Face pics public or private

[manTOman]

I've just recently realized that I actually prefer when face pics are not on display for everyone to see, but that I prefer them to be either emailed as requested or at least put into one's private gallery.

 

Basically if I'm going to have a nice evening with someone and take them out for dinner, theater, or any other public event, I'd much rather go with a guy whos face is not plastered all over rentmen's website.

 

It is a bit of a conundrum since I do like to see what a guy looks like, but I would probably be willing to forgo that.

[+ Truereview]

I honestly don't care what other people think when I'm out with a companion. The way I view it is that they are taking just as much of a risk going out in public with me. Then again, I'm honestly not concerned with what people think of my choices. As long as I'm not hurting anyone, I'm good.

[+ Gar1eth]

I've never had it be a problem. Unless the guy is just incredibly distinctive looking, people often look different in person than they do in their pictures. I mean there are true and accurate pictures of guys-but with lighting, background, clothes/non-clothes, and different hairstyles-can make them look significantly different. Plus unless you have to be incredibly discreet, are well-known yourself, or maybe the only places you go to are frequented by gay men-how many average people out in public routinely look at Rentmen or other gay porn sites?

 

What did happen to me once-I hired an escort who lived in LA but was originally from NYC. (Some of the following details have been changed to protect the innocent-but the gist is true). We went to

a popular tourist spot in Texas. While there he recognized a woman, or a woman recognized him. It was the sister of a former best friend of his in NYC who had died. She and her significant other were visiting friends who had just moved to Texas. Now what are the odds of that happening? The escort passed me off as a friend he was visiting.

 

Gman

[caliguy]

Interesting concern and sort of a catch 22 problem.

 

I think you'd have more to be concerned about say a porn star though. The likely hood of someone recognizing a person off of RM is pretty remote unless the pics were professionally done. Most aren't and I'd be hard pressed to recognize them out and about.

[Indigo]

Face pics are paramount for me from the get go. No face pics and I move on no matter how hot the body pic is.

[Epigonos]

I’ve never really cared if someone recognizes the guy I’m having lunch or dinner with as an escort with an ad on rentmen or some other side. I did, however, see for a number of years, a fantastic escort who was actor. He was out as being gay but not as being an escort. He didn’t want to be seen in public with an older guy thus he always drove from West Hollywood to my place in Orange County where I prepared dinner. I loved the arrangement as I didn’t have to fight L.A. traffic and I got to cook.

[+ Funguy]

I like to be surprised. Since I only see guys who have been reviewed and if they have good reviews I make an assumption that they are streetable. I have never been wrong.

[+ honcho]

In the very early 80's I rented a guy based on body shots, and it turned out to be somebody who sang in the

SF Gay Men's chorus who I intensely had lusted after.

 

He was a screen-writer (and had done a couple of nationally distributed films that had done OK, but no oscar-winning or huge successes) and he did not want his face pics shown for two reasons:

 

1.) it would have impacted his credibility as a screen writer.

2.) There was a particular other member of the SFGMC who he did not want to try to engage his services (somebody I knew, who was an escort himself).

 

The guy really was drop-dead gorgeous, and very sadly, one of those that the plague claimed.

[MikeyGMin]

I honestly don't care what other people think when I'm out with a companion. The way I view it is that they are taking just as much of a risk going out in public with me. Then again, I'm honestly not concerned with what people think of my choices. As long as I'm not hurting anyone, I'm good.

 

I agree. I engage guys who are 20+ years younger than me and smoking hot. Anyone paying attention is going to make judgments based on that fact alone. I really don't care what conclusion they come to with regards to the mismatch. Sugar daddy, paid companion or a once-in-a-billion love match. I simply don't care as long as they are respectful to HIM.

[caliguy]

I agree. I engage guys who are 20+ years younger than me and smoking hot. Anyone paying attention is going to make judgments based on that fact alone. I really don't care what conclusion they come to with regards to the mismatch. Sugar daddy, paid companion or a once-in-a-billion love match. I simply don't care as long as they are respectful to HIM.

Ha. Never thought of that. If that's truereveiw too then it shouldn't matter since no will be fooled anyways.

[BtmBearDad]

I tend to go with Truereview and MikeyGWin on this one. While it has been years since I so engaged, as I'm planning to be more active again now, I don't really give a toss about what others may think/judge/see/etc. when I am out with a gentleman caller. I do recall an incident from my active period many years ago - a well known (on here anyway) and well reviewed NYC gent accompanied me to dinner on one of our "dates". He was strikingly handsome and quite tall and well built and I have to admit, I did enjoy the reactions of the other diners and staff as he walked through the restaurant to our table. Bit of an ego boost I suppose. I'm sure there were whispers about him and he and I, but as I said, I could give a toss. Having said this, while there are a few adult film performers I wouldn't throw out of bed for eating crackers, I'm not quite sure how comfortable I'd be out and about with one for an evening's diversion. Its one thing to be seen with an attractive man who chances are is younger than I, but its another to be seen with a well known adult performer. Double standard? Possibly, but just being honest.

[Tonyko]

To me???? THIS is that line from "The Producers" when Gene Wilder is worried about playing hooky in Central Park: what if someone from work should see me?? And Mostel says, and YOU would see THEM:rolleyes:

The ONLY one who'd recog a scort from a RB pic is someone who does the SAME thang

[manTOman]

while there are a few adult film performers I wouldn't throw out of bed for eating crackers, I'm not quite sure how comfortable I'd be out and about with one for an evening's diversion. Its one thing to be seen with an attractive man who chances are is younger than I, but its another to be seen with a well known adult performer. Double standard? Possibly, but just being honest.

 

This is my sentiment exactly. It's one thing to be seen with a very handsome younger male companion and a complete different to be seen with a famous pornstar or escort. I would also argue that a number of people who only check out profiles on sites like rentmen or even on here is far greater than the number of guys who actually hire. So it's not necessarily true that if you recognize the escort you've done the same. At least if face pics are password protected or emailed as requested it's an extra step that one has to make and they're not so readily available at a click of a mouse.

 

Bottom line - everyone's free to do what they want, but I know that if I am planning a night out with a guy I would probably go for a companion who's not so easily recognizable. In my case it's actually the co-workers and higher ups that I'm mostly concerned of bumping into, not some random friends or family.

[instudiocity]

I agree. I engage guys who are 20+ years younger than me and smoking hot. Anyone paying attention is going to make judgments based on that fact alone. I really don't care what conclusion they come to with regards to the mismatch. Sugar daddy, paid companion or a once-in-a-billion love match. I simply don't care as long as they are respectful to HIM.

I engage guys 20-30 years my junior, also. Most frequently in public, they are assumed to be: son, nephew, business associate, or neighbor. Even in, nearly as gay as West Hollywood, Studio City that's the assumption.

 

My roommate, 20+ years my junior, is frequently referred to as my son, by neighbors and acquaintances.

 

I don't think anyone "in public" thinks I'm boffing my dates, unless they, too, have boffed said date.

[Tigger]

This is my sentiment exactly. It's one thing to be seen with a very handsome younger male companion and a complete different to be seen with a famous pornstar or escort. I would also argue that a number of people who only check out profiles on sites like rentmen or even on here is far greater than the number of guys who actually hire. So it's not necessarily true that if you recognize the escort you've done the same. At least if face pics are password protected or emailed as requested it's an extra step that one has to make and they're not so readily available at a click of a mouse.

 

Bottom line - everyone's free to do what they want, but I know that if I am planning a night out with a guy I would probably go for a companion who's not so easily recognizable. In my case it's actually the co-workers and higher ups that I'm mostly concerned of bumping into, not some random friends or family.

Obviously you have to do want you want. And I'll admit in my earlier hiring days it was a concern. One solution is to hire well-known guys only when you are away from home. But my other question is do you run into people from work that often? I almost never do.

[+ honcho]

I live in a shared housing situation with two guys, one gay with whom I've been just-housemates for about 35 years and the other a straight conservatory grad student, who's likely 40 years my junior.

 

Nobody assumes anything about us

[BtmBearDad]

do you run into people from work that often? I almost never do

 

Tigger but as big as NYC is, I am astounded sometimes not only by who I run into and where, but how news can travel about one being seen somewhere by a friend of a friend or something like that. I would never think to mention to a friend that I saw one of his friends that I may have met once or twice out and about, unless I actually engaged in some conversation with them. Even the big city is a small village at times.

[MikeyGMin]

Nobody assumes anything about us

 

That you know of.

[Juan Vancouver]

I've just recently realized that I actually prefer when face pics are not on display for everyone to see, but that I prefer them to be either emailed as requested or at least put into one's private gallery.

 

Of course you are aware of the fact that if he emailed the picture to you he has done so to thousands of men, right? Also gay men LOVE to gossip, so of those those thousands, a huge percentage have shared those pictures with their friends in the good old "expose the hooker" game. Sorry to burst your bubble, but if your escort "made an exception" and sent a face picture to you, it's pretty much the same as if he had it posted in public.

 

As it was already said, few men hire. A HUGE amount of men who don't hire peruse the ads, request pictures and talk about their findings.

 

 

In the very early 80's I rented a guy based on body shots, and it turned out to be somebody who sang in the

SF Gay Men's chorus who I intensely had lusted after.

 

He was a screen-writer (and had done a couple of nationally distributed films that had done OK, but no oscar-winning or huge successes) and he did not want his face pics shown for two reasons:

 

1.) it would have impacted his credibility as a screen writer.

2.) There was a particular other member of the SFGMC who he did not want to try to engage his services (somebody I knew, who was an escort himself).

 

The guy really was drop-dead gorgeous, and very sadly, one of those that the plague claimed.

 

I am no one to tell you what to do, but wouldn't it be more respectful to honour his desire to remain anonymous? You gave us enough information on your post to identify him. It will take no more than five minutes. I think many people think it's fair game to out people when they are dead, I just somehow feel the desire to honour the wishes of those who we lost to the fucking plague.

 

He sounds like a beautiful, talented man. Like so many that we lost. =(

[manTOman]

Of course you are aware of the fact that if he emailed the picture to you he has done so to thousands of men, right? Also gay men LOVE to gossip, so of those those thousands, a huge percentage have shared those pictures with their friends in the good old "expose the hooker" game. Sorry to burst your bubble, but if your escort "made an exception" and sent a face picture to you, it's pretty much the same as if he had it posted in public.

 

As it was already said, few men hire. A HUGE amount of men who don't hire peruse the ads, request pictures and talk about their findings. =(

 

You're right Juan.

And that's exactly my fear. Especially if going out to a gay friendly area, where there's greater probability that someone will recognize the escort in question. That said, and maybe I'm fooling myself, I still think that I prefer password protected mugs. At least it's an extra step that one has to take to get the pics. And at that point, I wouldn't feel bad about someone recognizing the escort I'm with because either he hires himself, or is a troll, bored out of his mind, and in my mind might not even admit to recognizing the guy. He might start an office rumor though which is not a good thing either.

 

And Tigger you're right it's probably less of an issue when travelling. I don't bump into people from work that often, but then I probably wouldn't go out to the same places that I usually frequent to avoid bumping into friends that I know go there. lol This is now getting way too complicated.

 

I realize that I'm in a minority here, but I do prefer when an escort's mug is not plastered all over rentmen or a similar website. I know it's too much to ask not to show a face pic since a lot of clients request it, but at least one can try and be a bit more protective of it.

[Juan Vancouver]

I realize that I'm in a minority here, but I do prefer when an escort's mug is not plastered all over rentmen or a similar website.

 

You are not a minority nor an oddity. ALL the clients with whom I travel hire me precisely because of that. Maybe they like me as well, but they LOVE the discretion.

[BtmBearDad]

but they LOVE the discretion.

 

Just going from your posts here (so enjoyable!) and your ad on RM, I'm sure that's not all they love, Juan

 

 

Cheers,

BBD

[+ nycman]

Ahhh....the "public opinion" conundrum.

 

My opinion...if you're worried about it, don't go out in public with your escort. It's really not that hard.

As a self proclaimed whammer, I tend not to take my escorts out to dinner. If I did I wouldn't give a

rats ass who saw us. We're two friends having a fun night out....the rest is in your head. Have fun!

 

Ok, a funny story from the vaults.....

 

Years ago, when I was much younger, I was in Vegas at a blackjack table. In walks an escort hunk that

I had hired and pounded mercilessly the night before. One of those hires where you KNOW you both

had a great time. He smiles. I smile back politely. Then I notice he's with a client. I turn my attention to

the game and purposely avoid looking up again. I have no desire to make anyone uncomfortable.

 

A few minutes later, much to my surprise the escort sits right next to me at the blackjack table. He and

the client start playing and the client is throwing down major bets. Daddy clearly has money and lots of it.

After a few hands, the escort starts making small talk and rubbing my thigh. I am very confused, a little

nervous and horned up as hell.

 

I'm trying to read the client's response, but he won't even make eye contact with me. Quite frankly

he appears more interested in the blackjack game and he keeps betting like a madman. With all the

furtive glances, nervous laughter, and the slightly stilted conversation, it seems everyone at the table,

including the dealer knows something is up.

 

After a few more hands I excuse myself to go to the bathroom to try and pull it together. The escort follows

me in alone. He explains that this a a BIG and important client of his. Evidently the client enjoys watching

his escort get fucked by other guys. The escort said "I know it's a little crazy but since we had such great

chemistry last night, I figured you might be game. He doesn't know you were my client last night. Do

you think you can pull it off?"

 

I decide what the fuck, it's Vegas! We head back to the table. The flirting gets more intense. I make sure to

try and include the client in the fun. He warms up quickly and the 3 of us actually have a really fun time

playing blackjack together. As the night progresses the "story line" slowly evolves that they are long time

"boyfriends" and that the older one has a strong voyeuristic streak. I play along acting naive but intrigued.

You could see the clients eyes start to light up as he realized the scene might actually take place.

 

Long story short, off we go to Daddy's suite for a night of bacchanalian fun. I make sure Daddy gets the

show of a lifetime. Not one piece of furniture and not one window in that huge strip front suite goes un-used.

Knowing the escorts from the night before makes it easy for us to go from zero to 100 in 6 seconds flat. I have

to say it was thrilling. Knowing that you're fulfilling someone else's fantasy, while having a blast yourself is

incredible. That fact that I was helping out a rentboy that I really liked and our little "secret" just added to the fun.

 

LMAO...I just realized that the "daddy" in this story might be reading this. If you are, I'm sorry we weren't

100% honest with you about the circumstances of the hook up, but I hope you had as much fun as I did!

[Tigger]

 

And Tigger you're right it's probably less of an issue when travelling. I don't bump into people from work that often, but then I probably wouldn't go out to the same places that I usually frequent to avoid bumping into friends that I know go there. lol This is now getting way too complicated.

 

I realize that I'm in a minority here, but I do prefer when an escort's mug is not plastered all over rentmen or a similar website. I know it's too much to ask not to show a face pic since a lot of clients request it, but at least one can try and be a bit more protective of it.

 

A definite minority. In general I won't hire someone without a face picture. And I usually have to really really really be interested in a faceless Guy's ad to go through the extra steps needed to get a face picture from him.

 

You are not a minority nor an oddity. ALL the clients with whom I travel hire me precisely because of that. Maybe they like me as well, but they LOVE the discretion.

 

Of course there is always the exception that proves the rule. And it's Juan. But Juan, while we only met (years ago while you were traveling) for an hour or two, I hired you despite the no face pictures not because of them. If you hadn't already had such a wealth of great reviews, I probably wouldn't have hired you at the time.

[+ quoththeraven]

I sometimes wonder if the servers at restaurants I go to with an escort wonder why the woman is paying the bill, especially since I usually pay in cash. (I doubt other customers notice, nor do I care what they think.) But that's about as far as it goes. There hasn't been a huge age gap to consider, although changing my naturally gray hair to brown probably made a difference in perception of relative ages.