Do You Submit or Tell Stats Prior to Meeting Escorts?

[LADoug1]

I would think communications expressing sexual acts might make an escort concerned the possible date was a sting. I volunteer physical stats and a picture and rely on reviews to see if we are a match sexually.

[dlee02]

I have a related point, where things may have gone south with a supremely highly reviewed escort whom I've wanted to meet for years. I'll be traveling to a different part of the country this fall, and since it's near this escort's area, I texted him about setting something up. He presented as very polite, and even enthusiastic about meeting, and we seemed to hit it off really well. We even noted that we seemed to have a great connection, which was a sign of great things to come. After we agreed on a multiple hour appointment on a specific date (with the option for me to extend the session), I booked my flights. I then asked if he'd like to know anything about me, and he asked for a description of my looks and romantic interests. I provided that (although without explicit stats), and it's been abrupt radio silence since then. We had texted back and forth many times over the course of a day or so, and that happened to be during a pretty frequent exchange, so the silence after my description seems out of place, as I expected at least a reply as to whether he thought he could provide the experience I'm looking for.

 

I'm now trying to figure out if I do, or don't, have an actual appointment, and, if not, then the reason. I disclosed that I'm a big guy, but many of his reviews are from self-described larger or chubby men, so that can't be it. My rather vanilla interests align with those expressed by his reviewers, and we're compatible with respect to sexual positions (he's top, I'm bottom). Although I forgot to tell him my age (late 30s, by the way), I did mention that I'm black (this is a white escort). Now I'm wondering if that's why I haven't heard a peep since then. I followed up many hours after that with a generic request for his opinion on lodging in his area, but still no response. I have no way to know what's going on, and I hate that we live in a world where this even has to be a legitimate concern, but I can't help but wonder if this guy just assumed that I was white, and freaked when he learned otherwise. I prefer to think it's just that something unexpected came up, or maybe a broken phone, but I also don't want to come across as too persistent or needy, so I haven't sent a second follow-up text. This is why I generally am wary of escorts asking for a description, and why I never offer it, but since I seemed to have a good rapport with this guy, I took a leap of faith. I hope this doesn't turn out to be a bad lesson.

 

I have to agree with Juan, sadly, it's the reality of the world we live in.

 

I'm ethnically Asian and I've had enough bad hiring experiences in the past where if I meet someone new now, I always volunteer my basic stats and the fact that I'm Asian up front to avoid anymore bullshit and time wasting. I'd rather get the radio silence from the get go then waste my time and money in an uncomfortable situation face-to-face.

[Bearofdistinction]

That is so fucking wrong it made me shiver!

 

The white flower clashes with the pink panties. Even if the pearls are in between both colours.

 

Fix it!

 

LOL - Treat Her Like Shes a Bad Girl - Just Spanky -

[wearytraveller]

I have to agree with Juan, sadly, it's the reality of the world we live in.

 

I'm ethnically Asian and I've had enough bad hiring experiences in the past where if I meet someone new now, I always volunteer my basic stats and the fact that I'm Asian up front to avoid anymore bullshit and time wasting. I'd rather get the radio silence from the get go then waste my time and money in an uncomfortable situation face-to-face.

 

Agreed. Just happened to me. Everything fine in first email exchange. Provided my stats and race and radio silence; no response to two emails. I much prefer this rather than have the person meet, feign interest and just go through the motions. Better to be just disappointed then be disappointed AND short a few Benjamins

[Bearofdistinction]

Dupe

[Decatur Guy]

I offer my basic stats without being asked. I figured the guy deserves that much info after I've probably seen four to 40 pictures and a detailed description and most likely reviews.

 

If he's been reviewed on Daddy's, I'll also send a picture.

 

For instance, an escort from California flew to Atlanta once based primarily on my agreement to hire him for an evening. I thought he deserved to see who that was.

[WolfRamNHard]

I have a related point, where things may have gone south with a supremely highly reviewed escort whom I've wanted to meet for years. I'll be traveling to a different part of the country this fall, and since it's near this escort's area, I texted him about setting something up. He presented as very polite, and even enthusiastic about meeting, and we seemed to hit it off really well. We even noted that we seemed to have a great connection, which was a sign of great things to come. After we agreed on a multiple hour appointment on a specific date (with the option for me to extend the session), I booked my flights. I then asked if he'd like to know anything about me, and he asked for a description of my looks and romantic interests. I provided that (although without explicit stats), and it's been abrupt radio silence since then. We had texted back and forth many times over the course of a day or so, and that happened to be during a pretty frequent exchange, so the silence after my description seems out of place, as I expected at least a reply as to whether he thought he could provide the experience I'm looking for.

 

I'm now trying to figure out if I do, or don't, have an actual appointment, and, if not, then the reason. I disclosed that I'm a big guy, but many of his reviews are from self-described larger or chubby men, so that can't be it. My rather vanilla interests align with those expressed by his reviewers, and we're compatible with respect to sexual positions (he's top, I'm bottom). Although I forgot to tell him my age (late 30s, by the way), I did mention that I'm black (this is a white escort). Now I'm wondering if that's why I haven't heard a peep since then. I followed up many hours after that with a generic request for his opinion on lodging in his area, but still no response. I have no way to know what's going on, and I hate that we live in a world where this even has to be a legitimate concern, but I can't help but wonder if this guy just assumed that I was white, and freaked when he learned otherwise. I prefer to think it's just that something unexpected came up, or maybe a broken phone, but I also don't want to come across as too persistent or needy, so I haven't sent a second follow-up text. This is why I generally am wary of escorts asking for a description, and why I never offer it, but since I seemed to have a good rapport with this guy, I took a leap of faith. I hope this doesn't turn out to be a bad lesson.

 

[gallahadesquire]

I was being met in a hotel lobby, and told the escort I was older, of girth [get your collective minds OUT of the gutter!], and had a cane.

 

I was later told by the escort that "The elevator door opened. I saw you, saw that you'd overemphasized everything, and that I'd hit the jackpot!"

[gallahadesquire]

Yes, he did.

 

However, he was Scottish and wrote in his dialect of the time. Today, few people would understand what he wrote or said. Therefore, there was a Standard English translation made of his poem which you can find here along with his original poem:

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/To_a_Louse

 

Ait's nae liek ait's difficult, Laddie.

 

You should try reading Br'er Rabbit in the original.

[+ OliverSaks]

I always like to get at least some stats from a client - I don't require it, but it helps me plan our session a little (and perhaps even fantasize...)

 

It helps humanize a client; it is just one of the many small pieces of my vetting proces.

 

Whenever someone writes me something like, "I'm a bigger, older guy, that okay?" I think to myself, "jackpot!"

 

I'm sorry for our fat-shaming, ageist culture. Older men/bears, I would love to meet.

[Michael_S]

I generally say

 

Fat furry fifty kinky cuddly guy who likes

to have fun and wants my playdate to enjoy as well. Kissing and Mutual respect a Must!

How does that work when you say you are Fat, as I am very big, it is something I really hate about myself, but due to life, and things out of my control it is what it is right now. It scares me to say how much I weight, because I'm afraid I will automatically be rejected, but at the same time, i don't want the door to be shut in my face if I showed up. One time I called, and it was just for a massage, it was one of my very first ones, and I have a big body dismorphia problem, so this was going to be a battle for me. Everything was arranged, and I said everything is all set you are ok with me being a big guy, and he said yes of course, how big are you and I told him, he said well it will be extra, because it is much harder to work on bigger guys. I told he to go you know what. Honestly he could have given the crappiest massage in the world, I just wanted to feel a man's touch for the first time, I didn't care how well he did it. He was very sexy I thought, but out side looks, unfortunately don't always get you the best personalities. a good personality will always win over looks every time.

[Bearofdistinction]

How does that work when you say you are Fat, as I am very big, it is something I really hate about myself, but due to life, and things out of my control it is what it is right now. It scares me to say how much I weight, because I'm afraid I will automatically be rejected, but at the same time, i don't want the door to be shut in my face if I showed up. One time I called, and it was just for a massage, it was one of my very first ones, and I have a big body dismorphia problem, so this was going to be a battle for me. Everything was arranged, and I said everything is all set you are ok with me being a big guy, and he said yes of course, how big are you and I told him, he said well it will be extra, because it is much harder to work on bigger guys. I told he to go you know what. Honestly he could have given the crappiest massage in the world, I just wanted to feel a man's touch for the first time, I didn't care how well he did it. He was very sexy I thought, but out side looks, unfortunately don't always get you the best personalities. a good personality will always win over looks every time.

 

Id rather know if my size is an issue before we start - rather than both of us having a crappy time. If provider #1 is not interested there will be other who are.

[+ Eric Hassan]

It would occur to me that this would be the perfect reason to do exactly the opposite. If you are afraid that potential partners might react negatively to anything about you that you cannot hide (race, weight, disabilities come to mind right away) then it is in your best interest to share this information with them right off the bat... especially before booking air tickets!

 

I am so sorry that you are going through this, but I would see it as a great lesson, not a bad one. I hope that you start to see that by sharing the whole enchilada from the very beginning you will weed the assholes from the fun guys. Otherwise if you keep having the feeling that you are going to ambush them when they show up and fear their reaction but hope that -because he was polite on the phone- everything is going to go well.... well, you will find that sometimes things will go horribly wrong. He will not be able to show his discomfort, he will be an asshole, you would have had airfare booked, he won't be able to perform, he will treat you badly...

 

Alert those fucking racist assholes right off the bat. Your hiring pool might become smaller, but you will not be exposed to their hate.

 

Take care of yourself. Love yourself. Don't put yourself in such uncomfortable situations.

 

I strongly agree.

 

It's an act of love to own who you are, be willing to accept the vulnerability of sharing who you are, and having faith that things will work out in your best interest. That doesn't mean we always get what we want, and sometimes we feel hurt from something that happens and we think the lesson is to avoid the situation so we can avoid the hurt. You'd be amazed at the hurt you can un-do when you face the situation, share yourself again and again, and remain firm in the knowledge that everything will be OK.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I wonder if the providing of stats sends the implicit message of what is important to you. "I am white, x years old, weigh y lbs and z feet tall. Brown hair and green eyes. My dick is n inches long."

 

So...these are the things I feel it is important that you know about me and I want to know the same sorts of things about you. The desirability difference between your stats and my stats is reconciled by the money I'm going to put in an envelope.

 

Personally, I'm a little more interested in someone's personality, what kind of emotional connection we will likely make and how I will feel after our time together. Will it be "yea - I came" or will it be "Wow! That was an awesome experience of closeness and shared physical intimacy and I have a lingering feeling of elation and would love to be with this person again!".

 

Different strokes.

 

It's interesting that you say this. When someone is looking to hire me and doesn't provide any information about himself (stats, interests, tastes, etc), I ask him what he would want me to know about him. What people share tells you a lot.