Etiquette question

[coasternut]

A favorite of mine has obviously become a favorite of many as his overnight fee has increased incrementally from $1000 per night to now $2000 a night for travel. Is it appropriate to ask if I still quality for my initial contracted price, or should I just realize if I want to meet this young man again that it is the 2 grand a night. These visits are usually fly in's for both of us and involve shows, etc., making for an already expensive weekend.

[oldhat]

A favorite of mine has obviously become a favorite of many as his overnight fee has increased incrementally from $1000 per night to now $2000 a night for travel. Is it appropriate to ask if I still quality for my initial contracted price, or should I just realize if I want to meet this young man again that it is the 2 grand a night. These visits are usually fly in's for both of us and involve shows, etc., making for an already expensive weekend.

 

Depending on your relationship to this gentleman, I would suggest initiating a conversation about grandfathering you at his original rate.

[bigvalboy]

A favorite of mine has obviously become a favorite of many as his overnight fee has increased incrementally from $1000 per night to now $2000 a night for travel. Is it appropriate to ask if I still quality for my initial contracted price, or should I just realize if I want to meet this young man again that it is the 2 grand a night. These visits are usually fly in's for both of us and involve shows, etc., making for an already expensive weekend.

 

Pay the new rate.

[LookingAround]

Pay the old rate. Really.

[thonglovertx]

How do you know it went up - from him personally or from seeing his ad somewhere? I'd say unless he tells you his rate has gone up, I'd keep paying the original rate.

[+ Kufrol]

If you had a good rapport and are comfortable with this approach, say something like, "I apologize in advance if this crosses boundaries, but would you consider seeing me at the old rate?"

[LaffingBear]

That's a big increase. I would normally advocate just paying the new rate. But for a 100% increase....

 

I'd probably just ask "so how much is it again?" when making the appointment..... and see what he says.

 

Honestly, unless he was a life-changing experience, I'd probably stop hiring someone whose rate doubled. I've hired some phenomenal guys in my time... but I know myself. If I'd been paying someone $1000 for something, and a few months later he said it would be $2000.... I'd pass.

 

(hypothetically) I might buy a new Toyota every 2 years. When it goes from $37,000 to $38,500 to $40,250..... no problem. If its suddenly $75,000 2 years later.... I'm going to be driving something else, no matter how much I loved that Toyota model. I might even pay $75,000 for another make/model. But I just couldn't bring myself to incur that big an increase on a substantial expense for the same thing.

[gallahadesquire]

That's a big increase. I would normally advocate just paying the new rate. But for a 100% increase....

 

I'd probably just ask "so how much is it again?" when making the appointment..... and see what he says.

 

Honestly, unless he was a life-changing experience, I'd probably stop hiring someone whose rate doubled. I've hired some phenomenal guys in my time... but I know myself. If I'd been paying someone $1000 for something, and a few months later he said it would be $2000.... I'd pass.

 

(hypothetically) I might buy a new Toyota every 2 years. When it goes from $37,000 to $38,500 to $40,250..... no problem. If its suddenly $75,000 2 years later.... I'm going to be driving something else, no matter how much I loved that Toyota model. I might even pay $75,000 for another make/model. But I just couldn't bring myself to incur that big an increase on a substantial expense for the same thing.

 

Just a random comment: I have a 2006 Lexus RX hybrid. Replacing it would cost a little more than what it cost me ten years ago. The problem is I hate the styling and the infortainment unit, so I'm going to the top-of-the-line Highlander hybrid, which costs the same as both Lexi. [Hmm ... that didn't kick off the spell check]. And many more features.

[+ VictorPowers]

If you had a good rapport and are comfortable with this approach, say something like, "I apologize in advance if this crosses boundaries, but would you consider seeing me at the old rate?"

I like this approach. You could even "meet in the middle" at 1,500. If there's a good relationship there, I'm sure he wouldn't mind. Everyone is different. Good luck.

[bigvalboy]

I like this approach. You could even "meet in the middle" at 1,500. If there's a good relationship there, I'm sure he wouldn't mind. Everyone is different. Good luck.

 

If you doubled your rate, I'd gladly pay it, and more....

[Nomadic]

I like many of the suggestions here, but I would probably phrase it a bit differently, something that might get a response more to your liking. Based on what you've said about your prior evening with him I would say ...

 

"Last time we got together, we flew into 'insert city name', had a nice dinner, went to a show (or whatever memorable things you did) ... and your rate was $1k. If we did something similar going to 'insert next city name', what is your rate like now?"

 

If he enjoyed himself and would like more of the same, he'll keep you at your initial rate or make a smaller adjustment. Good luck ...

[+ goosh69]

From the escort POV you are known quantity versus many random flakes. Do it's not like buying a car. It does not hurt to ask. He might be willing to offer you a discount to avoid hassle with randoms.

[MassageDrew]

I have two regulars that I hire. Both have seen an increase in their business and I have noticed their new rates as well. One charges me the new rate but the other charges me the old rate. I asked both of them just so both of us are on the same page what rate we're working with.

[caliguy]

A favorite of mine has obviously become a favorite of many as his overnight fee has increased incrementally from $1000 per night to now $2000 a night for travel.

The demand is higher then he can now provide so he's screening out the cheaper ones to make room for the big spenders. Simple supply and demand economics. Expecting half rates at this point will only make you a low priority if at all.

[LADoug1]

Communication is king. I'd ask if he'd grandfather me in. If not I'd ask if we could meet in the middle. If not I'd probably pass.

[handiacefailure]

That's a huge increase and I'd make sure you are clear on what the rate will be. And if you are providing him dinner and a show, etc he may be fine with the $1,000 which is a lot of money to get tax free with little/no overhead. There's no way I could get away with doubling my billing rate and most other professionals couldn't get away with it either.

 

An escort I met in NYC a couple weeks ago had his price at $250 when I contacted him and he increased it on RM to $300 the day we were to meet and I texted him to be clear he would accept $250. I was a little hesitant to pay him $250 even since he doesn't have any reviews other than first timers and $300 would have been a deal breaker. He said $250 was fine and ended up being a lot of fun and he was into fetishes I'm also into but I wouldn't hire him again if he wants $350

[jawjateck]

I never assume I'm grandfathered. I ask. I always ask, before every appointment, no matter how many times I've been with a companion. I ask because rates change, both up and down. I ask because my meeting proposal rarely corresponds to a published rate. I ask because a companion may vary his rates depending on the city he visits. With regard to overnights, I am usually not quoted the same figure that appears in the ad. Perhaps, my night has more or fewer hours that the companion considers an overnight, or perhaps, the companion is extending me a frequent-client discount, or perhaps, he has changed his rates but not yet updated his ad.

 

I always ask, and when a companion increases his rate to a level that exceeds his skill set and value (to me), I move along.

[Mydavid]

I once met an escort on RM, who had a clear rates on his profile, so I never mentioned that. He decreased his rates during we were communicating about the appointment. I thought I should pay him the rates when we decided the date for the appointment. But when we met, he insisted that I should pay him the rates when I sent him the first message. I didn't feel well, so I paid without a tip and I never returned even though I had a good time.

[Pepper Young]

I always pay what they ask for, no questions. But $2000 for an overnight strikes me as sort of pricey. I'd ask for the old rate but be prepared to move on.

[MscleLovr]

I think it is entirely appropriate to ask. I particularly like the phrasing suggested by Nomadic. It is the only way you'll find out what your favorite feels is the right rate for your meeting with him.

 

Some years ago I had a similar issue. I had 4 short sessions (of 2 hours) with a 21year old muscleboy. He had just started in the business but he was able to charge a high rate because he was handsome, naturally blond with a beautiful ripped physique and great in bed (as a dedicated bottom and devoted cocksucker). He already knew what I enjoyed doing and having done to me, so I was startled that he suggested a very high rate for our first overnight date (2x the then going rate).

 

I countered that for an overnight I had in mind to take him out to eat at a good restaurant. This would be after drinks at my place and full action in bed, and on returning we'd play for a short while before sleeping a solid 7 hours. I added that in the morning I'd enjoy getting oral to completion. He readily agreed and then quoted me a rate that was half the going rate! When I asked about the dramatic reduction in his suggested rate, he explained that he'd only had a couple of overnight dates previously. These dates were with energetic men (late 20s-30s) who did not take him out and simply wanted to top him 5x-6x during the night.

 

He decided that he liked me, and that my idea of an overnight was what he expected to perform in say 2 short sessions combined. So our discussion resulted in my getting a rate I'd never have requested. And he and I had an extremely close and productive relationship for a couple of years afterwards.