correct protocol?

[kaboom35]

Advice please. I contacted an escort this morning that I was with a couple years ago just once. I wanted to meet with him again. I texted him this morning at 8:00am that I would love to meet with him again sometime. (whether he remember me or not is irrelevant i'm guessing)

 

He wrote me back two hours later and said we could meet anytime and hope i'm doing well. I text him back only 4 minutes later and asked him if he was available tonight. I haven't heard back from him since and it's 11 hours later. lol. Not that i'm looking for tonight anymore, but when should I text him again to set something up since he didn't reply to my earlier text?

 

I don't want to be annoying. And he has signed on to rentmen since then. what to do?

[alexslaveboy]

@kaboom35

I would wait until at least tomorrow...perhaps late morning or early afternoon

Just say you never heard back and were wondering if he's still interested in meeting up

 

I have had regulars I see text me about meeting then vanish the entire day and we end up meeting a day or two later because "he got busy" or "he got distracted and forgot to text back"

Usually meaning another client with more $$$$ or for straight boys...girlfriend issues! LOL

[m.yi]

He might have mistakenly missed your message. Go ahead and message him again. I sometimes have that problem with my android phone; especially when messages arrive at the same time. It would no longer alert me that I have an unread text or the notification light is no longer blinking. He should be comfortable with a repeat client over meeting someone new for the first time.

[coriolis888]

Advice please. I contacted an escort this morning that I was with a couple years ago just once. I wanted to meet with him again. I texted him this morning at 8:00am that I would love to meet with him again sometime. (whether he remember me or not is irrelevant i'm guessing)

 

He wrote me back two hours later and said we could meet anytime and hope i'm doing well. I text him back only 4 minutes later and asked him if he was available tonight. I haven't heard back from him since and it's 11 hours later. lol. Not that i'm looking for tonight anymore, but when should I text him again to set something up since he didn't reply to my earlier text?

 

I don't want to be annoying. And he has signed on to rentmen since then. what to do?

 

 

If you contacted him through his rentmen ad, it is highly possible that the message did not get to him. If you used his rentmen ad for your contact, you should try again. In addition, use the phone number listed in his ad for texting him via your phone.

[kaboom35]

I texted him iphone to iphone. Not thru rentmen. He responded once so it was the right number. I believe that was clear. Lol

[gallahadesquire]

There's this new-fangled device called a telephone. For those who are unfamiliar with it, it's like a cell phone / iPhone but has a wire permanently attached. Disirregardless, they both function the same way.

 

Why don't you give him a call?

[kaboom35]

Your sarcasm is unnecessary. I didn't call him because we were in the middle of a text convo. If he asked me to I would have.

[coriolis888]

I texted him iphone to iphone. Not thru rentmen. He responded once so it was the right number. I believe that was clear. Lol

 

 

If it is any consolation, I have had occasion to be in text mode with escorts then, without warning, I never heard from the escort again.

 

Other times, I was in text communications and did not hear back until the next day along with various excuses such as the guy's phone battery died, he fell asleep and various other excuses.

 

You just never know when you are dealing in this fun game how people will respond or what kind of answer you will hear or read.

 

Good luck in reaching your guy.

[+ purplekow]

Your sarcasm is unnecessary. I didn't call him because we were in the middle of a text convo. If he asked me to I would have.

Is that the protocol that once you are in a text convo with someone you are limited to that means of communication? If you really wanted to meet, you might have tried another type of communication since you failed with the text.

Since you responded within four minutes, there are two possibilities:

 

1 He wasn't interested in that night or perhaps ever and he is ghosting you Or

2 he did not get your message.

That he became suddenly so busy that he could not respond seems very unlikely.

 

A call starting your message, cause god knows people rarely answer their phone anymore, with: I hope I am not bothering you but I texted and did not hear back and was inquiring about tonight. If tonight is good give me a call back by (3 hours later, longer time than the first response) If I do not hear from you I will contact you about another day at that time. Thanks.

 

To answer the question you asked, there is no generally applicable protocol for when a second call may be made. It is related to your horniness and the tightness of your schedule. As long as you are polite, a second contact should never be considered overkill. After that, somewhere down the road. is rudeness and stalking.

[AdamSmith]

Why don't you give him a call?

+1,000,000

[LADoug1]

Text again. If no response...flake alert.

[AdamSmith]

Text again. If no response...flake alert.

Good advice. If you get one flake signal, fine to forgive and forget. Two, Caution Light. Three -- RUN AWAY.

[jawjateck]

Make another inquiry. And yes, you can call him, but my experience is if I'm having trouble contacting a guy via text/email, he's not likely to answer the phone either. I've called guys, who indicate on their ads that they only make appointments by phone, refuse to take my call or reply to a VM. It happens and it aint that big of a deal. If you try again and he doesn't reply, just move on to another stud.

[+ purplekow]

Make another inquiry. And yes, you can call him, but my experience is if I'm having trouble contacting a guy via text/email, he's not likely to answer the phone either. I've called guys, who indicate on their ads that they only make appointments by phone, refuse to take my call or reply to a VM. It happens and it aint that big of a deal. If you try again and he doesn't reply, just move on to another stud.

The reason to put a time frame on his calling you back, allows him to answer your question without answering your phone call. If he does not call in the allotted time, then it makes sense to move on especially for that night. If he does answer later, I would probably tell him that I was still interested but since he did not call in the time requested, I have move on this time. I will call at a later date. The call with the time limit allows for closure for the caller even if the one called does not answer.

[+ Truereview]

My two cents: So far, I think you've played it logically. Keep following your instinct. Do what feels right to you without being obsessive or obnoxious (not saying you have been). If the escort gets pissed off at your reasonable approach, don't take offense or waste time interpreting. Move on. Also, remember no one has set an industry standard/protocol for this.

 

In addition, I would say that part of the fun (for me) in this hobby is figuring out how to best connect with providers, and then mixing it up to adjust to their different communication styles. I know that requires more time on my part, but that's just a reality about our own diversity in communication. I have learned to own the fact that I can't control how an escort chooses to communicate. I can only own my approach and I reward providers who make it easy on me to communicate by giving them repeat biz.

 

Hoping you land this one and more! - TR

[+ bashful]

I mistakenly put my phone on airplane mode. On the day I was going to meet someone in the afternoon, I discovered the mistake only a few hours before the appointment. Turned it off, and there was a text from him confirming the appointment. I replied, and fortunately, no harm. He arrived as scheduled. Could be many reasons why no response.

[+ José Soplanucas]

All good advice, as usual. There is no point on guessing possible reasons for his silence, there are just too many. I would have sent another text asking "did you get my message? Thanks!". If there is still no answer, just move on. The chances are there is a good reason or explanation for his silence, you just cannot know, so just move on.

A very important part of the protocol is having always a plan b. In my case, I have also plans c and d.

Call (or text) someone else, @kaboom35 .

[+ purplekow]

I mistakenly put my phone on airplane mode. On the day I was going to meet someone in the afternoon, I discovered the mistake only a few hours before the appointment. Turned it off, and there was a text from him confirming the appointment. I replied, and fortunately, no harm. He arrived as scheduled. Could be many reasons why no response.

Four minutes after he sent a text? That has to limit the possibilities.

[MikeyGMin]

Is that the protocol that once you are in a text convo with someone you are limited to that means of communication?

 

I'm not sure what Miss Manners would say, but I believe it pretty much is the protocol. After you've been texting with someone, a phone call out of the blue is an escalation. You're basically saying, "I haven't heard back from you quickly enough and I demand attention now." One could argue that a service provider should be used to getting these kind of calls, but there is no avoiding the fact that it will be perceived as impatience. It's also unlikely the call will be answered. If he hasn't responded to a text, for whatever reason, why in the world would he answer the phone?

[Kevin Slater]

If he hasn't responded to a text, for whatever reason, why in the world would he answer the phone?

 

Because he missed the text?

 

Kevin Slater

[+ purplekow]

It's also unlikely the call will be answered. If he hasn't responded to a text, for whatever reason, why in the world would he answer the phone?

 

Sharpen those reading skills. I clearly stated that it is likely that he will not answer the phone. The caller is calling to put his own time frame to his wait by saying that he will wait for such a period of time and then assume he is not answering rather than, as is the case here, wondering what to do 11 hours later. If he answers, you can always text him again if speaking to the person you want to fuck with is too forward.

[+ Gar1eth]

I once received a text 6 hours after someone sent it. I received it at around 2 AM. It woke me up. I answered back. He happened to be up as he kept crazy hours. But he told me he had sent the text hours before. So it does happen texts- screw up.

 

On the other hand, the lack of response back by an escort has occurred to me too many times in the past for me to believe it was a network issue the majority of times. Even some of my favorite escorts-guys with very good reputations on this Forum-have dropped conversations with no warning before.

 

Gman

[MikeyGMin]

Sharpen those reading skills.

 

This is not College. You are not an author I am studying. And I'm not about to go back to your lengthy post to ensure I don't say something redundant.

 

I was responding to the very first question in the post about whether it is protocol to stay text once you have started text. And even with Kevin's very good point above, I believe it is becomming pretty common courtesy.

 

I can only speak from my personal experience, but with my friends, we always start out with a text. Even if it is just a simple one asking if it is a good time to talk. Maybe we are just weird, but it's a dozen or so people of all ages who all do the same thing.

 

It is almost universal behavior at work. Unless you have a conference call scheduled with someone, you send them an instant message (text) asking if they are available to talk. It's considered quite rude not to give them the option of weighing what they have to get done over the next little while and responding accordingly.

[+ Truereview]

Until I get handed the procedures manual signed off by the Geneva convention of sex workers (exaggerating ), I will interpret all these perspectives on the protocol as what they are - perspectives. To me, the way to go about all these unwritten rules is simple: act respectfully and with good intent, and if the guy on the other end gets discombobulated, let him be. We don't know what we don't know. By the way, this thread reminds me of a quote I had to look up but that rang so true to our current reality as human beings seeking arrangements (however you define them):

Sometimes, I think our lifestyle has become the victim of a “World of Kinkcraft” gamer mentality, where people just want to download a cheat sheet or a step-by-step walk-through. Many newcomers yearn to "learn the rules" of the lifestyle as quickly as possible, so they can get right to "winning the game." These are relationships, people. Real...relationships, involving real people with real feelings, living really complicated lives. If this was easy, everyone would be doing it. Stop looking for shortcuts and easy answers. -Michael Makai

 

Here is to enjoying the challenge of the hobby!