Happy Endings

[Bucky]

What is it about a gay man's psyche that lusts for a happy ending?

 

Sure, an orgasm 'feels' good, but one's own hand can accomplish that.

It's probable the masseur isn't really attracted to you. Yet you hope he might be willing?

And why is it that the cute, or muscled, or hunky masseurs are in higher demand? even tho their happy endings may not be any better?

Is it a craving for attention? That need for validation? Rarely gets it elsewhere so is drawn to pay?

 

I'm not talking about the massage itself.

 

No judgements, just your inner reasoning as to the core of that incessant need.

[Brian Kevin]

What is it about a gay man's psyche that lusts for a happy ending?

 

Sure, an orgasm 'feels' good, but one's own hand can accomplish that.

It's probable the masseur isn't really attracted to you. Yet you hope he might be willing?

And why is it that the cute, or muscled, or hunky masseurs are in higher demand? even tho their happy endings may not be any better?

Is it a craving for attention? That need for validation? Rarely gets it elsewhere so is drawn to pay?

 

I'm not talking about the massage itself.

 

No judgements, just your inner reasoning as to the core of that incessant need.

 

 

May I, because I am going to any ways.

 

On the other side of things, I feel strongly that this isn't a cry for attention nor seeking validation in any way. Something in our human nature triggers the urg, if not your underwear, sheets or your pants rubbing on your junk; maybe your boss said "wood" in a sentence and that word triggers you. I think with this industry you really need to feel out your massage therapist. I've sworn for years I was only a LMT, well that's all changed. I am first, a massage therapist, but open to the full escort and or boy friend experience. As an escort, you're supposed to find something that attracts you to the client; I learned this from a Dear client of mine in Orlando. He said to dig deep and find the burning desire. This also goes with the client, if you're able to disconnect from your life and throughly enjoy the touch and the time together.

 

This is my second day and my ump-teenth trip to NYC, every-time I come here, I remember to slow my sessions down, stimulate touch and make them feel amazing. Everything in NYC is so fast, even the escorts. I take the time to let them spoil themselves. What I think may happen is you have had a truly amazing escort/massage experience, so you crave it again and you want to spice it up and include other therapists' which can be a good thing OR a bad thing! Not every therapist/escort has your best intrest in mind. In terms of, rearly getting it anywhere else that could be true for some guys who don't want to deal with the apps or craigslist or any other way of hooking up bars, clubs, coffee shops and bath houses-- I've had instances where the client is beyond handsome and he souly wanted something quick and NOW.

 

I think you've made very valid points @Bucky, with it being 2017 I think everyone is different and every circumstance is different.

 

The one thing I know is true, is as human being, WE ALL CRAVE TLC, if it's not touch, it is someone to talk to, someone to kiss or maybe you HATE touching, kissing, talking; this wood leave pleasure(s) as your TLC.

 

I hope I've helped, I hope I don't piss anyone off and in no way am I trying to be argumentative, I'm open to hear everyones response, and am kinda excited to pick your brains!

 

LONGEVITY!

[Hornplatz]

What is it about a gay man's psyche that lusts for a happy ending?

 

Sure, an orgasm 'feels' good, but one's own hand can accomplish that.

It's probable the masseur isn't really attracted to you. Yet you hope he might be willing?

And why is it that the cute, or muscled, or hunky masseurs are in higher demand? even tho their happy endings may not be any better?

Is it a craving for attention? That need for validation? Rarely gets it elsewhere so is drawn to pay?

 

I'm not talking about the massage itself.

 

No judgements, just your inner reasoning as to the core of that incessant need.

 

Simply and candidly put - a "foreign" hand always intensifies a HE.

[LivingnLA]

What is it about a gay man's psyche that lusts for a happy ending?

 

This isn't a "gay man" issue. This is a human issue and there are a diversity of reasons behind it because humans are complex and human intimacy and sexuality are among the most complex "parts" of the human psyche.

 

Some men and women just enjoy an orgasm and since humans are generally lazy, having someone else do the work is convenient. Others enjoy the mystery of a new person. Still others like the excitement of a "stranger" bringing them to climax. Some humans like the mystery of "will s/he or won't s/he provide a happy ending?" The teasing and titillation are what they're after, the "ending" is frequently anticlimactic for such people.

 

Many have fantasies about these interactions. It could be transgressive. Just like sex with their doctor, boss, a cop, etc. That tends to involve power-dynamics or issues of control and surrender. Others could see it as hot that their masseue or masseuer is seducing them or vice versa.

 

The reasons go on and on.

 

For me personally, I've never sought out such activity. It did happen unexpectedly a few times on business trips in Asia, but I chalk that up to my unawareness of cultural norms and expectations. When I go for a massage, I want a massage therapist not a masseue or masseuer because I have legitimate therapeutic issues that a professional can address to improve my quality of life. Yes, sure, some of the therapists I've worked with over the years have been very attractive and I've wondered for a split second or two, "what if?" But, I haven't crossed that line because I value the professional therapeutic work and I wouldn't want to risk losing their help.

[MikeyGMin]

I'm sure there are as many variations as there are people. I typically want a legitimate massage only, but it has always been enhanced if it comes from an attractive man. Someone who I really want to have their hands on me. I simply enjoy the touch more.

 

I never wanted an HE. It seemed mechanical and impersonal. Then a local guy -- straight of all things -- caught my eye and I decided to give it a shot. I was amazed at how fun he made it.

 

It's not going to become a regular thing for me, but I do understand the appeal a whole lot more than I used to.

[maninsoma]

Somewhat kidding, somewhat serious: I expect a happy ending given the cost of most masseurs who advertise on masseurfinder and massagem4m. If I truly wanted only a therapeutic massage, I could pay a lot less and not care what the massage therapist looked like or even whether the therapist was male or female. I look at it this way: masseurs advertising to gay men are selling both massage and an erotic experience that is somewhere in the area between a strictly therapeutic massage and an escort. That's why their looks matter and the fees they command are higher. If I'm on the table and looking up at a masseur who doesn't turn me on in the slightest, I'm not going to want a happy ending from him. On the flip side, I assume that the best masseurs are similar to the best escorts in that they are able to enjoy their work even when their clients don't look like someone they would choose to have sex with in their personal lives.

[Cliff]

Well said, maninsoma.

[TampaGuy]

Well, my thinking is that for massuers from the various websites, I am paying for it along with the massage and I'm not going to turn down an orgasm if offered. The massage is what I am looking for, the rest is a nice bonus. Sure, I can do it myself, but is more intense this way, at least most of the time. Some of the therapists will do more than use their hands and that is something that I can't replicate (one therapist who moved way--and I was very sad to see him go since what developed was a strong attraction--would start by rimming and then finish with an "oral HE"). All of this said, I've had some that were purely mechanical and cold with no interaction and clearly no desire on the part of the masseur. For these guys, if the massage was good then when I return I let the therapist know in advance that I'm looking for a purely therapeutic session.

[corymonroe]

The HE is not the reason I seek sensual massage, and I make that clear when I'm shopping. My favorite part of a sensual massage is feeling expert hands on areas of my body where most massage therapists will not go. Those glorious sensations last much longer than an orgasm.

[Hornplatz]

The HE is not the reason I seek sensual massage, and I make that clear when I'm shopping. My favorite part of a sensual massage is feeling expert hands on areas of my body where most massage therapists will not go. Those glorious sensations last much longer than an orgasm.

 

You are so right. The hands of the therapist stroking, probing, stroking, manipulating my body is so pleasureable, very relaxing and also

can be very stimulating at the same time. A good therapist will be able to sense what the client is feeling. The hands of a stranger and a

visit to the "edge" two or three times during the massage precipitates a very intense climax.

What is it about a gay man's psyche that lusts for a happy ending?

 

Sure, an orgasm 'feels' good, but one's own hand can accomplish that.

It's probable the masseur isn't really attracted to you. Yet you hope he might be willing?

And why is it that the cute, or muscled, or hunky masseurs are in higher demand? even tho their happy endings may not be any better?

Is it a craving for attention? That need for validation? Rarely gets it elsewhere so is drawn to pay?

 

I'm not talking about the massage itself.

 

No judgements, just your inner reasoning as to the core of that incessant need.

 

WHY - it feels good, very good - it is very relaxing and as the man who taught me about sex said - "it clears out all those cobwebs in the mind".

I think that is a very good description.

[Brian Kevin]

I assume that the best masseurs are similar to the best escorts in that they are able to enjoy their work

 

That was very well put! I've noticed that alot of the guys who were strictly massage in my area have become more lenient and hotter profile descriptions. I was petrified after Rentboy shut down, yet there was zero reason to be. I really like the guys who stop to say there ARE INDEED guys out there who still CHOOSE to do this instead of wanting to do it for easy money, etc list could go on.

[+ Just Sayin]

I find that after the masseur has been working on your body, especially in sensitive areas, I start to anticipate the happy ending as a natural conclusion to a relaxing and sensual experience [n.b.: I'm grinning as I write this!]