Phones - Phones and Texting

[Edward]

Ok you hire a guy and he spends considerable time on his phone texting and reading emails. I feel this is rude. I have hired him and I feel that time is mine. At what point do you say something and what do you say?

[maninsoma]

First time hire? Length of appointment?

 

If I'm hiring someone for the first time for a short appointment, I don't really want him texting or emailing at all. If a guy is wrapping something up when I arrive, I understand that. But if a guy is compelled to respond to messages in the middle of the appointment, that's going to be a mood killer for me. Depending on when during the appointment it occurs, if it happens multiple times and gentle suggestions about needing more attention aren't getting through then I'd probably suggest that the appointment isn't working out and I'd get up to get dressed to leave, with the intention of paying a prorated rate. I don't like shorting guys $$$, but I'm also not a fool who can be taken advantage of. If a guy isn't professional enough to pay attention to the client in his presence, then he doesn't deserve to be compensated like a professional.

[+ Topseed]

Immediately. Stop. Leave.

[craigville beach]

Ok you hire a guy and he spends considerable time on his phone texting and reading emails. I feel this is rude. I have hired him and I feel that time is mine. At what point do you say something and what do you say?

 

 

I agree, I feel the same way when I go into a retail store and the person waiting on me is busy on their phone. It is called work for a reason

[Riley Wynters]

I agree. If someone is on their phone the whole time that is just poor customer service. Personally, I turn my sound off for any appointment unless I am expecting a very important or emergency call, and even then I'll inform my client that I may need to check the phone if it rings before the appointment begins. That's just disrespectful to you and a waste of your time and money. If you are paying then you deserve the escort's full attention for the duration of the appointment.

[Kevin Slater]

I seem to have caught you at a bad time. As you must be having an emergency, I'll simply excuse myself.

 

(Without paying, of course.)

 

Kevin Slater

[MikeyGMin]

Length of the appointment is important. Short appointment - - no excuse. On an overnight, I think you need to cut him some slack. It's hard to put your life on hold for 12 - 18 hours, but a real pro would find discrete moments and never leave you feeling ignored or neglected.

[+ bashful]

unless I am expecting a very important or emergency call

 

Then why accept the appointment? Or, at least, get the client's concurrence.

[seaboy4hire]

My last extended appt took me to LA for an over night. I had my phone on silent the whole time. I think I did get on my phone once but that was when we were looking for dinner. Other than that it stayed snugly in my pocket. Whether it be for an hour, over night or weekend (all of which I've been hired for) my phone has been put away so that I could give the other guy my full and undivided attention, the way it should be. Some guys charge almost double what I charge and with those prices the escort better be giving the client his 110% attention and making him feel like a total king with no distractions from electronics.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Riley Wynters]

Then why accept the appointment? Or, at least, get the client's concurrence.

Well, I have only had to do that twice and both appointments had been set up weeks in advance. I let both clients know when I arrived that it was a possibility and neither time I actually had to check my phone.

[jackjackjack]

My last extended appt took me to LA for an over night. I had my phone on silent the whole time. I think I did get on my phone once but that was when we were looking for dinner. Other than that it stayed snugly in my pocket. Whether it be for an hour, over night or weekend (all of which I've been hired for) my phone has been put away so that I could give the other guy my full and undivided attention, the way it should be. Some guys charge almost double what I charge and with those prices the escort better be giving the client his 110% attention and making him feel like a total king with no distractions from electronics.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Well, if you ever did that with me, I'd grab your phone, strip your pants down, and slap your ass a couple of times, and say, " Bad Greg, bad Greg."

[+ quoththeraven]

Let's get real. Some (many?) escorts have a proviso regarding appointments lasting 24 hours or more that they are allowed up to an hour a day (24 hours) to themselves to check e-mail, check and make phone calls and respond to texts and/or exercise. I don't know about you, but I have no problem with that. In fact I get twitchy if I can't check Twitter in that amount of time because my TL moves fast. Plus as an introvert, I need time to myself even if it involves both of us being on our respective computer devices in the same room.

 

Not everything, including business, can be put on hold for 24 hours or a weekend, and I've read plenty of posts from clients disgruntled about escorts not responding to contacts in what they consider a reasonable amount of time. I seem to remember 24 hours being bandied about as the outside limit of reasonable...

 

Just my $.02.

[jawjateck]

Phone use in general is beyond rude and outrageous; I can't even begin to express my feelings on the subject. With regard to the hobby, my take is:

-A companion does not need to use his phone during any appointment less than 4 hours, unless he is looking up some info we need for an outing, dinner, show, etc.

-It's reasonable to allow at least 30 minutes for a companion to take care of business for an overnight appointment.

-For multi-day sessions, I allocate at least an hour per day for the companion to take care of biz, go to the gym, etc. I need that free time myself too.

 

Your mileage may vary.

[+ bashful]

Not everything, including business, can be put on hold for 24 hours or a weekend

 

I agree. Should not be an issue with extended appointments. My point of view was that of someone who has never hired for more than just one hour.

[+ quoththeraven]

I agree. Should not be an issue with extended appointments. My point of view was that of someone who has never hired for more than just one hour.

 

My post was a response to subsequent comments, not yours, in case that wasn't clear. And I endorse Jawjatek's statement, although I can imagine a circumstance in which what Riley did, by giving notice, would be necessary in the case of a long-scheduled appointment that wound up falling in the middle of something that might require attention but not cancellation, like emergency car or apartment/home repairs or a loved one in the hospital, where taking a phone call rather than letting it go to voicemail and calling back might be necessary. We can't pick or predict when personal emergencies will occur.

[Riley Wynters]

My post was a response to subsequent comments, not yours, in case that wasn't clear. And I endorse Jawjatek's statement, although I can imagine a circumstance in which what Riley did, by giving notice, would be necessary in the case of a long-scheduled appointment that wound up falling in the middle of something that might require attention but not cancellation, like emergency car or apartment/home repairs or a loved one in the hospital, where taking a phone call rather than letting it go to voicemail and calling back might be necessary. We can't pick or predict when personal emergencies will occur.

My most recent situation: My roommate was sick and in pain, we had decided that his symptoms most closely matched accuse appendicitis. We decided that if he didn't get any better he would go to the hospital, and we had a friend on back-up to drive him in case I wasn't available. I had to drive to an appointment almost two hours away, and when I arrived, I informed my client of the situation and the severity and he agreed that if I needed to check my phone in case something happened that would be alright. Luckily, the need never arose, so it was not an issue. Its just a courtesy that I extended to my client to disclose that something was going on and that he would have my full attention unless an emergency situation arose.

[+ quoththeraven]

My most recent situation: My roommate was sick and in pain, we had decided that his symptoms most closely matched accuse appendicitis. We decided that if he didn't get any better he would go to the hospital, and we had a friend on back-up to drive him in case I wasn't available. I had to drive to an appointment almost two hours away, and when I arrived, I informed my client of the situation and the severity and he agreed that if I needed to check my phone in case something happened that would be alright. Luckily, the need never arose, so it was not an issue. Its just a courtesy that I extended to my client to disclose that something was going on and that he would have my full attention unless an emergency situation arose.

 

Pretty much the kind of situation I was thinking of.

[seaboy4hire]

Well, if you ever did that with me, I'd grab your phone, strip your pants down, and slap your ass a couple of times, and say, " Bad Greg, bad Greg."

 

Oh the temptation! But plan for paybacks meester

 

Hugs,

Greg

[nynakedtop]

No different than my coach at the gym - if he is paying attention to his phone instead of me, I fire him. I, myself, suffer from electronic device addiction and I KNOW that it is impossible to multi-task - if I am using a device it has my attention...

[Juan Vancouver]

Some (many?) escorts have a proviso regarding appointments lasting 24 hours or more that they are allowed up to an hour a day (24 hours) to themselves to check e-mail, check and make phone calls and respond to texts and/or exercise.

 

Absolutely a different thing. On long sessions, starting with a weekend session one of my conditions is that I take 2 hours every day. To be alone, to workout, to answer emails, to do the Samba... 2 consecutive hours.

 

This is entirely different to being with my client but not really being with him because I am on the phone. No explanation, no apology, just on my phone because what's happening on my phone is more important than my client. Because I have bad manners and my phone is more important than my job.

 

This is an epidemic. More and more people think it is ok to do this constantly. There is absolutely no reason to normalize that appalling behaviour. If there is an emergency and it is clearly discussed, as a rare exception, sure. But as a normal behaviour? Nope.

 

For multi-day sessions, I allocate at least an hour per day for the companion to take care of biz, go to the gym, etc.

 

What escorts do you travel with that can maintain their bodies by working out only one hour a day? And would you put me in contact with them, please, so that they share their magical workout routine?

[MikeyGMin]

starting with a weekend session one of my conditions is that I take 2 hours every day. To be alone, to workout, to answer emails, to do the Samba

 

This is a win/win. My condition would be that I get to view and touch that freshly pumped up body when you got back. ;)

[Bearofdistinction]

Ok you hire a guy and he spends considerable time on his phone texting and reading emails. I feel this is rude. I have hired him and I feel that time is mine. At what point do you say something and what do you say?

 

Tell the Escort ==

 

"If you need a break to stop the clock and deal with some urgent matters I understand. Once you are done then you can turn off the

phone and we can concentrate on having a great time together"

 

If he does not get it -- tell him -- "Your call and text really ruin the mood for me -- I was hoping this would be special if you are not looking for the same thing

we should part company now" -- hand him partial payment and show him to the door.

 

NEXT!

[jawjateck]

What escorts do you travel with that can maintain their bodies by working out only one hour a day? And would you put me in contact with them, please, so that they share their magical workout routine?

 

"At least an hour" means that I allocate a minimum of one hour for this purpose, not a maximum of one hour for this purpose, although I am often amazed at how some guys kick ass in the gym in so little time.

[+ Truereview]

"At least an hour" means that I allocate a minimum of one hour for this purpose, not a maximum of one hour for this purpose, although I am often amazed at how some guys kick ass in the gym in so little time.

spoken like a true southern gent, jawja. I need to take lessons.

 

I have no problem with someone texting or making a quick call. Just ask me or give me a heads up nicely and don't abuse it.

[LADoug1]

Slightly off topic but it is also a mood-killer if, after a short appointment, the escort starts looking at his phone the moment the sex is over i.e. before I have left his place. It's as if he can't wait for me to leave. It definitely influences my decision whether or not to rehire.