Shopping for Tricks

[Trixie]

Well, I've made plans for a dalliance with a young man I found off of Craigs List. He seems promising for me, and certainly inexpensive enough... thank heavens for CL, it's the Ross' Dress-for-less of the escort realm.

But I wonder if what I've been doing the last few times is considered fair play in hiring a guy for an evening. Lately, I will contact several escorts in a sitting, letting them all know what it is I'm seeking. Usually I hear from one or two, sometimes I hear from almost all of them.

As much as I'd like to hire all of them, I can only hire one.

I do this because, given my "special needs" it sometimes takes time to find an appropriate & willing young blade. And as we all know, when one feels an urge, one must address it quickly! If I were to e-mail one escort at a time, wait for his reply, discuss my peculiarities, rates etc., it could take weeks to find the right man. By soliciting several at once, at least I have a chance of finding a partner for a Sunday evening if I start Thursday night.

But on (rare) occasion it means that I have to say "You're great, thanks, but I'm going with someone else." to someone after contacting them.

Is this fair? Or, should I just plug along, contacting one man at a time?

What is "Good John" etiquette when e-shopping?

 

La Trix

[JamesK840]

Guys on CL are a finite resource, even in San Fran... But they *are* pretty damn flaky and setting something up can be a lot of work. So I suggest you keep doing what you're doing, but instead of telling them you've chosen someone else, string them on if you're honestly considering them... Say something came up but you'll get back in touch with them next time you're looking to play, then when you want somebody new you've already done half the work.

 

What was the old cliche, 'never close a door without opening a window'?

[+ Charlie]

Shopping is perfectly ethical--I don't feel an obligation to buy every pair of pants I try on. However, it is not ethical to agree to hire someone and then continue to shop for something better. If someone seems acceptable but not exactly right, don't commit. The one problem with being honest with the escort, that you are shopping around, is that he may continue to shop, too, and may tell you at the last minute that "something has come up".

[Juan Vancouver]

Hello, Trix,

I see nothing wrong with shopping. In the end, we all know that when we are offering a service, there might be someone out there who will offer it cheaper, or faster, or closer, or better... One can only hope that one is stressing one's strong points enough, and that in the end, you will choose ME.

However, I totally agree with the fact that making an appointment and keep looking is not something that I would like to have done to me. Unless I cancel an appointment that I made with a lot of time in advance, I ALWAYS honour it. Some escorts are in touch with others, so if you are a no-show client, it is very likely that it will be known, and in the future you might experience "mysterious" hardships when trying to make appointments with other escorts.

And, of course, as long as I dont have a confirmed appointment, with a confirmed adress, phone number, date and clear name, I will keep taking calls and accepting new engagements.

So it sounds kind of fair, right?

 

Happy hiring!

[+ ArVaGuy]

I have to agree with Juan here that shopping around AFTER confirming with an escort is not acceptable. I generally make it clear that I am interested in hiring an escort in "X" city and would like to know about availability when I contact a guy. However, once I am sure this is the guy I am going to hire I cease any shopping and focus on making arangemtns with him.

 

Its also possible that some escorts may continue to keep themselves on the market even after booking a client. The real professionals don't keep looking for a better offer and neither should a client. Speaking from experience I suspect that this happened to me where after confirming an appointment with an escort a week out and contacting him right before leaving to reconfirm was informed that "something came up."

 

Fortunately for me this resulted in the pleasure of hiring Juan this summer. :9 See my review #5 of Juan if like, he is one the best guys and worth a ticket to Vancouver.

 

ArlingtonVAGuy

[VaHawk]

"However, I totally agree with the fact that making an appointment and keep looking is not something that I would like to have done to me."

 

I don't think Trixie was advocating that, unless I misread. I thought he was just sending out several contacts at the same time rather than one at a time and waiting for a response, before sending out a second contact and waiting for the second contact's response, etc. Where did he say that he made an appointment and continued to shop after doing so?

 

Not to mention that he is referring to Craig'sList, not an escort listing site. Everyone knows that those two scenarios can not be compared in any way.

 

"Unless I cancel an appointment that I made with a lot of time in advance, I ALWAYS honour it."

 

That's great, but I doubt you can say that all listed escorts follow the same policy.

 

"Some escorts are in touch with others, so if you are a no-show client, it is very likely that it will be known, and in the future you might experience "mysterious" hardships when trying to make appointments with other escorts."

 

Good point, just like escorts being noted as such on this very site, and after establishing a reputation as a no-show, not getting any serious inquiries. Nothing is "mysterious" about that. And since there are a lot of escorts out there, I doubt it would be a big hardship for any client to book other escorts, or even the same escort, using a different email identity.

 

The escort is selling a service. The client is buying that service. Doesn't it follow that the escort is responsible for advertising his service as better than the competition? Doesn't it follow that the client should expect the service to be as advertised? Doesn't it follow that the seller should expect people browsing, not seriously shopping, as part of the nature of the business? Has the escort business degenerated to the point that the buyer has to beg the seller, and when the seller doesn't deliver as promised, the buyer has to apologize for expending his funds? If so, then that is so distorted, at least in a business sense.

[Trixie]

Yes VaHawk, you are right in your interpretation of my words, and I am quite sorry that I didn't make myself perfectly clear to the others. I would never make an appointment with someone and then break it, saying "Something better came along."

That is crass. I work in retail, and I do not appreciate that sort of behaviour when I am confonted with it.

As VaHawk surmised, I will sometimes send out inquiries to several gents at once, and wait to see how many respond. Then I must send out the "interview" questions to those who reply positively (fair & gentle readers who are new to this board, please note that I have a peculiar fetish for tickling studly escorts...mmm, yes, tickling them quite silly!)

Interviews are necessary because it takes a certain amount of native talent to be the sort of man I want tied to my bed. Some guys will say "yes" even though they're not actually ticklish... others obviously have no idea what they're getting into. These are the guys that I have to pluck out.

However once I've committed to an escort, then we have an appointment, for better or worse.

JamesK is also correct in his assertion that CraigsList is a somewhat limited and less than foolproof venue for selecting "les hommes", however with a bit of patience and trolling around, I've had fair luck there. The young man I refered to in this initial post was quite satisfactory. Quite.

 

La Trix