Top Escort, and clients who don't want to bottom.

[+ bashful]

Do you get many hires where the client, either in advance, or when meeting, says he doesn’t want to bottom? Do you look forward to topping a client?

 

Would you not book, or be disappointed if they didn’t want to bottom? I hope not, but just curious.

[kaboom35]

I do recall an escort that is well received and whom I've been with three times. I did bottom for him all three of those times. I texted him to hang out again but told him I didn't want to bottom. I just wanted to do everything but that. His response was "great hearing from you, hit me up when you want to get fucked". I was like...ok...

[big-n-tall]

There were a number of times I've met with a top only guy and we played without anal penetration. None of them refused to see me because I didn't want to bottom. If one of these guys, especially having met them before, said to me to call me the next time you are ready to bottom... he wouldn't get called again ever. Don't let anyone force you into a situation you might feel uncomfortable with.

 

Some of the guys, I've seen, literally were begging or very eager to top me and I wouldn't give it up. We still had a lot of fun. A good example, the last time I saw Dave Anthony. I was a tad bit overzealous with the prepping. I was sore down there before we met. I told him I didn't think bottoming that night was a good idea. He was absolutely fine with that. What followed was one of the most intense frotting, dry humping, oral sessions I've ever had. We were drenched and worn out by the end.

 

I don't bottom for everyone. For those I do I either have to be really comfortable or really horny/attracted to them to let them try. Even still, even if I bottomed for them before doesn't mean I will every time we meet up. Every guy I've hired has been ok with that decision.

 

If the guy you saw isn't ok with your decision... walk away. There are plenty others who will be.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I always assumed that anal only lacks imagination. Or skill.

[+ OliverSaks]

I always assumed that anal only lacks imagination. Or skill.

Ooooooohhhhhh snap.

Shots fired!

[+ poolboy48220]

In all my hires, this has never come as a surprise. I do bottom mostly, but the topping has always been discussed ahead of time, and those few times I don't want to, nobody's never insisted.

 

Well...wait. Maybe there aren't ANY times where I don't want to.

[+ bashful]

If the guy you saw isn't ok with your decision... walk away. There are plenty others who will be.

 

Haven't been in that situation, but thanks.

 

Having so little experience with men, I'm not at a place where I want to try to bottom. So when I look at the ads, I see many attractive men, but end up taking the top only guys out of consideration. I was hoping to get a sense of whether I was being a bit irrational. So far, sounds like I need to start considering them, but just talk about it during the initial communication.

[RussJohnson]

I was hoping to get a sense of whether I was being a bit irrational.

 

Yes. "Top only" generally implies they WON'T bottom, not that they HAVE to top.

[big-n-tall]

Haven't been in that situation, but thanks.

 

Having so little experience with men, I'm not at a place where I want to try to bottom. So when I look at the ads, I see many attractive men, but end up taking the top only guys out of consideration. I was hoping to get a sense of whether I was being a bit irrational. So far, sounds like I need to start considering them, but just talk about it during the initial communication.

 

Absolutely discuss what you want. There are a lot of things two tops can do together if both tops are not strictly into anal.

 

There are some guys who list as top only and that's all they plan to do... is top. Those particular guys won't kiss, won't do oral, won't do anything but want to penetrate. These type of men I tend to avoid.

 

You have some guys who list as top, who will do everything but bottom and perform oral. I'm ok with this because if they kiss (I'm a kissing fiend) I'm all into it.

 

Then you have reciprocal tops. They won't bottom, but are versatile in every other aspect of the encounter. You may even run into a situation where someone is an expressed top, but once they are comfortable with you, they will bottom for you.

 

It comes down to communication, chemistry, and comfortability.

[Chuckball]

Every escort I have hired has started out by asking what turns me on and what I want to do. Not one has gone off script once my intentions are known. Isn't this communication the norm? All my escorts are in Toronto. Is it a regional difference?

[MartyB]

I always assumed that anal only lacks imagination. Or skill.

There has to be chemistry and nice foreplay + good lube and the best position. After all the bottom is the one in control. If I'm not mentally there as well as really turned on it won't happen. With my regular escorts that I have developed the above anal is fantastic. And yes skill and understanding your partner helps a lot.