Asked for rate upfront

[Pulgasari1991]

I sometimes read that customers get offended/turned off when asked to show the money upfront.

 

Considering the case where it is a first time and there are no surprises: photos are real, session going as expected (both time and activity); what does that imply exactly for the customer?

 

e.g. "avoiding future sessions"

"relevantly higher chance of session being ungood"

Etc.

[Chuckball]

As a client I always pay cash up front. Those few guys I see as regulars never ask but seem to appreciate getting the commercial part of the transaction out of the way first. There can be snafus from time to time. Once I was with an extremely hot escort who received a telephone call 15 minutes into our session ordering him to return immediately to the movie set where he was working. He offered to return my payment in full but I refused since the first 15 minutes were hotter than many encounters lasting hours. I have since become friends as well as a customer. I have never been offended putting the cash up front.

[wearytraveller]

To me, "showing" the money and paying upfront are two different things. I always make sure the donation is visible on a table or dresser; this confirms a willingness and ability to pay. When the meeting is over, the donation is taken, if the situation warrants, I can increase the donation. I have never taken money back or asked for a reduction because things didn't go as well as expected. A deal is a deal, money for time and if the time didn't go as well as expected, I didn't do enough due diligence or I was willing to take a calculated risk. However, I would be offended if my companion walked in and immediately pocketed the donation prior to any interaction taking place.

[+ WhamIAm]

As a client I always pay cash up front.

 

First time I ever saw someone was in Cape Town, SA. Guy told me very nicely over the phone that he wanted to be paid up front. No worries.

 

First time I saw a guy in the US (well-known guy) I tried to pay before. He adamantly refused and told me not to do that as it raised legal concerns. Makes some sense from a sting sense -- LE isn't going to go through with the deed, though a case might be made off prior communications.

 

I hire a lot and have never been asked for upfront payment since. It would make me suspicious from a safety/crime POV, not so much LE. (I do leave an envelope in plain view).

[Chuckball]

First time I ever saw someone was in Cape Town, SA. Guy told me very nicely over the phone that he wanted to be paid up front. No worries.

 

First time I saw a guy in the US (well-known guy) I tried to pay before. He adamantly refused and told me not to do that as it raised legal concerns. Makes some sense from a sting sense -- LE isn't going to go through with the deed, though a case might be made off prior communications.

 

I hire a lot and have never been asked for upfront payment since. It would make me suspicious from a safety/crime POV, not so much LE. (I do leave an envelope in plain view).

I think you are right that legal concerns should be considered. I am less concerned since escorting is not a crime in Canada where I live.

[MikeyGMin]

I think it's just based on experiences that clients have throughout the years. As mentioned, showing the money and giving the money are two different things, but both start the meeting from a place of suspicion.

 

I have been asked to show the money once and asked to give the money once. Both sessions were terrible meetings. To me, it felt like they came into it knowing they weren't going to put much into the session.

 

Now it's probably become a self-fulfilling prophecy in my head. If someone were to ask for the money up front, I would expect a lousy session and probably deliver one myself.

[+ Funguy]

I've never been asked for upfront, never left it out or visible, verify amount after the session (actually sometimes less than usual rate when we are both having a hugely terrific time), count it out plus a tip and hand it over afterward.

[wklucas]

With a lot of hiring in my rearview / under my belt - I have never been asked to pay upfront when the guy arrives nor ever have had a guy tell me before meeting that being paid on arrival was his policy.....I have no clear idea but (with a new-to-me hire), whatever "vibe" I give off when we first meet, I think the guy just knows that getting his payment is not going to be an issue.....the funniest stories which have been related here a few times - escort insists on getting paid upfront on arrival.....then remembers that he forgot something in his car.....& he never returns.....of course the escorts in those cases are scum.....but the clients for allowing that to happen / falling for that ploy have to share the blame.....other situations where escorts threaten violence or whatever over payment issues - again never happened (yet) to me.....but open up a whole different conversation.

[johnjohn]

as a client, it throws up red flags when provider asks for $$ upfront, whenever i have done it, it has never turned out well.

[+ Phactor]

Each time I hire, I show the companion that I have the agreed amount in cash and place it in visible spot, such as a table or cabinet so they know they will be compensated for their time. I would be offended if the companion asked to show the money at the beginning of the appointment. However, if the companion asked to be given the payment upfront, I would thank them for the introduction and ask them to leave.

[Riley Wynters]

I have had clients who have insisted on paying me up-front, but I rarely ask to receive payment upfront. The only reason that I could think of to have a reason to ask for money up front would be if it were a repeat client who shorted me before (or just not paid for the first session)

[+ DERRIK]

I have had the unfortunate experience of an escort on the forum searching my hotel room at 4 am and sneaking off in the middle of an overnight

[+ nycman]

Never done it.

 

Never will.

 

Never had a problem walking whenever someone insisted that I do.

[BigK]

The only time I paid upfront I got screwed...and I'm not a bottom!

[GTMike]

Interesting experiences. I've never been asked for payment "upfront" but did once have a provider ask to "see" money but that was a good 30 - 40 minutes into conversation at a public spot (cuz at that time i wasn't comfortable having people i hadn't met to my place). Other than that one exception i typically know enough about the provider in advance and let them know I'll commit to 2 hours so we can get to know each other and feel comfortable (absolutely nothing happens during that initial time except chit chat) but for them to leave to leave their schedule open as i typically will end up doing an overnight. Almost always then after about the first ~2 - 3 hours of "vibing", I'll then unpromted insist on giving them ~1/2 of the full overnight rate so they're comfortabe in knowing, "I'm real and serious" which they've all been appreciative of and didn't "expect" (or acted like it, haha) and then just give them the other half in the morning and so far it's always totally worked out well.