sydneyboy

I think there is a deep seated psychoanalytic explanation as to why you want this thread terminated.?

A former next door neighbour of mine was a gay solicitor and an intelligent man. Over a few glasses of wine one night the issue of gay causation arose. I gave him my psychoanalytic explanation which he not have a bar of. He claimed it was “learnt” behaviour. Over the preceding years he had told me of his own family history. His mother, a single woman, conceived him at the age of about 45 as the result of a one night stand. He was raised by this middle aged single woman with no male figure in his formative years. Pure unadulterated Freud. None but the blind shall see.

I have got to be extremely careful here because as I said in my post I do not want this discussion to be unseemly and over the years I have encountered people who have strong views on the issue of causation. This article is described as “scientific “ but when it comes to explaining matters of the mind one has to be careful about what is “science “ and scientists disagree. There was a very well known Sydney psychiatrist Professor Nathaniel McConaghy (now deceased) who was an early and enthusiastic practitioner of aversion therapy. I read one article he wrote years ago in which, on the question of causes, believed homosexuality was the result of a vitamin deficiency while the foetus was still in its mother’s womb. This was by no means his most bizarre theory/practice. One thing I have observed over the years is that some gay people have a blind spot when it comes to accepting that their sexuality is the result of familial circumstances. I do not.

I would like to have his head examined.

I don’t agree with the premise in that article. I would argue that Freud, as unfashionable as he is these days said it all about the causes of homosexuality. I accept that in the case of 2 brothers a younger brother is likely to be gay because of being the “baby” of the family. I’m an only child another classic situation. This reasoning is often dismissed as psycho babble but so be it. I hope this does not provoke an unseemly debate as some people feel strongly about the issue of causation and nature v nurture and I would agree it is a rather academic argument. We have come a very long way in my lifetime and long may it continue.

''What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.'' -Oscar Wilde

“I never forget a face, but in your case I’d be glad to make an exception.” - Groucho Marx

“I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.” -Groucho Marx

250 pounds an hour is very expensive, even for London.

“You go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company.” -Mark Twain

“The only difference between a saint and a sinner is every saint has a past, every sinner has a future.” -Oscar Wilde

For the moment we are just planning for the future. No harm in that.

I read either here on another thread or on another site about the joys of the go go bars and the eye candy dancers. Any experience of these bars?

“I can sympathise with people’s pain but not with their pleasures. There is something curiously boring about another person’s happiness.” -Unknown I read this on a desk calendar many years ago. I have applied it over the years and it contains a strong grain of truth.

“I sometimes think God in creating man overestimated His ability.” -Oscar Wilde

Could you please flesh out (pun intended) on the delights of Montreal? I was there as an early 20’s lad in 1974 and was very impressed with the beauty of the city. What are the joys for the over 60’s?

A gay man over 60 who is prepared to pay (a modest amount) absolutely nothing compares to the Brazil rent boy saunas in Rio and São Paulo. Regrettably not at the moment as I have read on other sites they closed because of the virus.

Regrettably its just not guys. At the gym I go to it never ceases to amaze me at the young women with so called “sleeve” tattoos and all over their backs. What they think their going to look like in their 40’s,50’s, 60’s and beyond I do not know.

My post leaves me wide open to this reply and I was expecting something like it. I can’t remember the context in which I brought up the subject of tattoos but such is my pathological hatred of them it doesn’t take much for me to vent my spleen on the subject. Her reaction surprised me too but it only illustrates her profound regret. Although we have never discussed it, after about 8 years she realised she was perfectly safe in my presence, if you know what I mean.

A tragedy.

With piercings when you grow up you throw them away and put them down to youthful exuberance. With tattoos you are stuck with them for life unless of course you are prepared to put yourself through the pain and expense of laser therapy. I was talking to my boss one day and told her how much I hated tattoos. She pulled down her blouse and exposed part of one breast showing a dark stain. This was the result of 4 laser treatments to remove a tattoo she seriously regretted.

“I don’t want to go to heaven. None of my friends are there.” -Oscar Wilde

Cons: Vile,hideous, short sighted(do people think they are going to be in their 20’s forever?), about as attractive as disfiguring scars. Pros: Every cloud has a silver lining. Cosmetic surgeons with their lasers will be laughing all the way to the bank in years to come.

“As soon as I stepped out of my mother’s womb I realised I had made a mistake.” -Quentin Crisp I can relate to that.

“The war between the sexes is the only one in which both sides regularly sleep with the enemy.” -Quentin Crisp