So, would you walk away?

[+ dutchmuch]

You've done your due diligence, spoke by phone, three finger-selfie, etc.

You arrive, and per text message, the hotel door will be cracked open, 'just come on in'.

Said escort pictured is lying in bed, but can't get out. Not because of alcohol or other drugs, he's handicapped.

Walk away, or proceed?

[+ Robster]

I'd proceed. Although he should have mentioned that during the aforementioned phone conversation.

 

Rob

[nynakedtop]

Sure it would have been more appropriate for the escort to have disclosed. But just the fact that this is an escort situation does not mean all human decency is put on hold.

 

Have an open discussion, yes. Walk away? No. Come on, can't we find it in ourselves to treat one another with some respect?? (Particularly those of us who, more than likely, are already pushed to the margins on a regular basis.)

[+ Robster]

Slightly off-topic, but a couple of years ago, I was at a Helios party in Palm Springs, and wound up in the hot tub with a hot guy. One thing led to another, and we started making out. I soon discovered that he had no legs. They ended just above the knee. I looked at him, he looked at me, and we went back to making out. I wound up going back to his place with him, where we had a really good time.

 

Rob

[Kevin Slater]

Slightly off-topic, but a couple of years ago, I was at a Helios party in Palm Springs, and wound up in the hot tub with a hot guy. One thing led to another, and we started making out. I soon discovered that he had no legs. They ended just above the knee. I looked at him, he looked at me, and we went back to making out. I wound up going back to his place with him, where we had a really good time.

 

Rob

 

I could imagine that he might make a great bottom.

 

Kevin Slater

[marylander1940]

Slightly off-topic, but a couple of years ago, I was at a Helios party in Palm Springs, and wound up in the hot tub with a hot guy. One thing led to another, and we started making out. I soon discovered that he had no legs. They ended just above the knee. I looked at him, he looked at me, and we went back to making out. I wound up going back to his place with him, where we had a really good time.

 

Rob

 

 

I could imagine that he might make a great bottom.

 

Kevin Slater

 

Yinz are so pragmatic!

[+ Robster]

I could imagine that he might make a great bottom.

He did indeed.

 

Rob

[+ Truereview]

Everytime that I slept with a man with a disability, I knew upfront because I sought him, he told me, or bc I hired him and he openly showed his disability in his ad. The scenario Dutch poses would be brand new to me and I would probably not be as calm or steady as others.

 

As to the scenario, I would not walk away, but I would not proceed right away either. I would probably sit by the bed, look him in the eye, thank him for looking like his pix, and then ask him to help me get wrap my brain around our situation ( it will take both of us to make the best of our mutual pleasure).

 

When I face a difference, I can't look beyond it, I have to understand it, wrestle with it, and then I can adapt to it. That's neither the right or wrong way, it is just how I'm wired.

[nynakedtop]

When I face a difference, I can't look beyond it, I have to understand it, wrestle with it, and then I can adapt to it. That's neither the right or wrong way, it is just how I'm wired.

 

Absolutely - and I don't mean/want to take this thread down the rabbit hole of discussing "difference", but in my teaching about people who are atypical (be it physically, emotionally, cognitively), I stress that this is not about "tolerance" -- tolerance promotes an agenda of exclusion -- but about recognizing the value of other-ness.

 

oops.... there i go doing what i meant not to do. so be it. celebrating my own difference.

[beachboy]

Wow True. That's a very dignified & sympathetic way to handle the situation. Good for you fella.

[+ glennnn]

I hope that I would recall and focus on the reasons I decided to hire him in the first place, and proceed. I relate to True's answer above. I might have concerns and questions, but we could work them out. After all, I bring handicaps of ED, age and an aging, less than perfect body to the encounter, too.

[+ ArVaGuy]

I would probably go forward with the session but, much like Truereview, a conversation about the situation would be necessary.

 

[uSER=12768]@NickyBlueEyes[/uSER] is a veteran who lost a leg and, from what I can tell, a very popular escort. His advertising profile mentions his situation up front and in a very forthright manner. He would be someone I'd hire for his looks and skill alone. The fact he has a prosthesis is entirely secondary to any meeting.

[BaronArtz]

That sort of scenario does NOT happen in real life.

[Despardo]

I have had several good times with individuals with missing limbs and once with a deaf mute. I would think that an escort would be upfront about that sort of thing. Nicky Blue Eyes in SF, for example, lost a leg serving in the military, and he is an incredibly sexy man--not an issue.

[Jim Corrigan]

I might be angry.No problem having sex with a handicapped person but as a client I would like to know ahead of time

[+ dutchmuch]

That sort of scenario does NOT happen in real life.

 

Which one Baron?

[AdamSmith]

I would love his cojones; take a minute to get to know him; explore how we could, enjoyably to him, fuck like rabbits.

[sincitymix]

[uSER=12768]@NickyBlueEyes[/uSER] is a veteran who lost a leg and, from what I can tell, a very popular escort. His advertising profile mentions his situation up front and in a very forthright manner. He would be someone I'd hire for his looks and skill alone. The fact he has a prosthesis is entirely secondary to any meeting.

 

NBB is so hot!

[+ harey]

I would walk away because of his lack of courtesy and common sense.

[Rudynate]

I would probably go forward with the session but, much like Truereview, a conversation about the situation would be necessary.

 

[uSER=12768]@NickyBlueEyes[/uSER] is a veteran who lost a leg and, from what I can tell, a very popular escort. His advertising profile mentions his situation up front and in a very forthright manner. He would be someone I'd hire for his looks and skill alone. The fact he has a prosthesis is entirely secondary to any meeting.

 

 

I have never hired him, but I have talked with him and he is a charming guy. As a matter of fact I saw him this afternoon at the Dore Alley Street Fair. Truthfully, his disability makes him more interesting to me.

[gallahadesquire]

Under other circumstances, say a chance meeting, or from the viewpoint (mine) of a client with a mild disability:

 

I'm prone to give the Escort in this scenario the benefit of the doubt. He may have gotten to a point where he doesn't notice his disability. I know I have to think about mine, and I'm sometimes rudely corrected by Reality when I try to do something that I really shouldn't ... or shouldn't have.

 

A wonderful escort taught me to think of myself as having a mild disability, not of being mildly disabled. And he's incredibly attuned to the fact that Major Orthopedic Disaster is right around the corner. He's very professional in that way, and I feel more secure for it.

 

I'm not one to think that "if you lose a sense, the others make up for it." Having been deaf in one ear for almost two decades, I know that that is bullshit. Similarly, not being 100% capable in society, be it mentally, socially, physically, or whatever ... one does tend to make accommodations.

 

And in the case of the above mentioned escort: Repeat appointments. I can't get me enough of him.

[rvwnsd]

I have never hired him, but I have talked with him and he is a charming guy. As a matter of fact I saw him this afternoon at the Dore Alley Street Fair. Truthfully, his disability makes him more interesting to me.

I would like to hire Nicky when I next visit San Francisco. He is a hot, sexy guy. And his ad accurately describes himself.

 

Nicky, unlike the escort Dutchmuch described, is up-front about his disability. I'd like to say that being surprised by the guy's disability would not faze me in the least. However, I cannot say that. Not being a fan of surprises, I also cannot say whether I would proceed with the appointment.

[+ dutchmuch]

Not being a fan of surprises, I also cannot say whether I would proceed with the appointment.

 

Sort of my point. Even when surprises are good, I can be a bit flummoxed.

[+ ArVaGuy]

Sort of my point. Even when surprises are good, I can be a bit flummoxed.

 

What was the disability? You indicate he could not get out of bed or had difficulty, hence the door ajar. Was he a paraplegic or missing a limb? This context would be helpful.

[jjkrkwood]

Once I processed the situation, the decision to stay or go would be based on a few other factors. However If I chose to leave, he would still certainly be entitled to some payment.