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So…to avoid geek speak, mitigate your chances by not engaging in high-risk behavior. I’m not shocked or surprised by medical staff getting diseases. That’s part of the risk of being in the field. Unfortunate that it happens, but if their patients – such as men who insist on engaging in known high-risk behaviors – get sick, they’re at higher risk of getting sick. I as a general rule done share fluids with my doctor. Now – if I have a car accident and land in the hospital, there’s potential. But monkeypox not simply floating around in the air that I have to worry I’m going to get it from going to the grocery store.

Getting a vaccine is one thing. Saying we’re “losing the fight” is another. Getting a vaccine makes rational sense. Saying we’re “losing the fight” breeds panic. My mother died of COVID. A nasty, nasty death. I’m vaxxed etc. I still got COVID a few weeks ago. I took the therapeutics prescribed by my doctor and I’m fine. I’m moving on with my life. I’ll get vaxxed for monkeypox as soon as my pharmacy gets it. Until then, I’ll be careful who I’m exchanging bodily fluids with. I’ll do these things as precautions.

That same article from the NYTimes says there are 700 cases nationwide of monkeypox. It’s not a pandemic. “In San Francisco, B, a 43-year-old medical writer who asked that his name be withheld for privacy reasons, found himself shivering uncontrollably with a high fever on June 14, eight days after he had multiple sexual encounters at a bathhouse in Chicago.“ In my opinion, this is the issue. People are being stupid. A global confirmed monkeypox case count of under 10k is not a huge problem if people aren’t stupid about their behavior. Multiple sexual encounters at a bathhouse falls under stupid behavior that risks negative consequences, if you ask me. Monkeypox or something else.

The fight against monkeypox? I really feel like this is hysteria in search of a crisis. I hadn’t heard of monkeypox in weeks until stumbled upon this thread here. I’m not saying ignore it, but it’s nothing at all like COVID. People need to give up this desire to be petrified. When people are afraid about something, they can be manipulated into doing any number of things. Caution and vigilance is one thing. Fear and overreaction is another.

This is an important point. I’ve actually asked providers who post pictures of themselves with different hair color what it is right now. I don’t think that’s unfair. We’re cataloging through these guys to find something that potentially pleases us. It’s already a marker, and provider’s should know they’re going to be assessed on things that might be superficial. We’re not looking to become soulmates or life partners here. We’re looking for a business transaction. The business is intimate and personal, but it’s still business. So it’s okay to assess based off likes and dislikes, but there’s definitely a way to do that which is professional and polite. No need to be rude or hateful about it.

I’d reiterate that there are no stats to back up this assumption. Just an opinion. An opinion formed from assuming that because you don’t pay for a membership you’re inexperienced in hiring, it would seem to suggest as well, therefore not worth listening to. If you don’t pay RM, your opinion doesn’t matter effectively.

But there’s the rub. Not all critics are created equal. You admire certain ones. Not every one, and certainly not because they’re film critics. Look – if someone wants to think they’re an expert in hiring guys, fine. A connoisseur. Whatever. I don’t rightly care about that. I care about the actual experience with said guy, and I don’t think you need to have hired a lot of times to know if you had a good time or not. And for that matter, I might actually be inclined to listen to the “newbie” more because it shows just how attentive the escort is to making for an overall relaxing situation, given “newbies” don’t know the ins and outs like experienced guys.

I think some guys enjoy squandering their money on overpriced escorts because it fellates their egos. It’s like having an obscenely expensive car or boat or a house with a movie theater – totally unnecessary and really just about having it to say you can do it.

I don’t want to support a site whose business model I don’t particularly like. I use RM largely because I have to; not because I want to or like it.

Actually…I find film critics and their opinions insufferable. And often the films they find good, I think are shit. And vice versa. So of you’re saying you’re to escorts as a film critic is to films, then I’m going to disregard your opinion as I do professional film reviewers. I trust the opinions of normal people…

It’s definitely an elitist view.

Precisely.

I get tired of the working assumption here that providers are always the victim of bad behavior from clients. Are there bad clients? Yes. I’m highly doubtful the situation is nearly as bad as we’re led to believe. There are also shitty providers. They deserve to have bad reviews and have them stay posted. That’s just one of the reason why I won’t write a review and consider the reviews worth less than the paper they’re written on. @KensingtonHomo, even such texts can be met with tepid, unprofessional, seemingly uninterested responses from providers from the get-go. If that happens, I figure this guy’s a waste of MY time. And most definitely my money.

@Luv2play, but you have no stats to support that opinion. It’s based off an assumption you have based off they you’d behave. Not everyone behaves the same same way, so your opinion isn’t necessarily reflective of what is. Non-paying members may in fact hire guys frequently and plenty of experience hiring.

My therapist always says, “Disregard everything before the but.” If you read further, you’ll see that I won’t do that again. That was years ago, as I said, and when I was new to all this. So before you impugn “any credibility,” you might take that into consideration. Furthermore I’m of the mindset that the reviews are pointless anyhow, so I’m not writing anymore anyhow. The fact the guy asked me to write a review before meeting suggests that he’d had others do the same in the past. I’m likewise sure that guys, particularly the scammers, do such things all the time and naive or desperate men fall for it. Caveat emptor.

That’s your choice. I had COVID about six weeks ago. I’m fine now. It was my first time. Now you know a first timer who’s had COVID in the past few weeks who didn’t get terribly sick. I’ve had sinus infections much worse than my COVID infection.

@jusmeinbr– No inferring. I was referring to “these guys,” in general, not “this guys,” in particular. My comment built on the previous comments and was commenting on the over all situation of ads in broad terms. My comment wasn’t about “this guys” specifically. But to your point, he’s clearly not interested in an arrangement where he provides much; he’s in this for him, as evidenced from the sentence you highlighted.

Of course. I keep saying that these guys wouldn’t do this if it weren’t for the money. That doesn’t mean they don’t like their jobs; they just wouldn’t do it for nothing. If their greatest pleasure is truly make other guys happy, they’d do it for free. I know that’s crass, but that’s the truth.

I can usually tell from the kind of response a potential escort gives if he’s invested, especially young guys. Texting is just part of their world. If he can’t be bothered to put together some semblance of a coherent thought in a text, he probably isn’t that invested in making sure he delivers on his promises either. “Hey” in response to a hello and a question doesn’t bode well for the ongoing interaction. Better to just move on if you don’t get much of a response. I have to wonder how any of those types make any money doing this. But I guess it must happen for them somehow…Maybe they have something through SA or some other sugar daddies.

@Enronnja, when I first started hiring, I was stupid. I trusted an escort before we met. Paid him a lot of money up front and wrote a review on RM before meeting. I’ve since learned, of course. But the point is that the scams are real. And they’re more common than many want to accept. That’s why I still come back to insisting that a minimal exchange of some substance happen between me and any escort. If he thinks it’s time wasting, he’s losing out on my money. Maybe he can get other money easier, but it’s not going to be mine. Just like escorts will hedge bets to not waste their time, I’m heading bets to not waste my money. I was burnt once and it’s not happening to me again.

You could ask the guy?

I can’t imagine anyone willing to pay for time that’s not spent together. That seems ludicrous to me.

I don’t access RM on a computer and I don’t use an app. Are you using the app with your VPN or are you accessing the site directly?

@rvwnsd, of course you need a VPN from the US. But you still won’t get the written reviews on the rent.men even with a VPN. The VPN wasn’t the point; the point was that you can read the written reviews on rentmen.eu. Is the picture with the photo and date from a computer? If it’s your phone, how’d you get that on rent.men? I have never seen the dates on photos on rent.men on my phone. I already knew you could see the date on the desktop view for the site.

And you actually read the comments on those reviews that are allowed to stand on rentmen.eu