Basic question for first time experience

[SuperJunior]

I hope this is the right forum. My apologies to admin if it is wrong. I hate to ask a question that has been answered ad nauseam here, but I cannot find the excellent threads that were posted about the subject before. At the time, I didn't think I would need the info, but it seems as though one of the two guys I felt I could spend some time w/comfortably is coming to Atlanta. I’d hate to screw this up. What is the protocol re: contents of email vs. phone call? Text should be rates for time spent and phone call should discuss mutually agreed upon activities? During the phone calls, are you very detailed?

 

Again, I am very sorry for the repetition.

 

Thank you!

[+ Funguy]

Use us, abuse us, enjoy us - that's the beauty of the Forum.

 

I always have a brief conversation with anyone I have not had the pleasure of meeting. I give some basics and then ask if I should text or email for "other details" and let the guy go from there. He may be totally fine discussing on the phone or, if not, let him tell you.

[gallahadesquire]

Remember to discuss things in "generalities". Keep both of you safe by making sure that your emaill / text could not be construed as buying sex. You're buying his time.

 

"Things I like to do with a man" is different than "I wanna get fucked, how much?"

[SuperJunior]

Remember to discuss things in "generalities". Keep both of you safe by making sure that your emaill / text could not be construed as buying sex. You're buying his time.

 

"Things I like to do with a man" is different than "I wanna get fucked, how much?"

 

Than you. Great point.

[SuperJunior]

Use us, abuse us, enjoy us - that's the beauty of the Forum.

 

I always have a brief conversation with anyone I have not had the pleasure of meeting. I give some basics and then ask if I should text or email for "other details" and let the guy go from there. He may be totally fine discussing on the phone or, if not, let him tell you.

 

Thanks for being understanding!

[Sandlapp]

If his rates are in his ad, you don't need to talk about money at all.

[MartyB]

This is why this forum is great. There is no perfect protocol. It seems most escorts prefer text. You already have their profile and rate and maybe preferences. Introduce yourself with a brief physical and age description and your preferences. Don't be shy here. You are the client and set your needs and let him know you play by their rules. Calling is not necessary. Also do you want in call or them to come to you. Most of the best times come when chemistry and heat take over don't be too scripted. Good Luck my friend. Enjoy

[SuperJunior]

This is why this forum is great. There is no perfect protocol. It seems most escorts prefer text. You already have their profile and rate and maybe preferences. Introduce yourself with a brief physical and age description and your preferences. Don't be shy here. You are the client and set your needs and let him know you play by their rules. Calling is not necessary. Also do you want in call or them to come to you. Most of the best times come when chemistry and heat take over don't be too scripted. Good Luck my friend. Enjoy

 

My photos are in my RM profile as well as my things I like.

 

I can't help but be shy. It's infuriating but a fact.

 

Thanks for the encouragement.

[beachboy]

Hope you have a great time - & report back!

[LoveNDino]

Ah, to go back to the first time! I hope you have a great time. You're only a virgin once!

[MartyB]

My photos are in my RM profile as well as my things I like.

 

I can't help but be shy. It's infuriating but a fact.

 

Thanks for the encouragement.

If the escort is a good one he will put you at ease. Have a beer or drink first. You will do fine.

[whipped guy]

If the escort is a good one he will put you at ease.

Also if the escort a really good one he will know what you need before you even know it yourself! Sounds silly, but it's true so don't be afraid to discuss things in the format with which the escort feels most comfortable. I guess nowadays it is texting, but years ago it was always good to hear a voice over the phone.

 

Bottom line: the more info that they have to work with the better the outcome... so even if being shy is your natural inclination don't be shy about sharing as much information as possible... Even little seemingly insignificant things can trigger something in the mind of an escort many of whom are members of Mensa... as in the little known sexual division of that elete club! Plus definitely go unscripted and let things flow naturally.

 

And do enjoy!!!!

 

Edit: Also we were all first timers. No need to be sorry for anything!!!!!!

[SuperJunior]

Also if the escort a really good one he will know what you need before you even know it yourself! Sounds silly, but it's true so don't be afraid to discuss things in the format with which the escort feels most comfortable. I guess nowadays it is texting, but years ago it was always good to hear a voice over the phone.

 

Bottom line: the more info that they have to work with the better the outcome... so even if being shy is your natural inclination don't be shy about sharing as much information as possible... Even little seemingly insignificant things can trigger something in the mind if an escort many of whom are members of Mensa... as in the little known sexual division of that elete club! Plus definitely go unscripted and let things flow naturally.

 

And do enjoy!!!!

 

Edit: Also we were all first timers. No need to be sorry for anything!!!!!!

 

He's a very well-regarded escort & forum member, I'm just a naturally nervous man. I'm sure it'll be great.

[whipped guy]

He's a very well-regarded escort & forum member, I'm just a naturally nervous man. I'm sure it'll be great.

There's being nervous... and we all have a bit of worry is us... but if the guy is a total pro then there is no need to be nervous in that sense. I know that it's easier said than done, but try get that out of your mind.

 

If you plan on being "nervous" replace it with the "nervous anticipation" of meeting someone for the first time and usually that's a good type of nervousness that's normal to boot! Yes those proverbial butterflies in one's stomach are part of the whole experience and can even enhance things. It's actually something that I look forward to when meeting someone for the first time. Now if the guy were someone from Backpage then you might need to be nervous, but not if the guy is a total pro!

 

Enjoy to the max!

[+ azdr0710]

He's a very well-regarded escort & forum member

 

all the more reason to be honest with him.....tell him who you are on the forum, that you're nervous, but excited, that you're looking forward to a great time......tell him he may need to lead at times.....ask if he has questions for you.....

 

at the meet: talk slowly, laugh, look him in the eyes, smile, kick back and chat a bit, get what you want out of it......

[SuperJunior]

all the more reason to be honest with him.....tell him who you are on the forum, that you're nervous, but excited, that you're looking forward to a great time......tell him he may need to lead at times.....ask if he has questions for you.....

 

at the meet: talk slowly, laugh, look him in the eyes, smile, kick back and chat a bit, get what you want out of it......

 

He's sent me a couple of very nice messages, mentioned that he's seen me here and checked out my RM profile and that we have common interests. We're meeting when he's here in a couple of weeks.

[LoveNDino]

He's a very well-regarded escort & forum member, I'm just a naturally nervous man. I'm sure it'll be great.

I find that a little nervousness before an appointment just heightens the eroticism. Embrace it!

[+ azdr0710]

He's sent me a couple of very nice messages, mentioned that he's seen me here and checked out my RM profile and that we have common interests. We're meeting when he's here in a couple of weeks.

 

sounds like all is good! ....don't badger him with giddy texts/emails every other day......but make sure a date and time are nailed down early......

 

I was SO goddamn nervous at my first escort meet that my head was swimming.....visions of the local PD busting down the hotel room door and my mugshot on "COPS"......(that won't happen to you!)

[LoveNDino]

sounds like all is good! ....don't badger him with giddy texts/emails every other day......but make sure a date and time are nailed down early......

 

I was SO goddamn nervous at my first escort meet that my head was swimming.....visions of the local PD busting down the hotel room door and my mugshot on "COPS"......(that won't happen to you!)

I still have that in the back of mind each time - keeps me careful I think.

[SuperJunior]

sounds like all is good! ....don't badger him with giddy texts/emails every other day......but make sure a date and time are nailed down early......

 

I was SO goddamn nervous at my first escort meet that my head was swimming.....visions of the local PD busting down the hotel room door and my mugshot on "COPS"......(that won't happen to you!)

LOL. I won't text him. I'm not worried about cops. I'm just nearly neurotic re: my appearance v. an escort's appearance. It'll be fine. If all else fails, we can talk for a while and I can just enjoy that. I appreciate all the moral support here.

[+ azdr0710]

LOL. I won't text him. I'm not worried about cops. I'm just nearly neurotic re: my appearance v. an escort's appearance. It'll be fine. If all else fails, we can talk for a while and I can just enjoy that. I appreciate all the moral support here.

 

easy to clean up and look good.....

 

yes, talk for a short while.....then (if he hasn't already suggested it) you can say something like, "Hey!....Let me give you a nice body rub.....lay down on the bed over there and let me show you what I can do"

 

and move it on from there before time is up (I'm usually the clock watcher!!)

[LoveNDino]

easy to clean up and look good.....

 

yes, talk for a short while.....then (if he hasn't already suggested it) you can say something like, "Hey!....Let me give you a nice body rub.....lay down on the bed over there and let me show you what I can do"

 

and move it on from there before time is up (I'm usually the clock watcher!!)

Same here but my suggestion is "Hey! How about you give me a back rub!

[SuperJunior]

easy to clean up and look good.....

 

yes, talk for a short while.....then (if he hasn't already suggested it) you can say something like, "Hey!....Let me give you a nice body rub.....lay down on the bed over there and let me show you what I can do"

 

and move it on from there before time is up (I'm usually the clock watcher!!)

 

I could not be that forward.

[SuperJunior]

Same here but my suggestion is "Hey! How about you give me a back rub!

 

Yes, that's a nice thought, but I couldn't be so aggressive. It'll work out. I'm really not averse to spending my first time talking.

[+ azdr0710]

Yes, that's a nice thought, but I couldn't be so aggressive. It'll work out. I'm really not averse to spending my first time talking.

 

at least make him show you what he's got!.....(I love to watch a dude stand naked in front of me!)

 

pretty sure he'll move things along for you