Counting the money in front of the client

[+ Kman]

I know this issue has been brought up several times but just wanted to put my 2 cents in.

 

As a client I like when the escorts/masseur counts the money while I'm there. Honestly there have been two times when I mistakenly brought the wrong amount of money (basically in a rush and didn't count it correctly), and each of those times the masseur counted the money in front and I was able to go get the rest of their money. So I was thinking if they counted it after I left they would have assumed I stiffed them when I didn't intenationally try to, and then later, possibly, not be able to get another appointment with them because I allegedly shorted them. So just my support of counting the $$.

[loverboy95]

I always do this when I give the escort the money.

[escortrod]

It might be worthwhile counting the money in front of the escort when giving it to him. I have had quite a few clients do this, explaining that they have made mistakes in the past and wanted to avoid doing so again.

[+ Kman]

That's a good idea escortrod...I did attempt to countil the money in front of my last escorts but he said "don't count it I trust you," so I really hope I didn't miscount it beforehand...

[Mocha]

I like when guys say, "count it to make sure it's all there".

 

The "don't count it, i trust you" sets a bad precedent. Guys then think if you count or even ask for the money upfront, it's a trust issue. "You don't trust me?" says the client. Which leaves the escort feeling un-trusted.

 

I have heard stories of guys taking the money and doing a runner. But i doubt those guys actually started to undress before the money was given.

 

People don't start tipping a stripper who's still fully dressed

[tanman4u]

I have a sideline business (not escorting) where I'm paid in cash (oops I just remembered my Avatar here and should point out that selling weed also isn't my sideline business). The amount is typically about the same amount as an escort would be paid. It's usually handed to me discreetly and I never count it. If a mistake is made (it never has been) I would just assume an honest error was made. I have had people insist that I count it in front of them and I'm happy to do so but I never count it in front of them unless asked.

[jonnychgo]

My first time hiring, I gave the escort the envelope with the money and he took it but said, you can usually just leave it on the dresser. Which I learned later was to not have the money seem like part of the deal. Only once did I pay a guy upfront, never again. He did perform, but made me a bit nervous. Normally I just leave it in an envelope or on a dresser. Only once or twice did I have someone count it while I was there. Since it rarely happens, it made me feel odd. But I always wonder if the guys get stifted often. I usually always count it a couple of times before I leave just to make sure.

[+ oldNbusted]

I like counting the money out onto the table, it just seems easy enough to eliminate doubt, mine and his.

[+ Kman]

I like when guys say, "count it to make sure it's all there".

 

The "don't count it, i trust you" sets a bad precedent. Guys then think if you count or even ask for the money upfront, it's a trust issue. "You don't trust me?" says the client. Which leaves the escort feeling un-trusted.

 

I have heard stories of guys taking the money and doing a runner. But i doubt those guys actually started to undress before the money was given.

 

People don't start tipping a stripper who's still fully dressed

 

Trying to understand how "dont count it, I trust you," sets a bad precedent?? I would think clients should be able to understand that different escorts or masseurs are going to have different expectations from their clients based on the escort/masseur's past experiences or just what makes them feel safer. Another case of people being offended WAY to easily.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

I know this issue has been brought up several times but just wanted to put my 2 cents in.

 

As a client I like when the escorts/masseur counts the money while I'm there. Honestly there have been two times when I mistakenly brought the wrong amount of money (basically in a rush and didn't count it correctly), and each of those times the masseur counted the money in front and I was able to go get the rest of their money. So I was thinking if they counted it after I left they would have assumed I stiffed them when I didn't intentionally try to, and then later, possibly, not be able to get another appointment with them because I allegedly shorted them. So just my support of counting the $$.

 

I think this might be a personal thing, without a good universal answer. I (personally) don't like the money part. I don't want to discuss it, and I definitely don't want to count it in front of someone. That seems distasteful in the extreme to me. I definitely don't want to have a moment where we "square up" and someone asks me "how much will that be?" That spoils so much of my fun (plus I'm just so bad at math on the fly).

 

I'm much more fond of the thoughtfulness of someone diligently preparing that before I've ever arrived, and discreetly slipping me an envelope as we're wrapping up. I've never had an issue being shortchanged or swindled.

 

That said, if it will make someone more comfortable with the situation, and they ask that I count it before them, I will do it and not begrudgingly. It's all about someone leaving feeling as good about what's transpired as they possibly can.

 

 

-t

[+ Keith30309]

I think this might be a personal thing, without a good universal answer. I (personally) don't like the money part. I don't want to discuss it, and I definitely don't want to count it in front of someone. That seems distasteful in the extreme to me. I definitely don't want to have a moment where we "square up" and someone asks me "how much will that be?" That spoils so much of my fun (plus I'm just so bad at math on the fly).

 

I'm much more fond of the thoughtfulness of someone diligently preparing that before I've ever arrived, and discreetly slipping me an envelope as we're wrapping up. I've never had an issue being shortchanged or swindled.

 

Well said. Everyone is a gentleman and follows the rules of gracious courtesy and it's the perfect end of what was hopefully a wonderful experience for both.

[Spencer L]

Well said. Everyone is a gentleman and follows the rules of gracious courtesy and it's the perfect end of what was hopefully a wonderful experience for both.

 

Only if though. I do encourage this part of encounter as short and efficient as possible though

[RandyC]

I would hope an escort would contact me if I accidentally short changed him.

[+ peterhung85]

The coin has two sides in this story and as tylerthebadwolf has said, there is not one specific answer that is the best. You have to look at the perspective of the client and then the escort and need to accept that people can be entirely different.

 

Client: Clients can vary greatly. One is perfectly comfortable with either scenario. Others actually ask the escort to count the money before they take it. This is certainly the ideal scenario in most cases as it avoids any disputes, however this may not be suitable for all clients. There are some that don't want to see this "process" as it would make them feel that it is "solely a business transaction" and would simply ruin the "illusion". We need to understand that there are different psychological emotions going through one's brain when one hires a companion and the escort need to accept it and "play along".

 

Escorts: As mentioned earlier, we (or bottom line I) definitely prefer to count it in front of the client (talking about non-regular/new clients) because of the potential disputes [or lack thereof] or bad feelings it may create. Having said that I never do it unless I am asked by my client for the reason stated above. Accidentally ruining the experience is the last thing I would like to do when I meet somebody. I believe that delivering the boyfriend experience extends to this as well and not limited to the actual event that takes place inside the bedroom. In my opinion, every interaction that occurs between me and my client has to happen in that fashion.

 

Since I have been in this industry it has happened to me many times but it was usually off by $20 or so which I contribute to an honest mistake (it is easy to be off by that amount especially if you are getting paid with $20 bills). I would never make my client feel bad about this and just let it slide. Sure, money is money and what's fair is fair but at the end of the day, think of how many times you have been tipped (not to mention times when you were tipped extremely graciously) or how many times your performance wasn't up to par to your rate. Nobody is perfect, both you and your client is a human being and not to mention if you confront your client (even if it is done in a polite manner) you risk the chance of that person ever seeing you again. Why? Because that person may feel guilty even though it was an innocent mistake and his conscience would be damaged if seeing you again.

 

Hope this helps!

[+ bashful]

For those of you escorts who prefer to count the money while the client is still there, and there is a little extra, what would you do if the client said he must have miscounted, and wanted the extra returned.

 

(In other words, client no longer felt a tip was in order.)

[escortrod]

For those of you escorts who prefer to count the money while the client is still there, and there is a little extra, what would you do if the client said he must have miscounted, and wanted the extra returned.

Give it to him.

[beachboy]

Give it to him.

Can't imagine you'd ever be in that position.

[Epigonos]

I’m obsessive compulsive and paranoid about short changing an escort with whom I’m spending time. With this in mind I repeatedly count his money and then place it in an envelope before we meet. After our meal together and before we start playing around I give him the envelope and inform him that it wouldn’t bother me, in the least, if he wanted to count it. Interestingly in the many years that I have been hiring escorts NONE have ever counted the money in front of me.

This is really a non-issue for me as escorts and I are in a business transaction NOT a love affair. When I complete a "regular" business transaction the recipient of my money often counts it; so why not an escort?

[escortrod]

I’m obsessive compulsive and paranoid about short changing an escort with whom I’m spending time. With this in mind I repeatedly count his money and then place it in an envelope before we meet. After our meal together and before we start playing around I give him the envelope and inform him that it wouldn’t bother me, in the least, if he wanted to count it. Interestingly in the many years that I have been hiring escorts NONE have ever counted the money in front of me.

This is really a non-issue for me as escorts and I are in a business transaction NOT a love affair. When I complete a "regular" business transaction the recipient of my money often counts it so why not an escort?

Funnily enough I have ADD, with some OCD-esque symptoms. One of them is that I cannot abide banknotes being in different orientations; I must have them the correct way up, with the faces towards me. I have had to work to overcome that particular compulsion, so that I can avoid rearranging the notes in front of clients, which usually looks like I'm counting the money.

[Mydavid]

One of them is that I cannot abide banknotes being in different orientations;

 

Same here! How did you overcome this compulsion?

[escortrod]

Same here! How did you overcome this compulsion?

I use some CBT techniques to remain calm, then I reorganise the notes as soon as the client can't see me.

[beachboy]

Funnily enough I have ADD, with some OCD-esque symptoms. One of them is that I cannot abide banknotes being in different orientations; I must have them the correct way up, with the faces towards me. I have had to work to overcome that particular compulsion, so that I can avoid rearranging the notes in front of clients, which usually looks like I'm counting the money.

Mmm....note to self!

[Mydavid]

I use some CBT techniques to remain calm, then I reorganise the notes as soon as the client can't see me.

I am lucky I can organize them well at home before I give it out.

[marylander1940]

Same here! How did you overcome this compulsion?

 

our compulsions are always a fight...

 

[escortrod]

Mmm....note to self!

That's one of the things I like about British banknotes. Not only can I tell at a glance if roughly the correct amount of money is present, but I can see the orientation of every note in the stack.