Your thoughts: Making Recommendations and the Vetting Process

[+ freecahill1965]

In another post, I was a bit taken back by the attack @marylander1940 from others over recommendations not working out. There have been a few recommendations that have not worked out for me. I in no way contributed it to the recommender. There are so many different variables. If you are a top. I recommend and still recommend Kookoosnaz. Some of his pictures are fake even though his body is even better in my opinion. Some use fake pictures for valid personal reasons. The fake pictures did not prevent my positive experience. Sometimes the chemistry does not work and sometimes the research is not good enough which can also cause a poor experience. For example, they check off kissing but do not use their tongue or check off oral but they only like to receive and not give. Worse, the check off safe and use a condom for oral. All mistakes I made because I needed to better fine tune my vetting process. I love this forum because it is about all learning from each other.

 

The real purpose of the post for all those that have read this far is what vetting process do you use to maximize results for yourself and can you share your worst error in the process?

[+ Tarte Gogo]

what vetting process do you use to maximize results for yourself and can you share your worst error in the process?

My main vetting process is: accept it isn’t going to be perfect.

He doesn’t kiss? Pity, but I’ll still get an orgasm, so fine.

 

More seriously, here is mine:

1. Check reviews on daddy

2. If nothing, check for pictures and phone number on google

3. If nothing bad, ask for feedback here

4. If nothing, check on rentmen reviews with the previous reviewers via direct message.

5. If all good on the above, send the escort a description of what you expect him to do. Observe his replies.

 

Then it is your job to read all the red flags in these interactions. If you can’t see any red flag, take the plunge, hire him, and report here.

[+ JEC]

Interesting topic re: vetting. I am a mere grasshopper and hoping to create more reliable experiences. Welcome others' thoughts....

[Islesguy]

My main vetting process is: accept it isn’t going to be perfect.

He doesn’t kiss? Pity, but I’ll still get an orgasm, so fine.

 

More seriously, here is mine:

1. Check reviews on daddy

2. If nothing, check for pictures and phone number on google

3. If nothing bad, ask for feedback here

4. If nothing, check on rentmen reviews with the previous reviewers via direct message.

5. If all good on the above, send the escort a description of what you expect him to do. Observe his replies.

 

Then it is your job to read all the red flags in these interactions. If you can’t see any red flag, take the plunge, hire him, and report here.

 

How do you check pictures on Google?

[+ Tarte Gogo]

How do you check pictures on Google?

Image.google.com

 

Then put the full web address of the picture you want to reverse-search.

 

Or upload it from your hard drive if you have saved the image locally.

[bigvalboy]

I only use two methods.

 

1) Word of mouth from "trusted" friends or forum members.

2) (Preferred method) Personal interaction from the strippers. You can learn a lot from hanging out with the boys and in a lap dance. If they pass that test, then I move on to inquiries about hiring out side of the club.

 

My worst error was trusting a forum members advice that I didn't know that well. Untested...I flew to another city to hire a "top shelf" escort for the weekend. He had years of stellar reviews, but in the end, it was an unmitigated disaster from the moment I landed. Within 5 mins I knew it would all go south. but back in the day, I put escorts on a pedestal, and thought more of them than I did myself. Looking back, of course I was a fool. I have not made that same mistake again...EVER!!! I should have paid half the fee and turned around and got the first flight out. Lessoned learned. As with everything, your mileage will vary.

[MikeyGMin]

My worst error was trusting a forum members advice that I didn't know that well.

Just curious. How do you set the bar for "knowing" a forum member well? Personal interaction at one of the meetups or just interaction through the forum itself?

 

I have never met anyone from the forum in the real world, but via PMs and shared providers, there are several members that I trust completely. Others that I would believe, but I know we don't have similar tastes, so I wouldn't assume their recommendation would work for me. Others that have such an obviously different style than me, I would almost be tempted to go the opposite of their positive or negative opinion.

[+ VictorPowers]

I only use two methods.

 

but back in the day, I put escorts on a pedestal.

No pedestal needed! We are mere mortals!

[TruHart1]

No pedestal needed! We are mere mortals!

Yes, perhaps "mere" mortals, but in your case, @VictorPowers, with the hunky body and love-making knowledge of a gorgeous Greek or Roman god!!!

 

TruHart1

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

I put escorts on a pedestal

I saw that in a muscle-worship video.

[bigvalboy]

Just curious. How do you set the bar for "knowing" a forum member well? Personal interaction at one of the meetups or just interaction through the forum itself?

 

I would only trust the opinion of a forum member that I had personal met with. I have only gone to one of the meet-ups, but over the course of several years living in LA and FTL, I have met a couple of dozen or so members. Although some are no longer active, I have kept up with them, and several have become great friends. I would trust their opinions completely.

[body2body]

I have found that reviews on Daddy's and recommendations from members in the forum can be helpful. However, not fool proof. I have found that you need to consider how each reviewers tastes and preferences align with yours. For example I am pretty sure that most of the guys reviewed positively by @Andy2 would be a good choice for me. We have similar tastes and have given positive reviews to the same guys on occasion.

Early on I had two of the worst escort experiences ever. Both involved escorts with dozens of positive reviews. Both were guys with an almost continuous presence in the Forum. One turned out to be someone with whom I had no chemistry. I had booked two hours with him and we spent the time trying to do anything that would turn the other on. The second disaster, again with a very highly regarded guy with many reviews was due to our very disparate approaches to sex. He reminded me of a cook who thinks any dish will be better with more cheese, more garlic, more spices. His kissing was like a roto-rooter, when he went for my nips, it was with a mouthful of teeth sharpened with a file. But, if I had read more reviews written I would have realized the guys giving him the positive reviews all valued his level of intensity and regarded it as his being passionate. Right for them, not right for me. Learn who's tastes align with yours and you can find better experiences.

[MikeyGMin]

I actually don't pay that much attention to the text of the reviews or even comments from Forum members other than:

1. Are the pictures accurate?
   
2. Did he live up to whatever was agreed upon?
   

The exception would be if someone said the provider wouldn't kiss it all. That would be a red flag. Everything else is so subjective.

[jojo]

I never ever ever let my "little head" make decisions for my "big head". Additionally, regardless of the information I have on any man, I will not hire him without a face to face or phone conversation. I let him choose---if face to face, I will buy a meal or beverage at a place of his choosing and for a face to face for 45 to 60 minutes I offer $100-$150 and make clear this is a time for us to see if there is comfort between us. I also let him know my engagement time is usually 2 hours or better.

[+ 5280Dane]

Reviews and feedback here have saved me more than once. Currently there is a fake in the city I live and info here saved me from an uncomfortable situation - not that I’m afraid to call them out. It just makes it harder for the legit ones to get the credibility they deserve.

 

For those guys I’ve met though, Ill go the extra mile with kind words.

[buckguy]

The more gushing the fanboys are about someone here, the more likely you are to be disappointed. Thoughtful negative reviews or thoughtful negative comments on the forum shouldn't be a deal breaker but should help you decide if someone fits your needs. Vagueness in communication should be a red flag. There always are more fish in the sea. Don't forget that.

[+ harey]

I’m writing this from my hotel bar killing time with some mediocre fries and excellent vodka, waiting for a regular escort to arrive. This post reminds me to be happy about my regulars and the certainty that I’ll have at least a very nice time and maybe a wonderful experience. I still have occasional first times with new escorts and of course that can be hit or miss. For me the key to effective vetting is common sense. I don’t have a set formula but do value Daddy’s reviews and forum comments. If he looks “real” and has appealing photos, that can be enough. Instead of seeking confirmation that an escort is a safe bet, I’m more likey to scan for red flags that would be a deal breaker.

 

Even after a thorough investigation and internet stalking, we can never really be sure. A first time could be awesome - or lousy. I like the excitement and uncertainty. The mistake I sometimes make is forgetting to confirm enough details with a new guy before a meeting, because I’m used to seeing men I’ve met before. I’m working on that.

[TruthBTold]

My main vetting process is: accept it isn’t going to be perfect.

He doesn’t kiss? Pity, but I’ll still get an orgasm, so fine.

More seriously, here is mine:

1. Check reviews on daddy

2. If nothing, check for pictures and phone number on google

3. If nothing bad, ask for feedback here

4. If nothing, check on rentmen reviews with the previous reviewers via direct message.

5. If all good on the above, send the escort a description of what you expect him to do. Observe his replies.

Then it is your job to read all the red flags in these interactions. If you can’t see any red flag, take the plunge, hire him, and report here.

 

Definitely agree with all these. However, I have in the past also tried to get as much information as I can that would give me a picture of what the escort will or won't do. I do this by searching for discussions that have been had about the escort. If there have been but there was not as extensive as I would like, I PM the person that wrote the post. I explain that they are under no obligation to answer me but that I had some specific questions about the escort they had mentioned being with. I then ask specifically about what the escort will do that I was interested in having done, e.g., anal, rimming, oral, kissing. I also ask about the escort's personality and if they had a good time with the escort. Some posters are really explicit and some are not so but at least I tried. Of course, I always realize that I still have to communicate with the escort about the same thing but for some reason I feel more relaxed having already discussed it with someone who has been with him.