No gaydar, no guts

[LaffingBear]

Does anyone have any luck capitalizing on uncertain hookup opportunities?

 

There's a contractor here doing several days work. We had a lengthy conversation last week. I learned he's married, has gay relatives and seems very open minded. Told him I'm gay.

 

He's my idea of a burly hunk. Its all eye of the beholder, but he works on me.

 

Today he knocked on my door to give me a project update, and I invited him in. He's smiling, friendly, stayed much much longer than the update required. I sat on the stairs, while he stood only a few feet away. I kept the conversation going.

 

I was cheesy even. "Geez, arent you roasting in gray and black long pants, shirts, etc?" Its over 100° here. I offered him eye drops when he reported he'd gotten grit in his contact lens. I asked him not to have his work boots on my white carpet, which resulted in him stepping closer to my seated position. I actually felt the urge to say something crazy-suggestive, or even gesture.

 

He eventually just left.

 

My gaydar sucks. Those who know me would confirm. I have wishdar, but no gaydar. Or whatever radar identifies possibilities with straight guys.

 

So, my question is... does anyone have tools for such circumstances? Are there code words? Opening phrases. Am I supposed to run get a popsicle from the freezer? "Accidentally" leave porn playing, audible, in the next room?

 

Of course I'd prefer the fantasy outcome. But I'd even be satisfied with confirmation nothing will happen. Oh.... and since he's partway through a major repair, I dont want to realize I've made a massive mistake, and offend or scare him, so that he departs before finishing the job.

[sincitymix]

Does anyone have any luck capitalizing on uncertain hookup opportunities?

 

There's a contractor here doing several days work. We had a lengthy conversation last week. I learned he's married, has gay relatives and seems very open minded. Told him I'm gay.

 

He's my idea of a burly hunk. Its all eye of the beholder, but he works on me.

 

Today he knocked on my door to give me a project update, and I invited him in. He's smiling, friendly, stayed much much longer than the update required. I sat on the stairs, while he stood only a few feet away. I kept the conversation going.

 

I was cheesy even. "Geez, arent you roasting in gray and black long pants, shirts, etc?" Its over 100° here. I offered him eye drops when he reported he'd gotten grit in his contact lens. I asked him not to have his work boots on my white carpet, which resulted in him stepping closer to my seated position. I actually felt the urge to say something crazy-suggestive, or even gesture.

 

He eventually just left.

 

My gaydar sucks. Those who know me would confirm. I have wishdar, but no gaydar. Or whatever radar identifies possibilities with straight guys.

 

So, my question is... does anyone have tools for such circumstances? Are there code words? Opening phrases. Am I supposed to run get a popsicle from the freezer? "Accidentally" leave porn playing, audible, in the next room?

 

Of course I'd prefer the fantasy outcome. But I'd even be satisfied with confirmation nothing will happen. Oh.... and since he's partway through a major repair, I dont want to realize I've made a massive mistake, and offend or scare him, so that he departs before finishing the job.

 

I think you had something there

[LaffingBear]

I think you had something there

Not just had...

 

Hes not done with his work. Planned status update tomorrow.

[+ purplekow]

If he has admitted to being gay friendly, I would just ask how gay friendly he is. You might mention Pride Week or some such and then just ask. He is not going to run away from the money from the job and while you risk having some awkward moments then and in the future, you also may wind up with some construction bear cock.

Being coy went out with the Victorians.

So it is time to put on your big boy pants and maybe, if the stars are aligned, he will take them off for you.

[+ José Soplanucas]

First, let him finish the job. You will have more time to get acquainted and develop trust, and your priority is getting the contract done. Bringing something else to the equation could ruin your professional/work relationship or could delay the completion of the task.

Once the work is done, what may work to get into his pants varies according to your styles/personalities, although keep in mind that often gay friendliness does not mean they want to fuck or they are curious, but it means they are confident and comfortable in their heterosexuality. Let's hope this is not that case.

What it works for me is being direct. I would wait until the contract is almost done (developing rapport throughout the working time), would share a joint or a drink, and I would ask if he ever thought of doing it with a man, after bringing the topic in less obvious ways. I have been successful in similar situations only twice in my whole life. Maybe someone else has a better record and can give more experienced advice.

[+ WilliamM]

So it is time to put on your big boy pants and maybe, if the stars are aligned, he will take them off for you.

 

Please read @latbear4blk's response.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Let the man do his work.

 

Don't muck up what could be a good job with your libido.

[+ purplekow]

According to John Greenleaf Whittier in Maud Muller

 

'God pity them both! and pity us all,

Who vainly the dreams of youth recall.

 

For of all sad words of tongue or pen,

The saddest are these: "It might have been!""

 

http://www.bartleby.com/102/76.html

[LaffingBear]

Exposing your abs or other tempting and suggestive assets is one way. If his eyes and attention are directed to your assets then drop a line like:

 

"Can I check out your tool box"?

LOL.

 

My washboard abs are covered by a sizeable pile of laundry.

[LaffingBear]

Let the man do his work.

 

Don't muck up what could be a good job with your libido.

And THAT is likely what I'll do.

 

I just got a little distracted, as it seemed very odd how long he hung around inside, me seated sort-of at his feet.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Exposing your abs or other tempting and suggestive assets is one way. If his eyes and attention are directed to your assets then drop a line like:

 

"Can I check out your tool box"?

http://31.media.tumblr.com/92d71422d374b35d2a7f935fb4e98269/tumblr_n1txs2snOg1t9j2fvo1_500.gif

[+ HornyRetiree]

I just got a little distracted, as it seemed very odd how long he hung around inside, me seated sort-of at his feet.

 

Once the job is finished, you may be able to "tip" him with a good Blow Job or two or three:):)

 

Keep being friendly and building the connection!

[Deadlift1]

You had him until you told him to get off your white carpet.

[MassageDrew]

You had him until you told him to get off your white carpet.

 

Hahaha, now he thinks you're prissy

[+ purplekow]

He might have thought that just because he had white carpet.

Hahaha, now he thinks you're prissy

[instudiocity]

And THAT is likely what I'll do.

 

I just got a little distracted, as it seemed very odd how long he hung around inside, me seated sort-of at his feet.

It was 100 degrees outside!