Disappearing escort

[philly cheese]

@dcguy20

Yep, same here.....3 very good and very beautiful guys I've seen multiple times have vanished without a trace so to speak!

 

@alexslaveboy Have you seen Tony C recently? I've contacted him since his long trip with no success.

 

Not meaning to hijack a thread............. PM me @alexslaveboy if you'd rather.

[bobchitown]

Jason Markus just stopped. Great escort, great heart. I miss him.

 

Me too. We had a most unfortunate misconnect the last time we were to meet and then he was just gone.

[JayNY]

Where in the world is Tony Callandro? Is he still in Thailland vacationing?

[+ glennnn]

I'm kind of making it a practice to not rehire the same guy too often, especially if he's wonderful, as all of mine have been. This may seem counter intuitive, but I don't want to become infatuated with one of them, which I could. When someone hugs and kisses you and makes love to you........it is hard to remember the rules of the game. It must be hard to have a long time escort just disappear.

[alexslaveboy]

@alexslaveboy Have you seen Tony C recently? I've contacted him since his long trip with no success.

 

Not meaning to hijack a thread............. PM me @alexslaveboy if you'd rather.

@philly cheese

Nope he's seems to have vanished

I know he's was moving to PA (not Philadelphia area for a new job)

Sadly I think he's retired or only seeing a select few......guess I didn't make the cut

He was an amazing guy though and loads of fun.

****Now back to our regularly scheduled thread*****

[philly cheese]

@philly cheese

Nope he's seems to have vanished

I know he's was moving to PA (not Philadelphia area for a new job)

Sadly I think he's retired or only seeing a select few......guess I didn't make the cut

He was an amazing guy though and loads of fun.

****Now back to our regularly scheduled thread*****

 

Thanks for the update @alexslaveboy

 

Guess I didn't make the cut either.........

 

Now. Back to the thread.

[gateway558]

I saw same escort for 4 years and went on many vacations and saw him often. We got pretty close and even took his mother on several trips. After he met me, he reduced his rates by 1/2. At the end he got a boyfriend and stopped escorting but he did still stay in contact. At one point he broke up with boyfriend and he immediately called to see if we could get together. It never happened. A couple of days later he reconciled with boyfriend and they eventually married and had a child. He told me that the boyfriend was aware of his "previous occupation" and he wanted him to cut all ties and I have never heard from the escort again. I think many escorts, when they do move on, want to forget the past (some possibly due to guilt or other reasons). I think it would be a very normal thing for "ex-escorts" to do- cut all ties!

[caliguy]

A part of me is sad that I won't be able to him anymore but it's kinda like that bitter sweet moment in "good will hunting"

Why do you care? Obviously he doesn't care much about you. You're not even worthy enough for a response. Pick yourself up and move on. Couldn't be any clearer.

[alexslaveboy]

Where in the world is Tony Callandro? Is he still in Thailland vacationing?

@JayNY

See my reply to Philly Cheese in regards to Tony C.

[nebula]

Why do you care? Obviously he doesn't care much about you. You're not even worthy enough for a response. Pick yourself up and move on. Couldn't be any clearer.

best response for all the sadness in this thread.

[BaronArtz]

When someone hugs and kisses you and makes love to you........it is hard to remember the rules of the game. It must be hard to have a long time escort just disappear.

 

You hit the nail on the head. This is so true ...

[MikeyGMin]

You hit the nail on the head. This is so true ...

 

Absolutely true, but @glennnn you may want to consider just strictly managing your expectations about the future, and guarding your heart, rather than stop seeing someone who is great in the here and now.

 

I hesitate to make this analogy, and I am in no way comparing the relationship with an escort to that of a pet, but...

 

Like many here I am a huge dog lover. I've been devastated more than once in my life by the loss of a dog, and I'm within a few years of it happening again with my current beastie. However, I would never give up all the joy that a dog brings to my life because of the inevitable end that must come.

 

Apologies if that is a lame analogy, but guarding your heart and not crossing a line with a regular escort is really not that difficult. Yes, you miss them when they're gone, but what you get in between is more than worth it.

[+ glennnn]

Note to all escorts:

When the time comes to retire from escorting, consider letting your clients know. No, you don't owe us anything, but, as this thread shows, many of us care about you, and will worry if you just disappear. Just post an announcement, or maybe some automatic email or telephone response. Thank you.

[big-n-tall]

Note to all escorts:

When the time comes to retire from escorting, consider letting your clients know. No, you don't owe us anything, but, as this thread shows, many of us care about you, and will worry if you just disappear. Just post an announcement, or maybe some automatic email or telephone response. Thank you.

 

Some do and some don't. I guess it's all situational. For some escorts, it may be just as hard letting go. So it's easier to cut all ties. Talking to Alec before he ended his escorting career, he said it was like he was breaking up with so many good people.

 

It would be nice if every working guy would let their clients know of their impending retirement... some just can't for unknown reasons. Just revel in the fun times and memories you had. That's the best you can hope for. But you never know... that working guy may walk back into your life (or in some cases never leave) once they've retired.

[+ glennnn]

Absolutely true, but @glennnn you may want to consider just strictly managing your expectations about the future, and guarding your heart, rather than stop seeing someone who is great in the here and now.

 

I hesitate to make this analogy, and I am in no way comparing the relationship with an escort to that of a pet, but...

 

Like many here I am a huge dog lover. I've been devastated more than once in my life by the loss of a dog, and I'm within a few years of it happening again with my current beastie. However, I would never give up all the joy that a dog brings to my life because of the inevitable end that must come.

 

Apologies if that is a lame analogy, but guarding your heart and not crossing a line with a regular escort is really not that difficult. Yes, you miss them when they're gone, but what you get in between is more than worth it.

 

Yes! Loving will always involve some pain and it is not a lame analogy. I have never lived without a dog in my life. I guess I've been through 12 or 15 now, and love wins over pain, always. Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I didn't mean that I won't see my regular guys again. I guess I just hope that keeping my circle of escorts large will keep me from caring too much about any one of them, because if you are dying of thirst, it is hard not to feel love for the one who gives you water. When I started hiring in September, 2015, I had no idea how much my life would be enriched. It is so much more than just cumming. I am so grateful to you all and my guys.

[caliguy]

Note to all escorts:

When the time comes to retire from escorting, consider letting your clients know. No, you don't owe us anything, but, as this thread shows, many of us care about you, and will worry if you just disappear. Just post an announcement, or maybe some automatic email or telephone response. Thank you.

You have their contact info I assume. How about you reach out to them instead. Just because they retire doesn't mean they're done with you. Unless of coarse it's a new relationship of coarse. At any rate, if you had good chemistry with each other then why not. Most aren't like the OP's experience.

[+ glennnn]

I agree. I was speaking to the ones like those discussed above who might DISAPPEAR, as in can't be found. Of course, I would reach out to my regulars and the others. When I said, "if you just disappear", I meant abandon your email, webpage, phone, etc. so you can't be contacted. I certainly don't expect an escort to make a personal, individual contact with every client. I was suggesting to the escorts who might read this that we care about them more than they might imagine and it is disturbing when they just vanish.

[bobchitown]

You have their contact info I assume. How about you reach out to them instead. Just because they retire doesn't mean they're done with you. Unless of coarse it's a new relationship of coarse. At any rate, if you had good chemistry with each other then why not. Most aren't like the OP's experience.

 

Not when their escort number is disconnected and email isn't answered. It's like they closed out the escort part of their life.

[caliguy]

Not when their escort number is disconnected and email isn't answered. It's like they closed out the escort part of their life.

Apparently no response means that either they don't like you, they're an asshole, or maybe both. That or they just deleted their contact info. Although, I'll bet the email is still active.

[EricTheGreat]

Yeah there was this guy named "Kyle" who I met up with a couple times before I deployed. I came back and rentboy shut down. I still have his number saved but since he hasn't advertised on another site I just didn't bother checking to see if he's still around.

[+ azdr0710]

don't know if it's been mentioned already, but some escorts will entirely "disappear" because of a stalker situation or discovery of their work by folks the escort would rather keep it private from......they aren't deliberately cutting off ties with trusted regulars, but have to lay very low

[nebula]

when a restaurant you frequent suddenly closed without notice, would you "get hurt" like many people described in this thread? if you looking for someone that can "hurt" you, find yourself a boyfriend. getting hurt by an escort is ludacris, you create all this to yourself. for god's sake, these are escorts, you guys all cry over an escort? if you get scammed by one, report here, so we all stay away. I have heard tons of miserable stalker stories from escorts, I don't feel sympathy, but will never book again with this escort. if you go to a massage, the masseur just can't shut up with their sad pathetic lives, how would you rate this massage? too many escorts use these sad little stories to get sympathy in order to underperform in a session or get clients feel bad for them and give them extra benefits. a good escort never start this bullshit with clients.

[down_to_business]

I would be devastated when my favorite restaurant closes down. I also don't fault anyone for making connections or blame people for getting attached. Some people are just caring. While I agree this "hobby" can lend itself to people getting taken advantage of, and it's usually the client who "cares" a whole lot more than the escort does, this hobby walks the line of making personal connections and it is reasonable that some would have a harder time with out having the opportunity for closure.

[MikeyGMin]

getting hurt by an escort is ludacris, you create all this to yourself. for god's sake, these are escorts, you guys all cry over an escort?

 

You are either A) extremely cold-blooded or B) never had a really good regular escort situation. Based on the overall post, I'm thinking "A" which might also explain "B".

 

There is a huge difference between being devastated and being a little hurt and missing someone (escort or not) when they have moved on. If you are devastated, that is definitely on you. You let your emotions get out of control. But missing someone who brought pleasure into your life simply means that you valued them.

[nebula]

the root cause for all this pain I see in this thread is people develop feelings for someone that don't care about them. I feel for every one of the fellow members here recalling their sad memories. however, a guy that can't even spare a few minutes to reply your messages, really worth all this effort and money you spend on him? how difficult is it to have some basic respect for other people and just reply a message? just stay away! tons of other courteous and hot people you can hire are out there.