Advice for first hire?

[Monkey]

Hello o/

 

I'm new to these forums, but if contemplating the decision to hire an escort I figured it would be a good place to start.

 

I've been browsing rentmen.com for several years now: not really with the intent to hire. But lately I've been in a funk. It's been a while since I last had sex; so long I think my virginity grew back. I'm all nervous about it again, and after a series of poor encounters off Grindr I decided maybe investing in a "guaranteed' positive experience would help me get my groove back.

 

But I don't really know how to approach it.

 

There's so many options (here in NYC) and I don't really know how narrow it down or how determine if they're reputable/trustworthy or not. Reviews on rentmen are bare-bones and hardly helpful, and not very escort has reviews on here. I want to talk to an escort to get a better vibe off them but I get the impression contacting an escort without the intent to hire is frowned upon, and I don't want to appear flaky to someone I might want to hire.

 

Maybe I'm overthinking it and am just overly nervous.

 

Any advice would be welcome

[Brit-in-America]

When you find the right guy, make sure you tell him this is new for you and let him take the lead?

[down_to_business]

Step 1. Find the somebody(s) you are attracted to... whos looks make you swoon, whos interests align with yours, whos sexual compatibility matches with yours.

 

Step 2. Make sure the person's pictures in step 1 are recent, accurate, and most importantly of the person you are considering hiring. Do they have a social media presence ?(due diligence, step 1)

 

Step 3. Search for reviews and people's opinions that you trust of this person. See how they have responded to others (reviews, questions, complaints). Put out a 411 thread here. (due diligence step 2)

 

Step 4. Establish contact. Ask the questions you absolutely need answers to, but don't overwhelm them. Be honest and upfront while protecting your own identity, request a brief phone call to discuss things if you think this could be the one and you still have some unanswered questions or nerves to be calmed. At this point you can get into the specifics of what you are hoping to accomplish with this hire if you want to. Be prepared to book a specific date and time if they turn out to be a good fit for you.

 

Step 5. Don't overthink it. Don't over-communicate after making the appointment. Don't overstress yourself out. Just go and have a great time. Do meet in a public place, like a Starbucks or a hotel lobby if you have any minor concerns at all of your safety. ALWAYS let a friend know who you are going to meet any time you meet anyone online whether escort or a hookup.

[Becket]

I decided maybe investing in a "guaranteed' positive experience would help me get my groove back.

 

there is no such thing. But downtobusiness easy five steps listed above is about the best way I've ever seen to get started. Memorize Step 5 word for word.

 

happy hunting.

[Monkey]

there is no such thing. But downtobusiness easy five steps listed above is about the best way I've ever seen to get started. Memorize Step 5 word for word.

 

happy hunting.

 

Haha I know there's no way to guarantee satisfaction I just figure I have better odds this way than on Grindr.

 

But thank you for the helpful responses, especially down_to_business.

But thank you for the helpful responses, especially down_to_business. That was a deeply informative post.

 

I'll get down and do more research.

[Despardo]

For a first experience, stick with a known commodity--a well reviewed professional with a reputation! Of course, select someone who floats your boat--one size does not fit all (so to speak.) Once you have established that the escort in the ad is in fact who he claims to be, and he is well known and highly regarded in the industry, you can proceed without worry.

 

If in doubt, ask about him specifically on Daddy. Forum members are more than happy to share their opinions with the rest of the world given even the slightest opportunity. Read through the flood of feedback you get critically--not everybody likes the same thing and none of us are you.

 

If you hire a well established escort with a good reputation, it is highly unlikely you will get ripped off. If the encounter is not everything you had hoped for, it probably won't be a complete waste of money and time, and at least you will walk away in one piece. Then you can try somebody else you may like better. Don't put all your emotional eggs in one basket (again, so to speak.) You should be excited (and nervous) about meeting this person, but if you build him up in your mind to be some kind of Olympian god who will change you life forever, you are setting yourself up to be disappointed.

 

Tell the escort up front in your email, text or phone conversations that you are new at this. Let him know as briefly as possible (don't waste his time) what you expect, your likes and your limitations. Quality professionals are used to catering to the clients' specific needs. If the tone of your communications with the escort gives you pause, doesn't seem comfortable or right to you, you may wish to choose someone else. I personally prefer escorts who make some effort to establish an initial rapport and display some enthusiasm about meeting you--friendly, good manners, well organized, sane, not to mention an attempt to sound sexy. These are the hallmarks of a pro...or else a very talented scam artist, but you will have already taken steps to avoid such persons by doing your research first.

 

In NYC you have a Yuuuuge selection of amazing men to choose from and about as many con artists. Pick 3 or 4 hot guys and then do your homework.

[AdamSmith]

Mamma Maria. Some posts make it sound like planning your retirement account.

 

Find a rentmen ad you like, phone him for a minute or two, then throw yourself into it.

 

And if it is not 176% what you wanted -- go again!

[rvwnsd]

Here are some tips I have provided in the past when someone asked about how to hire for the first time:

 

1. Have a clear picture the type of guy you are looking for. Hairy and muscular? Twinkish and smooth? Gets or gives or flips? Kisses or doesn't? If you like more than one type, rank them.
   
2. Browse ads and save the ones you like to your buddy list. Make notes about the guys as you buddy list them. If you use the new rent.men site, you can even update the notes with any information you glean about him.
   
3. Post an inquiry (or inquiries) on the Forum. It always helps if you provide a link to the guy's ad. Also, invite guys to provide their feedback by starting a "conversation" privately. Reviews are not allowed in the forum.
   
4. Search for the guy on the Daddy's Reviews site. Keep in mind that a review depicts the reviewer's impression of the session. If I like something that you dislike, my review of whatever you dislike will probably not be an indicator of whatever it is you do like. However, when a review contains information about the manner in which the escort conducts himself and communicates you have very valuable information.
   
5. Reach out to the guy in the manner by which you both feel comfortable. If a guy's ads say "text only" and you will only speak by phone, I'd advise to get over your aversion to texts or find another escort.
   
6. Give him a chance to respond. He might be entertaining a client, having dinner with a friend, or working out at the gym. Whatever he is doing, be somewhat patient. Don't worry if he doesn't get back to you within the hour. If he hasn't gotten back to you by the next day, think about whether you still want to hire him or perhaps move on.
   

Welcome to the Forum. Happy hunting and feel free to ask any questions you might have. That's what we are here for.

[DonaldTramp]

Don't forget to have a gun or knife on you when you finally meet.

[rvwnsd]

I forgot to mention one VERY IMPORTANT detail. Resist the temptation of booking a guy for an overnight appointment the first time you hire. If you think an hour might not be enough time, book an hour and ask the guy whether you could extend to two hours if you are both up for it. That way, if the chemistry just isn't there you have spent a one-hour fee and if it is you have the option to extend.

[+ Truereview]

Three short additions:

1. The timeline to make your first hire is yours and yours alone...no one gets to tell you when it's right except you
   
2. If things don't go well on the first hire, no one but yourself stands in the way of giving it another try
   
3. It is not so much what he does with you, but how he makes you feel
   

[Monkey]

Don't forget to have a gun or knife on you when you finally meet.

Is this a joke, or....

[Bearofdistinction]

Hello o/

 

I'm new to these foemm joynjoyrums, but if contemplating the decision to hire an escort I figured it would be a good place to start.

 

I've been browsing rentmen.com for several years now: not really with the intent to hire. But lately I've been in a funk. It's been a while since I last had sex; so long I think my virginity grew back. I'm all nervous about it again, and after a series of poor encounters off Grindr I decided maybe investing in a "guaranteed' positive experience would help me get my groove back.

 

But I don't really know how to approach it.

 

There's so many options (here in NYC) and I don't really know how narrow it down or how determine if they're reputable/trustworthy or not. Reviews on rentmen are bare-bones and hardly helpful, and not very escort has reviews on here. I want to talk to an escort to get a better vibe off them but I get the impression contacting an escort without the intent to hire is frowned upon, and I don't want to appear flaky to someone I might want to hire.

 

Maybe I'm overthinking it and am just overly nervous.

 

Any advice would be welcome

 

Pick well reviewed guys communicate well, clean your hole, then relax and e