I HATE vague communications

[LaffingBear]

Just venting... no point to this. Kvetch, kvetch, kvetch.

 

I see an escort i like on RM. RM shows the date he arrives in my city.

 

I message: i see you will be here next week. I am interested in an appointment.

 

He replies promptly: i arrive next Wednesday, my number is (123) 555-wxyz.

 

(Uhhhh, i already knew arrival date)

 

I send back message: would you like to make appointment now, or wait until you are here in town?

 

He replies: OK Perfect [with some thumbs-up emojis]

 

Now what? I dont really care what he thinks of me in the long run, but i dont want to continue back & forth messages... or calls... only to have him decide I'm a pest, not worth scheduling.

Somehow, when others celebrate taking the road less-traveled, I end up on the one that's full of potholes and freshly tarred.

 

Anyway....

[YoungAD]

Just venting... no point to this. Kvetch, kvetch, kvetch.

 

I see an escort i like on RM. RM shows the date he arrives in my city.

 

I message: i see you will be here next week. I am interested in an appointment.

 

He replies promptly: i arrive next Wednesday, my number is (123) 555-wxyz.

 

(Uhhhh, i already knew arrival date)

 

I send back message: would you like to make appointment now, or wait until you are here in town?

 

He replies: OK Perfect [with some thumbs-up emojis]

 

Now what? I dont really care what he thinks of me in the long run, but i dont want to continue back & forth messages... or calls... only to have him decide I'm a pest, not worth scheduling.

Somehow, when others celebrate taking the road less-traveled, I end up on the one that's full of potholes and freshly tarred.

 

Anyway....

 

Why would you complain that the escort has clarified his arrival day? And regarding "vague" communications, you did not exactly try to pin down a specific appointment time yourself. "Next week" is a rather large swath of time, is it not?

 

Perhaps I am missing something.

[LaffingBear]

Perhaps I am missing something.

 

I asked

 

"Would you like to schedule the appointment now, or should i wait to call for an appointment after you arrive in town? "

 

He answered

 

"OK, perfect"

[+ sync]

Just venting... no point to this. Kvetch, kvetch, kvetch.

 

I see an escort i like on RM. RM shows the date he arrives in my city.

 

I message: i see you will be here next week. I am interested in an appointment.

 

He replies promptly: i arrive next Wednesday, my number is (123) 555-wxyz.

 

(Uhhhh, i already knew arrival date)

 

I send back message: would you like to make appointment now, or wait until you are here in town?

 

He replies: OK Perfect [with some thumbs-up emojis]

 

Now what? I dont really care what he thinks of me in the long run, but i dont want to continue back & forth messages... or calls... only to have him decide I'm a pest, not worth scheduling.

Somehow, when others celebrate taking the road less-traveled, I end up on the one that's full of potholes and freshly tarred.

 

Anyway....

 

I'm with you on this. "OK Perfect" is a non-answer to "would you like to make appointment now or wait until you are here in town?" If you are still interested, I suggest you message him again with something to the effect that you need a definite "now" or "wait" answer to your question.

[LaffingBear]

I decided that.... like wayyyyy too many people.... hes scanning through stuff quickly on a tiny screen, not reading thoroughly, and so i just texted him.

[MikeyGMin]

I decided that.... like wayyyyy too many people.... hes scanning through stuff quickly on a tiny screen, not reading thoroughly, and so i just texted him.

Are you confident that his English is good? I'm usually chasing Latinos so I always give them the benefit of the doubt until I know for a fact that English is their first language or they are fluent.

[LaffingBear]

I considered that AND texts suggest its a legitimate concern. The texts have been a bit of the same

 

I sent: I see you arrive next wednesday. Are you making appointments now, or not making appointments until after you get here?

 

He texted back: I'll be there next week.

 

:D:mad:

[LaffingBear]

Well... im not sure we really agreed upon same thing, but im calling him for an appointment day he arrives here next week.

 

Not my way of thinking/planning. Were I an escort, I'd want to take bookings in advance. But, I've read enough threads on this board.... I know that for escorts, advance appointments tend to get cancelled.

 

Overall... that was sort of too much work, and I still don't have an appointment.

[Scorpio]

Well... im not sure we really agreed upon same thing, but im calling him for an appointment day he arrives here next week.

 

Not my way of thinking/planning. Were I an escort, I'd want to take bookings in advance. But, I've read enough threads on this board.... I know that for escorts, advance appointments tend to get cancelled.

 

Overall... that was sort of too much work, and I still don't have an appointment.

 

I don't like vague communictions either. So I would take a more direct approach: "I see that you're in town next week. I would like to schedule an appointment with you on X day at X time. Let me know if that time works or we can discuss alternate times.

[LaffingBear]

I don't like vague communictions either. So I would take a more direct approach: "I see that you're in town next week. I would like to schedule an appointment with you on X day at X time. Let me know if that time works or we can discuss alternate times.

Thats exactly how i would prefer to communicate.

 

And in escort planning, my personal life, and my work life..... no one would read beyond "I see that you're in town....." before replying

 

And the same game would have played out.

[AresEscortNYC]

Since he very promptly gave you his phone number, why don't you just call him now? Assuming he picks up (granted, that's a big IF,) you guys can make a date pronto, it will be a fait accompli, without any further text miscommunications.

[+ nycman]

I've learned that vague and non sequitur replies almost always ends with the guy flaking out.

 

Now, more than 1 non-sensical answer...and I stop communicating and move on.

 

It's a rule that has saved me countless hours.

 

You're welcome.

[+ Keith30309]

Perhaps he's just got lots of messages and flipped thru them too quickly.

 

One idea, as @Scorpio suggested: " OK, great! I will see you Wednesday at 9:00pm. My hotel/house is in the Uptown area; if you're driving I'd allow an extra 15 minutes to find a parking space. Please confirm with me by 7:00pm so I can have a nice bottle of red wine open to breathe."

[+ ArVaGuy]

My initial email or text always includes the date and time for an appointment. Sometimes I will add a backup option if I know the guy is popular and likely has a full calendar.

 

Asking "are you available next week?" is just as vague as the reply you are kvetching about. Of course he's available next week but when do you want to meet? Better to give the specifics of what you're proposing than an open ended inquiry. Such an inquiry sets up the very circumstances for a series of back and forth replies that frustrates both parties.

[Scorpio]

Thats exactly how i would prefer to communicate.

 

And in escort planning, my personal life, and my work life..... no one would read beyond "I see that you're in town....." before replying

 

And the same game would have played out.

 

That may be your reality, but it certainly hasn't been mine in 17 years of hiring.

 

But you could be even more direct: "I want to schedule an appointment with you on x day at x time while you're visiting my city".

 

Also, if I get responses like you received, I move on immediately because experience has shown that the outcome will not be good.

[+ WmClarke]

If you don't like vague communication, be specific in yours.

 

"Hi. Are you available on xxxx night at yyyy time?" Don't waste time trying to chit chat your way (eventually) to your request. That's fine for polite conversation but this is a business request of someone who may be deluged with msssages.

[Beancounter]

I can completely empathize with what the OP is saying. It is a bit off-putting when escorts communicate in needless back and forth banter or can't make a decision when asked to.

 

Example:

 

Me: I see you're going to be in Dallas next week for 5 days. I'm interested in scheduling a one-hour appointment. Would you please select a day and time for me and I'll make sure I to put it on my calendar.

 

Escort: Thanks for contacting me. When would you like to meet?

 

Me: Tuesday at 7 pm would work well for me.

 

Escort: I'm not available at that time.

 

Me: I see. Would you please pick a time and day for me then? My schedule is very flexible.

 

Escort: Would you prefer morning, afternoon or evening?

 

Me: Evening would be good.

 

Escort: I'm sorry but all of my evenings are filled up.

 

Me: It would be easier if you'd provide me with your time/day availability and then I can select a time that fits both our schedules.

 

Escort: I'm free most afternoons.

 

And round and round we go! By the way....that was an actual conversation I had with an escort. Sometimes I think people just want to text for the sake of texting. Very frustrating.

[Mydavid]

I usually ask escorts in these two ways:

1. What time will you be available next weekends?

2. Will you available next Tuesday at 19:00 for 2 hours?

 

It works well, I always set up an appointment smoothly.

[Mount N Do]

Well I rarely can commit to a date that far in advance so for traveling guys, I just wait till they're actually in town and contact them a couple days before I intend to schedule. Nothing confirmed till the day prior. If they're booked, it wasn't meant to be...

[caliguy]

At least have some effing canned response to start. Then as thing proceed a little wanting to get to know you. What fun things are you interested in doing with me. I would never follow up based on that.