Strip club ettiquette, help!!!

[Lab12]

I see the problem......

apart from being an arsehole, what is the problem lol

[DonaldTramp]

apart from being an arsehole, what is the problem lol

I'm going to guess its being in East St. Louis. Which I'm sure is lovely this time of year.

[Despardo]

feedback; So i went to boxers n briefs in East St. Louis on Friday night and I did not really enjoy myself that much. To begin with, there were no fit blokes, I guess my expectations were too high. I sat there grinning and smiling sheepishly to the drag show (literally a drag) going on. One of the dancers with a rather large and distended abdomen (in comparison to his skinny and miniature body) sat by me and started a conversation by saying "among all the dancers here I am the cutest" and me being the socially awkward sarcastic scientist, without hesitation, said " yeah, mate, you are the fairest in the land, but there is one even more fairer than you...all of the other dancers" he got up and left before i could apologise for being such an arsehole. There was this guy who looked a bit nice but was too into himself, he had the narcissus disease, when he was not on stage dancing, he will stand in front of one of the numerous mirrors in club checking himself out, flexing or dancing. I doubt taping a $100 bill to my forehead would have helped with him and that was very interesting to watch. I asked a customer who seemed to know his way around and told me most of the cute dancers were not there that night. I eventually left but before i did I gave $50 to the dancer that I was an arsehole to as a form of apology. so that is my rather uneventful night. I am going to wait to experience a better strip club in a bigger or tourist oriented city before i decide whether strip clubs are my thing or not but for now boxers n briefs is just not my thing.

And some of us were worried about you? You sound like a force to be dealt with. The best behavior at strip club is to smile, loosen up, relax, enjoy but don't check you common sense at the door. I just came back from my first trip to Montreal and recommend it without reservation. Besides, it is a nice city, reasonably priced, and the exchange rate at the moment results in a 20% discount on everything. The two primary strip clubs (there are 4) are Stock and Campus. The guys are super hot and willing and very professional and there is a huge selection. The clubs are safe and fun. The possibilities are endless (especially at Campus.) When I was there, I had no trouble having dancers approach me. At my table they got very touchy-feely. We either hung out for a while, then went into the back or we chatted a bit, but when they offered a private dance, I politely declined. I got good at saying no. If I was definitely interested, I bought them a drink--no one refused, and that nicely extended the conversation time before heading for the back. Smiling at or discreetly gesturing to a dancer on stage will usually insure that he will approach you later unless he is already fully committed. You can also walk right up to a dancer in the club and introduce yourself. Nothing wrong with that. His reaction will immediately tell you if he is available. If you are willing to tip $50 to a guy in whom you are not interested, apology or no, you should be very popular in any club you choose to visit.

[Lab12]

I'm going to guess its being in East St. Louis. Which I'm sure is lovely this time of year.

Whaaaaat!!! East St. Louis is the gem of the Midwest!!! lol

 

There really wasn't much to select from lol

[RadioRob]

As someone who hails from the Gateway to the West, that's an an area that certainly is not the Gay Lap Dance Mecca. Give it a go in another location, preferably on Fri/Sat when more of the "A" squads are out. Good luck!

[Lab12]

As someone who hails from the Gateway to the West, that's an an area that certainly is not the Gay Lap Dance Mecca. Give it a go in another location, preferably on Fri/Sat when more of the "A" squads are out. Good luck!

Thanks RadioRob, I am heading to Miami in two weeks so i will definitely check that scene out too.

[RadioRob]

Check out Floppy Rooster. The General Manager is Sam and he's a great guy. Lots of great guys there as well.

[Lab12]

Check out Floppy Rooster. The General Manager is Sam and he's a great guy. Lots of great guys there as well.

Any pointers that i can use?

[RadioRob]

The dancers each have a set on stage. If you see one you like, go up and slip them a buck. They have two options there to get more personal... Friction dances which are 25 per song. Those are semi private (a separate area in club but no real privacy). It's more of what it sounds like with some clothed bump and grind. There is a VIP option as well. Pricing is on their site at:

 

http://www.floppyroosterfl.com/#!VIP%20MENU%202-4-1.jpg/zoom/mainPage/crjr

 

That includes house and dancer fee, though you should talk to your dancer and get agreement on expectations. The VIP area is basically private corners separated by chain curtain. Things can be pretty fun depending on the chemistry you have with the dancer.

 

Above all, have fun! Get over about being too scared to approach or talk to a dancer. They'll be more than happy to chat with you a few min and most will even offer up friction or private dances. I personally will chit chat a few and see how we click. Those that don't make a few bucks tipped into shorts and no harm no foul. For those that do, we have a more intimate encounter. Some are even open to meeting outside the club. If you do click well after a dance, most don't object to the topic being brought up. If they are interested they'll let you know. If not they'll bow out, again no harm no foul.

 

Enjoy your time.

[RadioRob]

Dancers also wander around when not on set. Feel free to approach them. Don't just count on them to find you. Trust me they won't be offended.

 

I can be shy at times too, but this is a time where you want to leave it at the door where you pay cover and pick it back up when you leave.

[Penn7]

I think observing others goes a long way to learning the ropes. Strip clubs can be great for people watching in general. I tend to also be relatively "shy". In my case I am ALWAYS approached by the dancers in whom I have the least interest. And the ones I want tend to be difficult to get the attention of.

 

It can be tough but if you see a customer who appears to attract the attention of all the dancers either try to strike up a conversation and ask them how things work at that particular club or just watch them closely. They might be able to introduce you to whoever it is you want to meet. I feel like those gregarious kinds of people are happy to explain things to you.

 

Eye contact and a smile will certainly help. Being there when things are a little slower and less crowded will also make it easier to get attention.

 

Set a budget and stick to it. These guys are generally very good at separating people from their money. Don't allow yourself to get railroaded into anything. If you're not interested in a dancer who approaches you just say so. I find the direct approach works best. A simple "no thanks" usually does the trick. Saying "maybe later" is just an invitation for them to come back later. In Thai gogo bars I am always amazed by the guys who allow themselves to be taken advantage of. Always count the songs with the dancer if you are doing lap dances and paying by the song. That way there won't be any surprises at the end.

 

 

Before going in the back for one or more lap dances, I usually ask the dancer to give me a count after each song, so I know if we're already at 3 or whatever. Sometimes (if I've been chatting with the dancer & have reason to expect it'll go well in the back) I'll even say up front "let's do 2 dances at least" - I've heard some of them consider it impolite to do only 1. Of course, if you're having a subpar experience, you can politely end it & leave the back room, although if you said up front 2 or however many dances, he may expect that $ regardless. So I wouldn't say that up front unless you're pretty sure.

[Penn7]

As for being approached by dancers who don't interest you, I usually just say I'm just looking/watching. If he's hot but I just got there & want to see who all else is dancing, I'll say I'm just watching -- and then go find him later if he's the one I want.

[mattr]

For someone untried... always one to start. If things are going well, I extend by one at a time. I don't want to try and keep count myself. I do however always look at my watch at the start and finish to see how long the dance(s) lasted...

[Despardo]

Regarding the Floppy Rooster which I have never visited, I checked out the pricing on their website. $25 per song for a "friction" dance is steep in my opinion, but $120 for 15 minutes in VIP private sounds like a better value assuming you and the dancer agree in advance on what you expect to happen. In Montreal, I dropped about $220 CAN (about $175 US) on each of two dancers for about 30 minutes of private fun time at Campus. I got my money's worth and then some.

[+ sniper]

Yep that's him. I didn't realize he used Angelo as his last name...lol

I did a Google gay porn search to confirm that's him.

I just knew him as "David Angel Wings".

Really sweet guy who was very nice to a very young nycman.

 

Hey, you were the other guy under 30 going to the Gaiety in the late 90s? Hell I think I was often the only person under 60 in that place who wasn't working. I remember one regular who I was impressed made it up the stairs. Had a cane and seemed like he could barely walk.

 

I once almost went with Dave but he must have been chainsmoking right before he talked to me because the cigarette breath was overpowering and I passed. He was very nice though.

[Becket]

Dam this thread makes me wanna run to Atlanta tonight. We have nothing in Dallas. Le Bare is ok if you have a vagina. I really love Swinging Richards. Haven't been to others; they are very far away. OK, fine. I'm going.......