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I found my escort today who I see several times a year when he travels to DC in the Facebook section on "people you may know". What a small world it is that we have several mutual friends. I now know his real name and his other occupation. I am tempted to make a friend request but haven't since I don't want to break his anonymity. What would you do?

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I found my escort today who I see several times a year when he travels to DC in the Facebook section on "people you may know". What a small world it is that we have several mutual friends. I now know his real name and his other occupation. I am tempted to make a friend request but haven't since I don't want to break his anonymity. What would you do?

 

I had the same thing happen to me. But I also felt our relationship went beyond escorting and we had become friends and genuinely interested interested in each other. My suggestion is to maybe PM him and explain he has come up as a FB suggestion, and would it be OK to become FB friends. I think he would appreciate a quick discussion before you send a friend request and then he's confronted with a choice, especially if he wants to keep things separate. Not that we want to get into that debate, but there are guys who want/need to be on DL.

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I had the same thing happen to me. But I also felt our relationship went beyond escorting and we had become friends and genuinely interested interested in each other. My suggestion is to maybe PM him and explain he has come up as a FB suggestion, and would it be OK to become FB friends. I think he would appreciate a quick discussion before you send a friend request and then he's confronted with a choice, especially if he wants to keep things separate. Not that we want to get into that debate, but there are guys who want/need to be on DL.

 

Keep your nose out of his private business. If you've developed a relationship to a point where knowing him other than by his nom de plume, then ASK.

 

Or be really good at stalking.

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I have 2 FB pages, one under my birth name, the other under this, my professional name. I tried for the longest time to keep them seperate, but I now have so many friends that are on both (including my mom and twin sister), that I've pretty much given up. My life is an open book so I've stopped worrying.

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Please don't friend request. I have had clients do this and I kindly decline. I have been FB stalked too and questioned about my personal business. It can turn a relationship sour. Everyone is different but tread lightly.

 

Agreed.

 

If you're wanting to connect on Facebook, next time you're with him mention Facebook in general, and see how he reacts. If he expresses an interest in connecting and sharing that aspect of his life, then that's one thing, but if not then leave it alone.

 

Same works in reverse with escorts coming across client profiles. Some people are quite open to sharing, others prefer to keep things more private and separate.

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Chances are that if he came up as a suggested friend for you you probably came up on his FB as well. That's what I hate about FB it collects way too much personal information. I think it's more prevalent if you use the FB app on your phone. It reviews the phone number you called, emails you sent, web sites you have been to, etc. I've had guys I inquired about but didn't meet for whatever reason show up as suggested friends. Or something I shopped for online shows up a day or so later as an ad on my FB. I've also had the person I communicated with their friend or relative show up and not them. I usually try to figure out why someone I don't know comes up as a suggestion because it freaks me out sometimes. Sometimes I can't for the life of me make the connection. That's the reason why I put very little personal info on Social Media and don't understand why other 's do (not condemning anyone to each their own). Too big brotherish for me but then again I'm middle aged and maybe considered paranoid, what do I know

 

In this situation I would never friend someone with out discussing it with them 1st and I would make sure they know I didn't go looking for them but FB being the invasive data miner that is brought them to me. I don't want to be perceived as a stalker. And if I looked at their FB I wouldn't immediately divulge any commonalities we have before I know how they react initially. Again it might seem stalkerish. Escorts who desire/demand anonymity might want to disassociate there phone & email from FB or have a separate burner phone or something like a Google Voice number for business purpose and not expose it in anyway to FFB (that's not a typo either the 1st F stands for a nice expletive). That's my 2 cents I hope nobody offers to give me change...LOL

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I first joined FB because an escort I'd gotten to know more as a friend than anything else sent me a friend request via email. I've occasionally had escorts I'd never met as friend suggestions under their real names. I've never friended them as it didn't seem to make sense.

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