Newbie questions - how to make the first time right

[JayJonathan]

Hi guys. I've been lurking here for a while and have finally decided to take the plunge and sign up. I have never hired before but am looking to soon (I live in a small town with no escort activity but will be in a bigger city on business soon).

 

For my first time with a guy, I had initially thought about hiring for an overnight so there was lots of time to experiment and things wouldn't feel rushed, but is it crazy to book an overnight out of the blue with someone I have never met? What if there is no chemistry...? Overnights are not cheap...

 

My other thought is to book 3 or so 1 hour sessions with different guys so I can see a bit of variety and determine what I like that way. What do you guys think? Any advice would be appreciated.

 

The city I will hire in is Toronto. I will also post a few 411 posts in the deli to get some feedback on guys I am considering.

 

Thanks all.

[Kevin Slater]

Start slow. Ask for advice, chose someone with a great rep and book him for two hours. See what you like and didn't like, and go from there. You can always book your next fling last minute, whether it be the same guy, somebody he recommends, or someone completely new. Don't bite off more than you can chew out of excitement and eagerness.

 

Kevin Slater

[whipped guy]

Welcome @JayJonathan

 

I agree with @Kevin Slater sbout the two hour time frame. One hour for your first time is way too short to get a feel for what you may like to accomplish, plus you will want to spend some time with the guy to get slowly acquainted so as hopefully to feel comfortable with what you will be doing. If there are problems anything longer would be too long. If things go well you will regret not scheduling more time. In fact in my opinion a two hour appointment is the Goldiocks time frame: just like the ideal cock it's not to long, not too short, but just right!

 

Do your homework and pick a well reviewed guy who is noted for the type of a activities that you would want to explore for your first time and with any luck you will hit a BINGO as I did my first time. Then there will be no looking back! You will feel like a super hero ready to conquer the world! That you will be asking for help in the Deli is a great idea because the wealth of knowledge that exists on this board is AMAZING!!!!

 

THE BEST OF LUCK!

[down_to_business]

Agree that an overnight for your first time is probably not the best option.

 

3 X 1 hour appointments isn't such a terrible idea. There is a great chance one might actually show up . Just don't triple book for the same hour on the off chance all 3 show up.

 

You will likely gain more confidence and have a better understanding of what you like after each appointment.

 

The 2 hour hire is an ok idea as well, but that is not my thing, so I can't help you on that one. I like one hour or long-term hires only.. weird huh.

 

Oh and make sure you are attracted to whoever you chose to hire... not only they sound good in print.. reviews can only go so far!

[Epigonos]

I started hiring late in life (61) about fourteen years ago. The first guy I hired I did so for two hours and it worked like a charm. From then on I added an extra hour before play time in order to share a meal (lunch or dinner the escort's choice), thus we were able to get acquainted before we jumped in the sack. This is still my standard operating procedure.

 

The two things I can't stress strongly enough are 1.) Communication - be totally upfront with the guy you intend to hire and tell him EXACTLY what you are seeking and 2.) Check out the rentmen ads for a guy who TOTALLY races your motor and then make damn sure he has outstanding reviews on this site.

 

With a little time and effort spent before you meet your escort of choice you will likely have a great time. When all of your homework is done -- RELAX AND ENJOY THE RIDE. Best of luck and let us know how things go.

[+ azdr0710]

welcome to the board....

 

will reiterate that a two-hour meet for the first time is very good.....one hour goes by incredibly fast.....if you can swing three hours, even better......

 

definitely select a dude who is well-reviewed and who you click with (ask here first, as you said)....don't overwhelm the guy with excited, repeated communication before the meet, but be to-the-point, very friendly, casual, professional, and respectful in no more than a couple or three communications before the meet (not including "I'm here"-style texts immediately before).....feel free to tell him it's your first time and that he may need to pick up the ball at times....

 

at the meet, smile, look him in the eye, talk slooooowwwwly, ask him questions to divert your nervousness.....suggest a simple massage/body rub to loosen up, then move it along so you don't run out of time (I'm usually the notorious clockwatcher at my meets, not the escort!).....get what you came for before time is up.....

 

communication is very important, as said above....pay at the end and tell him ahead of time you'll be doing that....have the fee counted out before in an envelope and just put it on a visible dresser top or similar....as an aside, I sometimes ask the guy what his favorite food store is and get a small gift card from it as a tip....

 

if you drink, one small beer might ease nerves, but only you know how you are after a drink, so don't do it if you think you'll be dorky, goofy or something....

 

I'm sure others here will offer more ideas.....

[alexslaveboy]

JayJonathan

 

Welcome!!! I am fairly new a well and was a lurker before joining

I am a smaller guy into muscle worship and between rentmen and this forum I have hired about 8 guys and only two were mild disappointments due to difference of style and taste

 

I can say I have found 5 escorts that I love to see and they are all different and exciting in their own ways! And some are super social and we speak weekly even without a meeting!

Follow the advice of the veterans here and you'll enjoy the ride!!!!!

Alex

[samandtham]

Even with a well-reviewed escort, hiring him for an overnight without a prior date has more going against, than for, it. Sure, you might hit the jackpot on your first hire, but what if he turns out to not have any chemistry with you? You'll be left to make the most of the thousand-or-so dollars you're paying him for an experience you wish would end immediately.

 

Hire someone for two hours. This will give you a chance to feel at ease with him and with the fact that something fun will happen. If you enjoyed your time together, hire him again the day after. Or hire another one.

[gallahadesquire]

I agree with all of the above. For me, three hours seems about right, but that might well include dinner. I find a meal shared goes far to breaking the ice. Ask if the meal can be off the clock ... you never know.

 

Best of luck! My longest relationship with an escort was five or six times. He then retired ... and then he moved in ... totally platonic now. One has to wonder!

The other was a fellow I'd spoken with on AOL chat for a long time (like 6 years) before we met, so a weekend wasn't awkward at all. Now he's engaged to a physician in the same field that I practiced in ... odd.

[+ WilliamM]

Even with a well-reviewed escort, hiring him for an overnight without a prior date has more going against, than for, it.

 

It's too bad there are so few relatively upscale hustler bars like Rounds in NYC any more, where you could meet someone and get to know each other a little. Try an Internet search for hustler bars in Toronto.

 

I realize my suggestion is way out of line with everyone else's. But, it worked for me beyond all expectation my first time.