Back after a break and looking for some advice...

[BtmBearDad]

Gents,

 

As the subject indicates, many moons ago I was a somewhat active user here in the forums where I received some stellar advice on certain gentlemen callers I was interested in. I am very grateful for this forum then (and now) as the advice given and the encounters that occurred helped me tremendously with the whole coming out process -- especially as I was a "late bloomer" in that regard. Anywho, as happens, I did eventually stop relying on the "kindness of strangers" (to turn a phrase), met someone, did a line, met another, did a serious line, then got into a relationship. That ship sank about 2 years ago now and here I am - back to the forums looking for advice. Ah the more things change, the more they remain the same! :-)

 

Now, I don't see many of my previous gentlemen callers still about -- its a pity as I do remember many fondly! But that may be for the best as my tastes and desires have evolved. Where once I was apprehensive about and even avoided taking the bottom role and all the hetero baggage that carried with me, I've since then embraced it. Go figure! Ha!

 

Specifically, what advice I'm looking for is on gents who top either primarily or solely. I've been browsing the online sites left and while there are many a looker, the reviews are either non-existent or contradictory from here to other sites where reviews are given.

 

So - any advice on tops who don't mind or may actually like the larger, older, more hirsute bottoms among us? I'm closer to 50 than 40, white collar professional, I like a drink, I smoke, I am a foodie, I'm about 300, hairy, formerly blond but now salt and pepper pretty much all over except the pubes, so far, average endowment which may or may not always be at attention in a session depending on medication (ugh!) but a nonetheless enthusiastic (so I've been told) bottom. Kissing is a must! Oh and its been a l-o-n-g while since anyone has "gone there" with me, so a top that knows what he is doing is essential. The types I find myself attracted to these days tend to be in the 20-35ish range (I'm trying to relive lost youth I'm sure lol), jock/muscled/bodybuilder types - hairy is always a plus - who can give the BFE and/or get into some role play as well.

 

I'm based in NYC but travel often in the US however in the new year, I'll be spending/splitting time predominantly between NYC and London.

 

Having said all this - I turn to you gents in the hopes of some advice on gentlemen callers who you may know from experience will work with what I am, what I like, and all that. I'm done mourning the sinking of the ship so to speak and am ready to dip the toe back in and have it :-)

 

All input is appreciated! Feel free to PM me if that's more comfortable for you.

 

Thanks gents!

BBD

[+ poolboy48220]

I recently met up with JetBlack from Toronto and I think he meets everything you've asked for & more. His ad says he likes bearish guys, I match all your stats and then some and we had a wonderful time. He's a great top.

 

here is his rentmen profile (click 'here', I'm just trying out the new way of linking I just learned :-))

[LADoug1]

How do you do the "here" as a link?

[+ poolboy48220]

Type the word 'here', highlight the word, THEN click the link icon on the toolbar & enter your link in the popup.

[TruthBTold]

JetBlack has a good rate set-up, $300 for the first hour but then only $150 for each hour after that.

[BtmBearDad]

Thanks, Poolboy! Jet really is stunning! He actually messaged me on RM after I viewed (and drooled) over his profile - very nice guy. Hoping he'll be coming to NYC soon.

[BtmBearDad]

I also want to thank the gents who have sent me PM's with their suggestions on who may fit the bill w/r/t the type of gentleman caller I'm looking for. So far, you've all been spot on! Who knew that there were a number of guys out there who like or even prefer hirsute guys of a larger stature ;-)

 

Keep the suggestions coming men - especially any in London, haven't received any feedback there yet -- but I'm hopeful!

 

Cheers,

BBD

[+ purplekow]

I would mention that Russ in Brooklyn can be a tip top top. He is in the age group and he is quite a nice young man.

My first meeting with Mike Gaite would lead me to recommend him to you as well as a traveler who passes through this are quite a bit and who seems to have a soft spot for hairy older larger men and a hard spot for them as well.

[BtmBearDad]

Thank you for your recommendations Purplecow!

 

I admit, both Russ and Mr Gaite do tick the boxes here! For some reason, I had it in my head that Mike Gaite was on the vers/bottom end of the spectrum so I hadn't considered him really. Reading he likes the older, hairy, and larger among us is welcome news!

 

May I ask, have you engaged with both of these gents? That is to say, are your recommendations coming from experience with both or from discussions/feedback/etc. here or elsewhere? I only ask, as I like to think/know the gent is into who I am/what I bring to the table so to speak for sure thus (hopefully) ensuring a more interactive encounter versus a more mechanical, go thru the motions one with someone who isn't into me/guys like me. Feel free to PM if you're more comfy giving a bit of detail on them.

 

 

Cheers,

BBD

[+ purplekow]

Thank you for your recommendations Purplecow!

 

I admit, both Russ and Mr Gaite do tick the boxes here! For some reason, I had it in my head that Mike Gaite was on the vers/bottom end of the spectrum so I hadn't considered him really. Reading he likes the older, hairy, and larger among us is welcome news!

 

May I ask, have you engaged with both of these gents? That is to say, are your recommendations coming from experience with both or from discussions/feedback/etc. here or elsewhere? I only ask, as I like to think/know the gent is into who I am/what I bring to the table so to speak for sure thus (hopefully) ensuring a more interactive encounter versus a more mechanical, go thru the motions one with someone who isn't into me/guys like me. Feel free to PM if you're more comfy giving a bit of detail on them.

 

 

Cheers,

BBD

Well if you mean ever, then yes. If you mean in the last year, then yes. If you mean in the last month, then ....yes. If you mean in the last week...well contact me Tuesday

[BtmBearDad]

Colour me green with envy, Purplecow! ;-)