Considering going to a conventional lifestyle..

[Mocha]

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Does anyone ever long for the regular life once in awhile?

 

Though I enjoy the escort life, sometimes I miss the oppurtunity to have group or co-worker activities that many speak of. The social scene has become so popularity based. The past 2 years have been a challenge to maintain dates/friendship circles.

 

I often have a whole list of people on Facebook (which i keep separate from escort affiliations, unlike Twitter) who friend me. I’ve gotten away from adding random people, and even had to “unfollow” people who are constantly posting about themselves, but don’t input on mine. I feel once they see I don't post pictures with groups of people doing crazy stuff every weekend, they drift off. Most of the time I just post trip updates or things I’m thinking, and it’s the same 4 or 5 people who I keep in touch with. I don't have a big extended family, coworkers or belong to gay sports league (which is a topic in of itself). I feel for the most, dudes nowadays are only as interested as to what you do with yourself to attract the most Facebook likes.

 

For example, I know of 3 people, 2 of whom I'm supposed to be "talking to" who went to Miami's gay pride this weekend. Not any of them asked me to come along. Granted, I haven't known them that long...and I know how dramatic those events can be (not to mention the passing of a friend around this time last year, after a wild night in Miami- not to mention The Orlando gay bar shootout has changed the way I view big, drunken gay weekends...that “missing out” on some things can actually be a blessing).

 

At the same time, I’m kinda over it. It's the exclusion from activities that make me want to say forget all these miscellaneous acquientences, and get into something more conventionally organized. That’s why I’ve stated, despite our clients being great people, they can’t always take the place of a boyfriend or social life. We have to make our own.

Edited April 8, 2018 by Mocha

[liubit]

Does anyone ever long for the regular life once in awhile?

I don’t have to long for it, I already have it. Boring me.

For example, I know of 3 people, 2 of whom I'm supposed to be "talking to" who went to Miami's gay pride this weekend. Not any of them asked me to come along.

Did you ask them to go with you?

At the same time, I’m kinda over it.

Do you want to stop escorting, @Mocha? Is that the intent of your post? If that is so, please do, run away from it as soon as you possibly can. Get a life. You don’t seem to enjoy what you do, and it will eventually take a toll on you.

That’s why I’ve stated, despite our clients being great people, they can’t always take the place of a boyfriend or social life. We have to make our own.

You are right, and neither can an escort replace a boyfriend.

[+ VictorPowers]

Yeah Mocha we don't have much Water cooler talk or work functions do we? I miss many perks my old office job provided.

[+ Kman]

Forget Facebook yeah it can be a good way to communicate with people but other than that it’s worthless. Most people’s life on facebook looks a hell of a lot better than their real life.

 

One suggestion would be to invite people to something that you would like to do.

[Mocha]

Yeah Mocha we don't have much Water cooler talk or work functions do we? I miss many perks my old office job provided.

 

Lol, well I for one never really hung out with people from work anyway. So that I don't really miss. There were people on occasion, but not regularly. At the same time, I wasn't always looking to stay in those positions I was in anyway. It seems like some industries favor "my co-workers are also my best friends" more than others.

 

I don’t have to long for it, I already have it. Boring me. Did you ask them to go with you?

Do you want to stop escorting, @Mocha? Is that the intent of your post? If that is so, please do, run away from it as soon as you possibly can. Get a life. You don’t seem to enjoy what you do, and it will eventually take a toll on you.

You are right, and neither can an escort replace a boyfriend.

 

Well you don't have to be an ass about it. I'm just speaking on a general level as it concerns the social aspects surrounding it. There's nothing to run away from, just saying as a whole...it can be isolating to a degree. Granted, I have friends and acquientences and know where to socialize if need be. But most of these interactions are with new people, whereas conventional interactions are defaulted thru work and co-workers.

[Mocha]

Forget Facebook yeah it can be a good way to communicate with people but other than that it’s worthless. Most people’s life on facebook looks a hell of a lot better than their real life.

 

One suggestion would be to invite people to something that you would like to do.

 

I'm really contemplating deleting it. I use it because it keeps me connected, and I use it for getting things I feel are important out there. But I'm starting want nothing to do with old acquientences from Denver. At the same time, I think it may be better to just naturally let people drift away/un-follow those who I don't know well rather than delete all together.

 

What really gets me about the whole thing, is how I'll either meet someone in the bar or go on a couple dates with. We exchange Facebook. 2 years later, I'm seeing these people post all of the time, and I'm like...why. Then if you ever cross paths in person, they don't even know you. One of my latest dates added me on Facebook, we were supposed to hang the night before he left to Miami. He flakes, then posts the next day that he's in Miami. Little trifling ass mother bro...

[MartyB]

Change of topic:

 

Does anyone ever long for the regular life once in awhile?

 

Though I enjoy the escort life, sometimes I miss the oppurtunity to have group or co-worker activities that many speak of. The social scene has become so popularity based. The past 2 years have been a challenge to maintain dates/friendship circles.

 

I often have a whole list of people on Facebook (which i keep separate from escort affiliations, unlike Twitter) who friend me. I’ve gotten away from adding random people, and even had to “unfollow” people who are constantly posting about themselves, but don’t input on mine. I feel once they see I don't post pictures with groups of people doing crazy stuff every weekend, they drift off. Most of the time I just post trip updates or things I’m thinking, and it’s the same 4 or 5 people who I keep in touch with. I don't have a big extended family, coworkers or belong to gay sports league (which is a topic in of itself). I feel for the most, dudes nowadays are only as interested as to what you do with yourself to attract the most Facebook likes.

 

For example, I know of 3 people, 2 of whom I'm supposed to be "talking to" who went to Miami's gay pride this weekend. Not any of them asked me to come along. Granted, I haven't known them that long...and I know how dramatic those events can be (not to mention the passing of a friend around this time last year, after a wild night in Miami- not to mention The Orlando gay bar shootout has changed the way I view big, drunken gay weekends...that “missing out” on some things can actually be a blessing).

 

At the same time, I’m kinda over it. It's the exclusion from activities that make me want to say forget all these miscellaneous acquientences, and get into something more conventionally organized. That’s why I’ve stated, despite our clients being great people, they can’t always take the place of a boyfriend or social life. We have to make our own.

Change of topic:

 

Does anyone ever long for the regular life once in awhile?

 

Though I enjoy the escort life, sometimes I miss the oppurtunity to have group or co-worker activities that many speak of. The social scene has become so popularity based. The past 2 years have been a challenge to maintain dates/friendship circles.

 

I often have a whole list of people on Facebook (which i keep separate from escort affiliations, unlike Twitter) who friend me. I’ve gotten away from adding random people, and even had to “unfollow” people who are constantly posting about themselves, but don’t input on mine. I feel once they see I don't post pictures with groups of people doing crazy stuff every weekend, they drift off. Most of the time I just post trip updates or things I’m thinking, and it’s the same 4 or 5 people who I keep in touch with. I don't have a big extended family, coworkers or belong to gay sports league (which is a topic in of itself). I feel for the most, dudes nowadays are only as interested as to what you do with yourself to attract the most Facebook likes.

 

For example, I know of 3 people, 2 of whom I'm supposed to be "talking to" who went to Miami's gay pride this weekend. Not any of them asked me to come along. Granted, I haven't known them that long...and I know how dramatic those events can be (not to mention the passing of a friend around this time last year, after a wild night in Miami- not to mention The Orlando gay bar shootout has changed the way I view big, drunken gay weekends...that “missing out” on some things can actually be a blessing).

 

At the same time, I’m kinda over it. It's the exclusion from activities that make me want to say forget all these miscellaneous acquientences, and get into something more conventionally organized. That’s why I’ve stated, despite our clients being great people, they can’t always take the place of a boyfriend or social life. We have to make our own.

 

I think that this is a very interesting discussion. A few of the escorts over the years with whom I've had a long standing thing going on I've had interesting discussions regarding the social and familial life differences. I am very envious at times of the life style of being an escort being that handsome sexy and beautiful and traveling and meeting new guys and having great sex (granted with most of us clients I hope. LoL) but then other times I'm ok with the life I do have. Some escorts have admitted that they do yearn for that and it's not easy being on the other side as you've expressed. it's a balance that must be very difficult..

[Mocha]

I think that this is a very interesting discussion. A few of the escorts over the years with whom I've had a long standing thing going on I've had interesting discussions regarding the social and familial life differences. I am very envious at times of the life style of being an escort being that handsome sexy and beautiful and traveling and meeting new guys and having great sex (granted with most of us clients I hope. LoL) but then other times I'm ok with the life I do have. Some escorts have admitted that they do yearn for that and it's not easy being on the other side as you've expressed. it's a balance that must be very difficult..

 

It’s all fun, but sex and meeting new people gets isolating at times. Sometimes having that security of same ole same ole is good too.

 

At the same time, sometimes one has to do that regardless. As I’ve said before, the reason why these hookup apps are doing so well, is because everybody is looking. Even the guys with jobs and friends and play on gay sports teams, are looking. Mofos lie and say they aren’t looking for anything. Well why is the Ho on Grindr Fo? He’s looking.

 

I feel that until something becomes officially monogamous (and not just after a couple hot fuck sessions where it sounds good), I’m just going to keep myself open to interactions. I think that’s the sensible, responsible, non-clingy way to be. I’m not going to worry that I’m cheating, just because I feel all gushy inside about someone I went on a couple dates with...and will likely not go anywhere after those 2 meets.

 

...but I did go on a date tonight and I’m feeling all gushy inside (no, I don’t mean in my ass), let’s see if I can practice what I preach or will I get hooked lol.