Disappearing escort

[MikeyGMin]

Now that makes much more sense and doesn't sound near as cold-hearted. I retract my statement and thoughts that you must be one cold-hearted SOB.

[philly cheese]

Now that makes much more sense and doesn't sound near as cold-hearted. I retract my statement and thoughts that you must be one cold-hearted SOB.

 

 

https://rentmen.com/JuanBruno

[Andy2]

Frankly, I think it's not uncommon for escorts to disappear without a trace, for some or all of these reasons:

 

(1) The escort has a BF or Spouse who "finds out" and gives him an ultimatum. This happened to a famous courtesan in Los Angeles (I forget his name, but I saw him several times and loved him), and I dare say many others. If you promise your BF/Spouse that you are laying off "cold turkey" you do not want that person finding former clients' emails or voice messages in your iphone!

 

(2) The escort graduates from college/university and moves on to his career of choice (the escorting being a means to fund higher education). Or the escort has been unemployed and finds a job, ditching the temporary career. In any event, once he has "moved on," the former escort may want no trace of his prior occupation. Tyler from PlanetJockboys is an example of this phenomenon.

 

(3) The escort goes off the deep end because of drug addiction. This was the case with the infamous Devon from SF, who flamed out on this Forum in meth-induced rampages. There was a guy from Atlanta (Cade?) with the same problem. My favorite escort from the 1990s was using the money to fund an addiction, and at some point he disappeared.

[jeezifonly]

(4) Sometimes, like any of us, he may be called upon to devote time to an ailing parent or sibling, or even friend, and sometimes this can include grief, relocation, exhaustion and depression that necessitates a sharp turn in ones life. Whatever the reason, it is best to not take it personally - clients fit into lives of escorts when there's room. Sometimes there is simply no room - like part of any relationship. Find another with the room to fit you in and enjoy fond memories of your MIA man.

[Jock123]

Note to all escorts:

When the time comes to retire from escorting, consider letting your clients know. No, you don't owe us anything, but, as this thread shows, many of us care about you, and will worry if you just disappear. Just post an announcement, or maybe some automatic email or telephone response. Thank you.

 

Its not just Escorts. I've had quite a few clients whom I saw Reguraly just Dissappear. I try not to take it personal but some of these Clients I had gotten very close to and considered them a good Friend. Alot of times I find myself reflecting on the past few years and thinking "I remember meeting(Clients name) around so and so time...wow that was Fun" wondering what ever happened. I'm sure a majority of them It just all boils down to Finances and what they can actually afford. One of the best experiences I've ever had was with someone who hired me a few states away for an Entire week....Granted this was my FIRST time meeting him I had my hang ups about spending a week with someone whom I never met...but It actually turned out to be phenomonal. We hit it off so well. Thats something You cant fake/force. We would see each other every month for a weekend for almost a Year straight. And then the Emails/texts just...stopped. Recently I've been trying to see him again but It turns out his mom is basically on her death bed and its cost him quite a bit to take care of her.

 

 

It just seems alot of us are cutting back these days(Yay for Rent/Mortgages!)

[+ glennnn]

Wow! Hadn't thought of that aspect! Really, life is full of these losses- the co worker you spend YEARS with five days a week and then never see again when you change jobs, the classmate you grow up with and lose track of after graduation, the neighbor you forget when you move. How shallow of me to think that only the client forms an attachment in our relationships. Thank you for some food for thought.

[jawjateck]

Its not just Escorts. I've had quite a few clients whom I saw Reguraly just Dissappear. I try not to take it personal but some of these Clients I had gotten very close to and considered them a good Friend. Alot of times I find myself reflecting on the past few years and thinking "I remember meeting(Clients name) around so and so time...wow that was Fun" wondering what ever happened. I'm sure a majority of them It just all boils down to Finances and what they can actually afford. One of the best experiences I've ever had was with someone who hired me a few states away for an Entire week....Granted this was my FIRST time meeting him I had my hang ups about spending a week with someone whom I never met...but It actually turned out to be phenomonal. We hit it off so well. Thats something You cant fake/force. We would see each other every month for a weekend for almost a Year straight. And then the Emails/texts just...stopped. Recently I've been trying to see him again but It turns out his mom is basically on her death bed and its cost him quite a bit to take care of her.

 

 

It just seems alot of us are cutting back these days(Yay for Rent/Mortgages!)

 

A few of us tried our dang best to crack into this inner circle of Jock123-admired clients, and sadly, failed in our mission, or.......maybe it was just me.

[big-n-tall]

A few of us tried our dang best to crack into this inner circle of Jock123-admired clients, and sadly, failed in our mission, or.......maybe it was just me.

 

Oh it's not just you.

[tennisjock]

When I first started hiring. I would hold back with guys the first time then I realized a lot of them disappear for whatever reason so if you like them or just what to see them again then do it sooner than later as life happens and also just enjoy the moment when with them

[BaronArtz]

Its not just Escorts. I've had quite a few clients whom I saw Reguraly just Dissappear. I try not to take it personal but some of these Clients I had gotten very close to and considered them a good Friend. Alot of times I find myself reflecting on the past few years and thinking "I remember meeting(Clients name) around so and so time...wow that was Fun" wondering what ever happened. I'm sure a majority of them It just all boils down to Finances and what they can actually afford. One of the best experiences I've ever had was with someone who hired me a few states away for an Entire week....Granted this was my FIRST time meeting him I had my hang ups about spending a week with someone whom I never met...but It actually turned out to be phenomonal. We hit it off so well. Thats something You cant fake/force. We would see each other every month for a weekend for almost a Year straight. And then the Emails/texts just...stopped. Recently I've been trying to see him again but It turns out his mom is basically on her death bed and its cost him quite a bit to take care of her.

 

In fact, I will make sure to reach out to a few of them this evening.

 

 

It just seems alot of us are cutting back these days(Yay for Rent/Mortgages!)

 

Well, thank you for posting this. You bring up an excellent point, which is the perspective of the escort. How does an escort feel when a client they liked/saw regularly suddenly disappears? And not only because of the business aspect of it - although having regulars is a key to success. But how do you feel? It is something that I, as a client, have been guilty of. I never intentionally disappeared, but I have stopped seeing some escorts I saw regularly. Some escorts did reach out, others did not. I have felt shy about re-contacting some of these guys. What do you say, after all, after a prolonged absence? Your post, Jock123, certainly made me think. I will try to be more sensitive about it in the future.

[tennisjock]

Baronartz..if you want to revisit an escort you saw in the past I would just text or call and say hey and schedule a session. I did that with one that was too big for me handle at the time but then I got experience and really enjoyed it so I looked him back up 5 years later and he could give me it all and then some..the added factor is the mind build up from all the prior sessions etc so it is fun and intense and all are happy

[Rod Hagen]

Its not just Escorts. I've had quite a few clients whom I saw Reguraly just Dissappear.

 

In 17 years of escorting* this has happened just under a dozen times with regular clients who were also solid friends, and 3 or 4 times with clients who were so close all boundaries were down. One treated me like a son, two others like a lover they could have never imagined being so lucky to have, and I felt the same way. Then. Just. Gone. It's weird. The first one had several bankruptcies and debt (one of those rich people always fiscally in arrears, like Thomas Jefferson), which was never an issue between us, but I suspect he was either arrested or got into a bad situation. Maybe some shame on his end, he liked being someone with money. 15 years later I still worry about him.

 

Another time this happened with someone I was very close to, and a year later, thinking about him, I decided to dig deeper. Found him, he'd become bedridden. No cell phone, no email. Just at-home-healthcare staff. I'm glad I didn't give up. Rather than wonder forever what happened, I can see him, talk, hug, flash my privates when staff steps out, and hold his hand. Be a friend.

 

But this happens. And more often than not it's not for health reasons. You need them. They need you. But they leave. Without a word. Strange.

 

*Should I stop saying "in 17 years of escorting"? Is it common enough knowledge that I don't have to mention it again?

[nebula]

99% the time, when a client disappears, he just no longer interested

[cmennow]

Jail

[+ glennnn]

@rodhagen,

 

This is why I want so much to meet and get to know you. I sense a tender, true heart in a beautiful man. You make me cry from tenderness and joy.

[Rod Hagen]

99% the time, when a client disappears, he just no longer interested

 

we aren't talking about the 99%, we are talking about when the relationship has become longterm and intimate and familial and THEN he disappears and there's more reason than not to think something more than "lost interest" is involved.

[Rod Hagen]

@rodhagen,

 

This is why I want so much to meet and get to know you. I sense a tender, true heart in a beautiful man. You make me cry from tenderness and joy.

 

Very very sweet. Thank you.

[big-n-tall]

Its not just Escorts. I've had quite a few clients whom I saw Reguraly just Dissappear. I try not to take it personal but some of these Clients I had gotten very close to and considered them a good Friend. Alot of times I find myself reflecting on the past few years and thinking "I remember meeting(Clients name) around so and so time...wow that was Fun" wondering what ever happened.

 

There are a number of working guys I truly believe we will be friends for the life... even after they retire. One in particular (who has retired) has become a very close friend, yearly reminds me of the anniversary we met. I never remember, but he always does.

[+ DickyF]

You met an escort, he looked like everything you ever wanted, he whispered like everything you ever wanted, and he touched like everything you ever wanted. When you were with him, you wished time could stand still.

 

You thought you hit a jackpot, you wanted to see him over and over and over again. But who knew, you were nothing to him. He pushed you away, again and again and again. Before you knew it, him blowing you off had become a monthly activity between you two.

 

You were confused, shocked, puzzled, and hurt. Emotions consumed you like you were standing in front of a tsunami, nowhere to hide. Angery, depressed, sad, like whole world turned grey. You put yourself in the most humble position possible, begging him to just be his client. Then, after you received that "I don't want to see you again" message for the 15 million times (exaggerated, of course), you finally gave up.

 

Guess what, life goes on, time kills everything. Three months after that "last message", you are diving with 20 giant manta rays in manta ray village, watching fresh lava flow that just came out from Kilauea volcano eruption flowing into the ocean, crushing cars with a tank and destroying cars with a mini-gun in vegas, sitting in your over water villa sipping coconut in bora bora, and finally getting that coyote buttes north (wave) permit so you can hike this exordinary wonder. You don't even think about that "magical" escort for a second anymore.

 

Finally, you are free, you are "clean". Then, you saw this post and started writing and revisited all the memories. You realized nothing mattered anymore. You are having a smile on your face just knowing how silly you were, then push the "post reply" button.

 

Tomorrow, you forget about everything again.

That's an interesting scenario though it doesn't capture what I'm referring to. Granted the reality is that I may never know what happened.