friends that they are gay. Most of the guys were struggling with accepting the notion themselves, let alone discussing their orientation with others. Almost 100% of the men wanted to have the conversation with their family and close to 90% of them eventually did. Typically, one needs to come out to someone (including themselves) before they can "be out." The conversations still happen all the time. While the reactions have changed over time, the conversations still tend to be awkward, even when they go well, which they typically do. Interestingly, many of our members had more anxiety over the meaning of the "good" reactions (such as "They didn't ask me any questions. They didn't seem to be interested") than they did about having the conversations. Even more interesting is that we would hear that sentiment from men in all age groups. We had members ranging in age from eighteen to eighty-seven and damned if each week someone would be worried because their family member or friend felt it was no big deal. Of course, as a facilitator none of us (we had three) could say "get over your bad self, sweetie." By the way, the eighty-seven year old ended up coming out to his kids and grandkids and found himself a boyfriend at the Fellowship of Older Gays.

Really? That’s pretty ballsy, not to mention rude.

I agree. That said, am I the only one who delights in the juxtaposition of the ascension of the Christian God’s son and the day named after a Pagan god and a Roman god?

A few thoughts: People are typically too polite to ask, the exception being when getting to know a potential playmate or romantic partner where the information is relevant to the relationship. I don’t believe in the concept of “[fill in the blank] acting.” When some one is simply themselves there is no acting required. I don’t know what you mean by pretend not to be gay. Aside from the gender to which they are attracted, gay and straight men pretty much do the same spectrum of activities. When I first came out I experienced one of the two following reactions: 1) Oh, that’s nice. Thank you for sharing. How do you feel about this? 2) Really? Wouldn’t have guessed. It wasn’t hard for me, it was simply a matter of me being out to myself and being ready to share this with others. I think you mean “...who people think or perceive are gay.” The only one who knows is the individual himself. Others presume or assume or, once someone comes out to them, take the new-found knowledge at face value. To answer your original question, there is no universal answer. It truly depends on the individual.

I think a handshake is fine.

While we are at it, let’s move it to a Saturday in late May when the weather is nicer.

A very enjoyable tradition! Wonder how many residents of certain areas of our fine land take this seriously?

Don’t know, either. I hired him as an escort.