Inquiry Etiquette

[geoduck_007]

Question for anyone with insight or knowledge about this.

 

After building up the confidence to reach out to some of these gentleman, I've actually had some great, positive encounters.

 

There is an escort that I've been interested in meeting up with. They had an expired profile on rent.men that they occasionally logged into, but they have had a fairly open history of escorting and experience in the adult industry, so I felt that they were still 'in the business' (so to speak). I sent an e-mail, but never heard back after two months.

 

I inadvertently came across this same escort on a masseur finder.com. The active/current advertisement was under 'gay massage'. The ad focuses on their mesage business, not escorting.

 

I thought about making a friendly inquiry to see if they would still offer escort services, but thought it may not be appropriate. I'm sure men come and leave this business all the time and it's best to respect that.

 

That said, with the advertisement for gay masseuse service (?) is it okay to politely and descretely approach them and ask if they still escort? Or is this not appropriate?

 

Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!

[BigK]

I think it's fine to ask and the likely answer is yes he will escort. There are many reasons he may have dropped his rentmen ad including cost and concerns about revealing his identity and legal issues.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Totally fine, even if they didn't escort in the past, on masseur finder, everyone knows many of the clients are looking for more than a massage, and they know what their own boundaries are, it is just that they cannot openly advertise them. so they know you have to ask to figure it out.

[rvwnsd]

I agree with @BigK and @Tarte Gogo - it is OK to ask if they still escort. The worst that will happen is he says "no."

 

And welcome to the forum.

[+ Autumnal]

I always told my kids "if you don't ask, the answer is always no - ask and the answer might be yes".

[LADoug1]

It's ok to ask. Maybe his RM ad has just lapsed and he needs to repost it.

[rvwnsd]

@geoduck_007, I didn't think of this when I originally posted, but a couple of years ago I saw a massage guy's ad and thought "hmm, he might be a fun escort." So I sent hm a note that looked something like this:

 

 

 

"Hi [name of guy],

 

Your ads here on masseurfinder as well as backpage caught my eye and I thought I would drop you a line and see if we have complimentary interests.

 

Basically, I like to [insert what you like to do]

 

Let me know whether this is something you could accommodate.

 

Cheers!

 

rvwnsd"

 

We had a great time when we got together.

[gallahadesquire]

If a Diplomat says "yes," he means "maybe."

If he says "maybe," he means "no."

If he says "no," he's no Diplomat.

 

If a Lady says "no," she means "maybe;"

If she says "maybe," she means "yes;" and

If she says "yes," she ain't no lady!

[geoduck_007]

@geoduck_007, I didn't think of this when I originally posted, but a couple of years ago I saw a massage guy's ad and thought "hmm, he might be a fun escort." So I sent hm a note that looked something like this:

 

 

 

"Hi [name of guy],

 

Your ads here on masseurfinder as well as backpage caught my eye and I thought I would drop you a line and see if we have complimentary interests.

 

Basically, I like to [insert what you like to do]

 

Let me know whether this is something you could accommodate.

 

Cheers!

 

rvwnsd"

 

We had a great time when we got together.

 

rvwnsd,

 

Thank you for the suggestion - I modified your prose a bit and e-mailed him today. No response yet, but fingers crossed...

 

I appreciate everyone's great responses as well!

[rvwnsd]

rvwnsd,

 

Thank you for the suggestion - I modified your prose a bit and e-mailed him today. No response yet, but fingers crossed...

 

I appreciate everyone's great responses as well!

Wait - you didn't write "[insert what you like to do]"?

 

Of course, I am kidding.

 

Very glad I could help you. Keep us posted about the outcome.