Guys, what is your take on setting alarms?

[Nathan_L]

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[Bearofdistinction]

Create a Custom Music program play it in the background when you get to DUDE LOOKS LIKE A LADY you know you have hit the 1 hour makr.

 

When you get to GOODBYE NORMA JEAN - you know you are at an hour and a half - etc

[Nathan_L]

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[MikeyGMin]

Both parties are responsible for managing the time, but you need to take primary responsibility for timekeeping. I imagine you will develop more of an inner clock as time goes on but you need to orchestrate the session so that it ends in the agreed upon time frame. Unless the time frame has specifically been left open.

 

For an incall, I assume you can have a clock in a strategic location and do your part to ensure you are getting to the happy ending when the clock is running out. For out calls, you have even more control and responsibility for orchestrating the sessions because you have full control over when you leave. If you allow a session to go long on an outcall without stopping to discuss it with the client, I would be very careful about asking for extra.

[+ Truereview]

Of course I agree with MikeyG, but until you develop the spidey sense that he talks about, consider investing in a light weight, ultra thin watch. Something with a panel light dimmer in case you are totally in dark. Make sure it is not flashy. Water resistant would be good so you don't have to worry about taking it off if you take a shower at his place afterwards. Avoid metal - can be cold. Good luck developing your inner clock!

 

PS - practice checking out the time inconspicuously with your regular fuckbuddies and have them signal you if they catch you peeking. Could be a fun game

[Kevin Slater]

Of course I agree with MikeyG, but until you develop the spidey sense that he talks about, consider investing in a light weight, ultra thin watch. Something with a panel light dimmer in case you are totally in dark. Make sure it is not flashy. Water resistant would be good so you don't have to worry about taking it off if you take a shower at his place afterwards. Avoid metal - can be cold. Good luck developing your inner clock!

 

PS - practice checking out the time inconspicuously with your regular fuckbuddies and have them signal you if they catch you peeking. Could be a fun game

 

I think wearing a watch during a session would be bad form. Just my take.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ quoththeraven]

Yeah, I've thought of music. But even then that still disrupts the sex, regardless of whether it's Enya or Metallica.

 

Though I suppose Metallica could give a certain atmosphere to the whole thing...

 

Although I imagine there's a skill to compiling them, the escort I've seen the most has a seemingly infinite number of playlists on his laptop. Although he doesn't use them all the time, I haven't found them to detract from the experience. Plus they can help mask any noises that are being made.

[+ Truereview]

I think wearing a watch during a session would be bad form. Just my take.

 

Kevin Slater

I understand your view. To me as a client, if a beautiful, young, hot guy walks in wearing a watch, the last thing I will worry or notice is his watch. However, I could see others getting bent out of shape about it. Since we are brainstorming, any ideas, Kevin?

[+ Eric Hassan]

I happen to have a very good sense of time, so I direct the action to wrap up in the time allotted. I agree with MikeyG that you'll get this skill with more experience.

 

Until then, look around and find a clock - if you're in a living room or bedroom, chances are good there is one that you can inconspicuously glance at during the session. If you can't find one or are uncertain that you'll be able to keep an eye on it without being disruptive to the session, I would be upfront with your client. Tell them you want to be respectful of their time and money and request they keep an eye on the clock, get a clock you can look at, give you approval to set an alarm - whatever works. It might feel a little awkward, but ultimately you are letting the client know you care about them and you conduct yourself professionally and honestly.

[+ Truereview]

Tell them you want to be respectful of their time and money and request they keep an eye on the clock, get a clock you can look at, give you approval to set an alarm - whatever works. It might feel a little awkward, but ultimately you are letting the client know you care about them and you conduct yourself professionally and honestly.

Time is one of my pet peeves, so this topic has triggered me. I promise this is my last post on this thread!

 

Eric, I get the intent & rational approach, but what you proposed is not how it would land on me, and I'm a very easy-going client. I would probably acquiesce to the request, but it would turn me off. I would be thinking I'm with an amateur...an honest,caring one, but still an amateur who can't tell time and wants to bring me into his timing problem. Outcome: limp dick for the rest of the hour & no tip.

 

So what to do? Eric, considering what I just said, how would you say it to me to mitigate my irrational reaction?

[+ MasssageGuy]

Having an escort set an alarm is bad taste. Plus it would be "alarming" when it went off....

 

Had a session with an escort once who watched the clock down to the minute.... Literally closed up shop so to speak then the "time was up".... Horrible experience and never returned to that dude (or should I say Dud).

[instudiocity]

Buy an old-school hourglass???

[Kevin Slater]

By and old-school hourglass???

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Kevin Slater

[+ Eric Hassan]

Time is one of my pet peeves, so this topic has triggered me. I promise this is my last post on this thread!

 

Eric, I get the intent & rational approach, but what you proposed is not how it would land on me, and I'm a very easy-going client. I would probably acquiesce to the request, but it would turn me off. I would be thinking I'm with an amateur...an honest,caring one, but still an amateur who can't tell time and wants to bring me into his timing problem. Outcome: limp dick for the rest of the hour & no tip.

 

So what to do? Eric, considering what I just said, how would you say it to me to mitigate my irrational reaction?

 

If time is your pet peeve, I can see how this could be irritating. If I had this conversation with someone and they reacted negatively, I would apologize for their upset and explain I just don't want to get in a situation where I'm there longer than they requested and they end up owing me more money than they planned to spend - ultimately, I care that the experience people have is positive and that, to me, includes respect for their time and money. I always feel like being upfront and asking questions to clarify is the best approach, but I also would hope that if someone were that upset and/or turned off by something I asked or said that they would politely terminate the session. My approach to my work is upfront and direct and it's served me well, but I have a good sense of time so I've not needed to take my suggested approach with clients and perhaps it might not go over well with more folks than just you.

 

How would you want someone who had trouble gauging time to manage this during a session with you?

[craigville beach]

I've had an escort ask me to take my watch off during a meeting. He didn't wear one either. Somehow he managed to keep track of our time together but I never felt rushed out the door.

[+ Truereview]

How would you want someone who had trouble gauging time to manage this during a session with you?

See post#5 for my answer. My time is up

[Kevin Slater]

If time is your pet peeve, I can see how this could be irritating. If I had this conversation with someone and they reacted negatively, I would apologize for their upset and explain I just don't want to get in a situation where I'm there longer than they requested and they end up owing me more money than they planned to spend - ultimately, I care that the experience people have is positive and that, to me, includes respect for their time and money. I always feel like being upfront and asking questions to clarify is the best approach, but I also would hope that if someone were that upset and/or turned off by something I asked or said that they would politely terminate the session. My approach to my work is upfront and direct and it's served me well, but I have a good sense of time so I've not needed to take my suggested approach with clients and perhaps it might not go over well with more folks than just you.

 

How would you want someone who had trouble gauging time to manage this during a session with you?

 

The client is hiring a fantasy, or at least a break from his usual pressures. It's the escort's job to manage the time without letting this distract from the client's experience. The client's only job is to enjoy himself. If the session somehow goes long and the escort didn't confirm that was the client's intent, no additional money is owed.

 

If the escort doesn't have a good gauge on the passing of time (as I do not), hopefully he can find some way to compensate without rubbing the mercantile in the client's face. For in calls, that's easy. A play list. A discreetly placed clock. A punctual parrot. For out calls, it can sometimes get slightly more tricky, but more often than not there's a clock (or VCR) somewhere in the room. If not, discreetly glancing at your phone (and let's not go down the rabbit hole of checking emails and texts, in this instance it's just a clock) as you grab supplies out of your bag or on your way to the bathroom works. If nothing else, set a device to make one small chirp at the 45 minute mark (not at the hour so that you bolt for the door the minute the bell rings as if this were a high school civics class). There's almost always a solution. A large part of the job is improv anyway, this is just one of the many ways in which that presents itself.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ Truereview]

Subtlety is the key...this one comes in different colors & more sticks if necessary

 

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[+ Keith30309]

Are there really clients who dig their heels in or ignore subtle indicators that the agreed-upon time has elapsed. This is surprising... who would want to stay somewhere where they aren't wanted (or, at least, expected). I guess there are all kinds.

[keithhardy]

Soo here is my 2 cents, I think keeping track of time for either party can place a pretty big damper on a potentially good time. I have always found it very uncomfortable till this day with all my years experience to be in the middle of playing to say "your time is up" or "almost up". With that being said I have very rarely ran into an issue with going over time and if we have a client not willing to pay the additional cost. I think its clear if the allotted time has elapsed it is safe to say a good time is being had. I will pose this question; how many clients would end the session if an hour was reached and communicated as such and you hadn't reach climax and were having an amazing time?

[+ bashful]

I have very rarely ran into an issue with going over time and if we have a client not willing to pay the additional cost. I think its clear if the allotted time has elapsed it is safe to say a good time is being had. I will pose this question; how many clients would end the session if an hour was reached and communicated as such and you hadn't reach climax and were having an amazing time?

 

It would depend on whether my companion and I had spent any time together in the past. I may be naïve, but when meeting someone for the first time, I've always relied on him to keep track of time, and guide activity accordingly. If wrong, let me know. But, no alarm. If suddenly faced with him wanting more money from me, I would feel as if I'm being robbed. Fortunately, (or unfortunately), it has never been a problem.

 

I would expect once you have enjoyed the company of someone several times, you get to know each other. How long they last, how respectful they are of your time (never asking for more, accommodating schedule changes by the companion), and yes, how much they tip. I would expect a subtle approach. If ever told "times up", (or if I've finished and the companion begins the exit process before our allotted time), I would seriously think about whether meeting again.

[+ Rickee]

The client is hiring a fantasy, or at least a break from his usual pressures. It's the escort's job to manage the time without letting this distract from the client's experience. The client's only job is to enjoy himself. If the session somehow goes long and the escort didn't confirm that was the client's intent, no additional money is owed.

Kevin Slater

As a client, thank you for acknowledging the "break/fantasy" aspect. And while I do try to stay cognizant of how time is progressing, I appreciate it when the escort makes sure that I'm not overstaying my welcome.

[+ purplekow]

I have noted some escorts play music during the session. At first I thought it was solely to set the mood. Soon though, I realized that it was also an ersatz alarm clock. Good Night Irene comes on and out the client goes.

[TruHart1]

I always check to see where the hotel clock is, just to keep tabs. In Dallas, I have a big clock out next to the bed so both the escort and I can see it for my incalls. The irony is, with the escorts I see on a regular basis, they are such non-clock watchers (with only a few exceptions) that twenty minutes or even a half hour over or so never seems to bother them in the least!

 

TruHart1

[Becket]

The compliment escorts most often receive around here is, "he's not a clock watcher." It makes a client feel a little more special when the escort spends a little extra time with him. I think the idea of an alarm is not so hot. As for me, hearing an alarm at the end of a visit would ensure that our visit would be a first and only visit. Going a bit over time now and again seems to just be one of those realities of the business. And I bet that it is often the case that an "hour" appointment actually lasts well short of an hour. Some of us don't last more than ten or fifteen minutes with you guys. lol. In the end it probably evens itself out. Being "anal" about the clock will not be a profitable business model ultimately, IMO.