Ever had difficulty connecting with a particular escort?

[+ Truereview]

I hear about Escorts never responding to an Email...alot. One Client told me I wasnt even his Top pick(I should have been Offended...But Everyone has their "Type" Its Impossible to fit the Mold for Everyone) and He simply Hired me because I was the Only escort to Respond and he was on A Time crunch. Theres an Escort I know(Not personally but have Heard alot of) Who Will Schedule with You, Make the Appointment, Keep In contstant Touch without any Red Flags...and the Day Of...even Hours/Minutes...will Cancel. I dont understand why You guys put yourself through It. If an Escort isnt Responding In a Timely Fashion...showing some type of Respect...Stand on Your Dining Room Table(Or Toilet seat for some of You Kinkier folks)...Grab Your Balls...and as Loud as You can Yell "NEXT!"

 

Two things:

1. I loVe teaSing yA, JoCk!
   
2. occasionally, I venture out for a new guy, and usually the reason I venture out is bc physically the guy is exactly what turns me on. My pecker does the thinking (no matter how irrational). When I find a guy I can't resist physically, I love the hunt, the pursuit, the puzzle. I have to scratch the itch. So I empathize with DonPat. However, I've learned thru hard knocks, to give myself a limit/boundary. Once I get a hint that the guy is careless (For example, not responding in a reasonable manner or just teasing without really delivering), I move on bc I realize the hunt is futile. In other words, If I'm hunting, I want to eat the prey. No dehumanizing intent meant, it is just boiling it down to primitive instincts.
   

[+ nycman]

Any time I've had to work hard to schedule an appointment with an escort...it hasn't been worth it. Period.

 

Are you available?....Yes/No?...everything beyond that is a waste of time.

 

Of course every rule has it's exceptions. I tend to make room for an escort that sounds earnest but is skittish

and wants a little more contact. But even then, if "skittish" turns into "I need the money up front"....it's a quick

"that's never going to happen" from me and then "NEXT"!

 

Nexttime, I'll have to try Jock123's "dinning room table" version...it sounds like fun!

[marylander1940]

Replying escort here:

 

This thread can certainly go both ways, but from an escort POV, I want to ask what exact time length is given to reply to such correspondence?

 

I gave an example of a client in another thread who cancelled an appointment with me because I wasn't responding to my texts...but it was 1:30 am when he first texted, and then before 11 am subsequently. Friday night. Despite our planning all week, it was the 1 night I wanted to explore the Orlando nightlife, and our appointment wasn't until 2 pm the next day. Guy couldn't even wait until noon to get my confirmation, since my work phone had slid out my pocket in the car, and I was unaware of it. So quick to jump to conclusions. It's like, if you don't want the session, you have better things to do...then do them. Don't call me. Had he waited until 11 am, I would have (and did) reconfirm (again) the session, which I already did by giving the address the night before.

 

So, some guys are kinda pushy about things. Most business correspondence classes state to give atleast 24 hours to respond. Lately with texting, it's been amended to about 4 (business) hours. Some clients won't even allow that time, hence making it seem like we're unreachable.

 

That client was problematic from the beginning, a compulsive texter who got mad with you because you didn't reply to him at 1:30 AM?

 

Aren't you glad you didn't meet him?

 

As I said before, if an escort is in Alaska or out of the country, he may not be able to reply to text messages/phone calls because he may not be getting them? But as soon as he's back in Hawaii or the lower 48, he can just text back and say he was out of the country.

[Guest countryboywny]

It's a two way street. There are a myriad of reasons why an escort doesn't respond to an inquiry in a timely manner. In my opinion it breaks down into two broad categories:

1. He can't respond immediately. (Travel out of country, tied up with non-escort pursuits, broken phone, he didn't receive the inquiry, etc.)

2. He doesn't wish to respond. (he doesn't like the "tone" of an initial inquiry, he's not taking anyone new, he has other things going on and won't devote the time to returning messages, only escorts occasionally and doesn't return messages unless he happens to be "looking", the initial inquiry wasn't specific enough so he thinks that you're a time waster, etc.)

 

If I'm interested in meeting someone, I will send an inquiry. If he responds, great. If he doesn't, I move on.

 

If I'm REALLY interested in meeting someone and he doesn't respond, I will send a follow up message. If he doesn't respond the second time, I move on.

[Rudynate]

If I don't get a response from an initial inquiry to an escort, I try by an alternate route e.g text instead of email. I repeat this ritual once. And I'm always a little disappointed if I don't get a response after a couple of tries. It's important to me to maintain a sense of proportion when going after a particular guy, so I just tell myself that, for whatever reason, it wasn't meant to be and forget about it.

[+ dutchmuch]

Maybe, just maybe, the escort doesn't get back to a particular client in that potential client might be a time waster?

 

Lots of back and forth emails, texts and some phone calls. All resulting in no appointment.

[Guest]

not replying to email, cell or text, it's a sign of not having his life together, lazy or else...

Most business correspondence classes state to give at least 24 hours to respond. Lately with texting, it's been amended to about 4 (business) hours. Some clients won't even allow that time, hence making it seem like we're unreachable.

 

I agree with Marylander. This guy's obviously just not into this line of work at this point. Even if you do connect, he's going to continue being a flake. You're setting yourself up for aggravation by continuing to deal with him. And yes, Mocha, if a man is in the escort business, I expect an e-mail response within 24 hours, and a text response within 4 business hours, or more like waking hours. Expecting someone to respond to a text at 1:30 AM is ridiculous, but availability is part of the escort business, and if you can't even check that you have a charged phone with you all morning long, that shows a certain lack of professionalism. It's not that demanding a job for chrissake. Just need to check your e-mail a couple of times a day, and keep your cell phone charged and with you. Yes, there are situations in which one can't answer a text immediately: at a movie theater, bumpin' uglies, working out at the gym, attending the opera, etc., but rarely does this unavailability last more than a couple of hours. The exceptions are being on a trans-continental plane trip or being in a foreign country, not signed up with a foreign plan (or going camping in the wilderness, I suppose). In that case, the e-mails should probably be looked at a little more frequently.

Looking at the escort's last review, by a well-established reviewer, gives one confirmation about what to expect if you were ever able to be graced with an appointment with him:

In any event, and using a new email address I managed to book an appointment with him on my latest trip and he showed up, sort of. We had agreed to meet at my hotel at 4pm. He contacted me that afternoon and moved the meeting to 6pm. He than emailed to ask if I could do 6:30. I said not really as I had an important dinner to attend. As I was getting ready to greet him about 5:45 he txted to say he was in traffic and would I mind his being late. In fairness he did ask if i wanted to cancel but after all of this I wanted to see this guy so I said keep coming. He finally arrived 45 minutes late.

Lots of times very good-looking guys can just be assholes, and this escort seems like one of those guys.

[Donpat]

As a followup, I will say that my luck seems to have held. In answer to some the points raised here, I've been pretty patient I think, and have allowed days for a response from this particular escort. He did respond, asking if i wanted to schedule and I replied within 15 minutes. I needed to confirm incall as available, since I'm staying with family while visiting for the holidays. Not only not conducive, flatly not possible for an outcall where I am staying. He replied about a full day later, saying yes incall was possible, asking where I was located, and did i mind sharing my stats and what I was looking for during a session. It might have been 30 minutes or so before I replied, giving all the information he asked for (and, following advice I received here left OUT some particulars that have the possibility of concern, saying that I did have some other interests but would like to discuss them in person, thinking toward a future session), and that would include my stats. All of that transpired 3 full days ago with no contact since. I'm left to assume that my stats were the deal killer, and that is troubling. This is a highly rated, exceptionally attractive, and hits all my buttons guy. Trying not to take this personally, and trying not to be devastated, but it's an exact repeat of my experience when trying to connect when he first crossed my radar 3 years ago in Phoenix. Live and learn - i'm obviously not a quality candidate.

[+ bashful]

There is an escort I thought about for a while, but he stopped advertising, so I figured he left the business. Nearly a year later, on a whim, I decided to email him (using the email address in his review), to inquire if he was still available to meet. Didn't hear back for well over a week, more like two, so figured, asked and answered. With that, I deleted the email from my sent box. One night, while window shopping other cities, I saw his ad. Since it was late, I didn't reach out (no point since he was out of town), but thought I would text him the next day. When I awoke, I had a response to my original email telling he was on the road, but was still in the business. He said he would very much like to meet me, and asked me if I wanted him to let me know when he was back in our city. I responded with my description, and if he was still interested, let me know when he returned to town. Heard nothing. Didn't take it personally (too old for that). Several weeks later, I don't know why, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, and emailed him asking if he was still interested in meeting. Yes, he was. We set up an appointment, and have now met twice. Not sure about doing a review yet (or naming names) as I want to see how this goes. My point being, I thought the description I gave of myself conveyed to him I was not a quality candidate either. One thing my very limited experience has thought me, while not a looker, or very experienced, I'm a quality candidate. I'm going to have faith the good escorts will see that.

[Donpat]

There is an escort I thought about for a while, but he stopped advertising, so I figured he left the business. Nearly a year later, on a whim, I decided to email him (using the email address in his review), to inquire if he was still available to meet. Didn't hear back for well over a week, more like two, so figured, asked and answered. With that, I deleted the email from my sent box. One night, while window shopping other cities, I saw his ad. Since it was late, I didn't reach out (no point since he was out of town), but thought I would text him the next day. When I awoke, I had a response to my original email telling he was on the road, but was still in the business. He said he would very much like to meet me, and asked me if I wanted him to let me know when he was back in our city. I responded with my description, and if he was still was still interested, let me know when he returned to town. Heard nothing. Didn't take it personally (too old for that). Several weeks later, I don't know why, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, and emailed him asking if he was still interested in meeting. Yes, he was. We set up an appointment, and have now met twice. Not sure about doing a review yet (or naming names) as want to see how this goes. My point being, I thought the description myself conveyed to him I was not a quality candidate either. One thing my very limited experience has thought me, I am a quality candidate. I'm going to have faith the good escorts will see that.

That's a lesson I would like to learn. I like your style Bashful

[Guest]

This is a highly rated, exceptionally attractive, and hits all my buttons guy.

 

All of his positive reviews, except one, were by first-time reviewers. Also, the negative review was the latest one, and it indicated he had grown a beard and been unresponsive, leading one to conclude that if he may have been a good escort previously, he probably no longer is--which may be for any number of reasons.

[borgerback]

I've had some lengthy try-to-get-with a particular escort, where the dropped plans have been MY fault, in some cases on multiple occasions. I've always been able to reach out to the escorts and let them know however - I've never just n0-shown. The escorts I've been dealing with have been very gracious about re-connecting with me again at a later time.

 

BUT I also find myself, on occasion, 'chasing' escorts who have never responded, or erratically responded . . .

[Jock123]

Lots of times very good-looking guys can just be assholes, and this escort seems like one of those guys.

 

 

I'm a Good Looking guy...I get hit on alot(Women and Men)...and still Treat people as I want to be Treated. Being Attractive isnt an Excuse to be a Dick. Get Over Yourselves. All these cute little twink Boys who dont give anyone over 30 the Time of Day will soon have Life Catch up with them...None of us are 20 Forever. I get asked alot if I get hit On in the Clubs, And Its quite the Opposite. Gay Boys usually dont apporach me Unless they've Had some Liquor(Young Gay men tend to be Prideful...Acting like Their shit doesnt Stink) And once they are Liquored up They're Pratically begging me to go Home with them. I've gone to Clubs with Clients and Its at those times I like to Straddle my Client and Make out with Him...Pissing thus Said Twink Boy off considering Realization he doesnt have a Chance.

[Donpat]

I'm a Good Looking guy...I get hit on alot(Women and Men)...and still Treat people as I want to be Treated. Being Attractive isnt an Excuse to be a Dick. Get Over Yourselves. All these cute little twink Boys who dont give anyone over 30 the Time of Day will soon have Life Catch up with them...None of us are 20 Forever. I get asked alot if I get hit On in the Clubs, And Its quite the Opposite. Gay Boys usually dont apporach me Unless they've Had some Liquor(Young Gay men tend to be Prideful...Acting like Their shit doesnt Stink) And once they are Liquored up Their Pratically begging me to go Home with them. I've gone to Clubs with Clients and Its at those times I like to Straddle my Client and Make out with Him...Pissing thus Said Twink Boy off considering Realization he doesnt have a Chance.

Man! I need to get together with YOU Jock123 - it's adding up to this particular escort is uninterested to a fault in me for certain. Hard to accept, but a reality. You, however, seem to be just what this doctor prescribed ... Thank you for your post and your the underlying confidence booster. You're amazing

[mattr]

I'm a Good Looking guy...I get hit on alot(Women and Men)...and still Treat people as I want to be Treated. Being Attractive isnt an Excuse to be a Dick. Get Over Yourselves. All these cute little twink Boys who dont give anyone over 30 the Time of Day will soon have Life Catch up with them...None of us are 20 Forever. I get asked alot if I get hit On in the Clubs, And Its quite the Opposite. Gay Boys usually dont apporach me Unless they've Had some Liquor(Young Gay men tend to be Prideful...Acting like Their shit doesnt Stink) And once they are Liquored up They're Pratically begging me to go Home with them. I've gone to Clubs with Clients and Its at those times I like to Straddle my Client and Make out with Him...Pissing thus Said Twink Boy off considering Realization he doesnt have a Chance.

I'd like you to straddle me and make out in a club... as foreplay of course!

[Donpat]

I'd like you to straddle me and make out in a club... as foreplay of course!

I would like to say I'm up for some straddling myself - and as foreplay as well. How could I ask about making that happen Jock123?

[+ dutchmuch]

I would suggest that escorts are out there for work, like compensated friendship with artist thrown in.

They are not out there for connections!

[curiousnomore]

Yes. He was a nice guy, but he was more worried about his personal goals than me.

[sincitymix]

yes. I told the escort to take charge and man handle me like the alpha male that he is.

it was like.. doing airplane landing signals with lights and sirens and arrows.

[Wolfer]

yes. I told the escort to take charge and man handle me like the alpha male that he is.

it was like.. doing airplane landing signals with lights and sirens and arrows.

That last sentence came so out of left field... I'm giggling but because I'm literally picturing either of you standing up on the bed waving their arms about. So do you mean it was you who had to guide him? Or was he just crappy at taking charge?

[sincitymix]

That last sentence came so out of left field... I'm giggling but because I'm literally picturing either of you standing up on the bed waving their arms about. So do you mean it was you who had to guide him? Or was he just crappy at taking charge?

 

Lol, I wish I could say I was waving arms and pointing with flashlights lol... He was just bad at taking charge. Im shy in person I know hard to believe but it was like inch over a little.. waiting.. inch over.. waiting.. scootching over nuzzle.. little touches.. oh hes kissing me! is he.. no.. hes not so I had to get over my shyness and took charge myself. eventually much later into it he finally took charge. *grumble grumble*