Being Stood Up, Multiple Times.

[sincitymix]

Well, you can't have it both ways. You can't have this be a full-time job if you're too paranoid to have an ad (I'm not sure why rentboy was fine but rentmen is problematic for you). If you want this to be your primary source of income, then you need to advertise seriously. Either that, or (1) join the military full-time, or (2) see if you can get a sugar-daddy.

im kind of curious on where he escorts.... have to support out men in uniform:P

[+ glennnn]

Burn me once shame on you; Burn me twice shame on me; 3rd time should be a rarity.[/QUOT

 

Or as our genius former POTUS, W said.... "fool me once, shame on.......??????? Fool me twice... shame on.. .????? Fool me once . ??????? ...................... Just don't fool me"

 

Seriously, this client needs a lesson in basic courtesy I cant believe he has the nerve to call you AGAIN. You must really be handsome, hung and hot! I congratulate you, but thus guy is a loser. Cut him free

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[+ stevenkesslar]

Just an update, I've ReScheduled seeing him this weekend...wish me luck! That is if It actually happens

 

I'm sorry I didnt make myself more clear. After getting a message from another escort(From the Forum)who suggested I require a partial payment, I told him(the Client) thats the only way I could ReSchedule. In which he followed through paying Half up front so I'm sure hes Serious(Finally).

 

Inquiring minds want to know. How did it go?

[Jock123]

Inquiring minds want to know. How did it go?

 

 

Wow. What an Evening. We met(finally) and he was a good guy(I knew it!). Very kind, shy at first but I warmed him up. As it turns out a few years ago he had a Traumatic experience with an escort. He was robbed at gunpoint. Long story short it took him awhile to muster up the courage to hire again. Whenever we'd agree to meet his nerves got the best of him and he just couldnt follow through. We had an amazing evening. Chatted for hours and he said he plans to see me again. I've had clients tell me they've had bad experiences with escorts In the past...but this defiently took the cake. Its a shame how one bad experience can mess things up for the rest of us but I TOTALLY understood In his case.

[geminibear]

Wow. What an Evening. We met(finally) and he was a good guy(I knew it!). Very kind, shy at first but I warmed him up. As it turns out a few years ago he had a Traumatic experience with an escort. He was robbed at gunpoint. Long story short it took him awhile to muster up the courage to hire again. Whenever we'd agree to meet his nerves got the best of him and he just couldnt follow through. We had an amazing evening. Chatted for hours and he said he plans to see me again. I've had clients tell me they've had bad experiences with escorts In the past...but this defiently took the cake. Its a shame how one bad experience can mess things up for the rest of us but I TOTALLY understood In his case.

Glad it worked out. Seems like your a good guy and patient, which is what he really needed.

 

So when do the rest of us get to experience what a good guy you are?

[MikeyGMin]

That's great that it all worked out Jock. I hope he becomes a regular and you guys can laugh about this many times. It was sweet of you to give him so many chances.

[+ stevenkesslar]

Wow. What an Evening. We met(finally) and he was a good guy(I knew it!). Very kind, shy at first but I warmed him up. As it turns out a few years ago he had a Traumatic experience with an escort. He was robbed at gunpoint. Long story short it took him awhile to muster up the courage to hire again. Whenever we'd agree to meet his nerves got the best of him and he just couldnt follow through. We had an amazing evening. Chatted for hours and he said he plans to see me again. I've had clients tell me they've had bad experiences with escorts In the past...but this defiently took the cake. Its a shame how one bad experience can mess things up for the rest of us but I TOTALLY understood In his case.

 

Fantabulous!

[Mocha]

As it turns out a few years ago he had a Traumatic experience with an escort. He was robbed at gunpoint. Long story short it took him awhile to muster up the courage to hire again. Whenever we'd agree to meet his nerves got the best of him and he just couldnt follow through.

 

 

About 6 Months ago I was Contacted by someone whom Originally made plans with me That Week. Long story short He Texted me the Day of Our Meeting to Cancel due to having a Family Emergency. We ReScheduled for a few Weeks later...Again the Day of he had to Cancel. Fast Forward to a few months later. He Emails me Apologizing for the missed Oppurtunites, Swears hell make it up to me...And the Day of...Has to Cancel again.

 

Meh, unfortunently I have to be Judge Tanya Acker for a minute. Although it's great you guys finally met, I don't think one gets an award for patience. I think you got paid, at your expense. The expense being the traumatic experience YOU faced by his pussyfooting around and subtle dishonesty and lack of communication.

 

From your post just a few days ago, he basically lied to you about the reason for his cancellation, rather than voice his doubts. He flaked on you 3 times. At any point he could have expressed his concerns. And what someone else did to him, does not define you.

 

I understand traumatic experiences. It's hard to overcome. I've been thru the most. Armed Robberies, car accidents, hit and runs, assaults. But guess what? All my friends know I'm paranoid as all fuck and I won't hesitate to mention something I'm concerned about. I was having a "Netflix and pot" first date (welcome to Denver) with a guy last weekend, and even though he invited me to spend the night...I had to get him to reassure me that his roommate wouldn't come home and start any drama later in the night. He dubiously asked, "what kind of experiences have you had?" I told him....I seen em all. Especially when so many "roommates" nowadays are really ex boyfriends.

 

Someone shouldn't have to cancel on someone an infinite amount of times before they share their feelings. I come across clients occasionally who have met me once or twice, sometimes even more; suddenly start cancelling repeatedly out of the blue. What excuse do they have? The real one. Who knows, they rarely say. Probably it's payback for being paid.

[Jock123]

Meh, unfortunently I have to be Judge Tanya Acker for a minute. Although it's great you guys finally met, I don't think one gets an award for patience. I think you got paid, at your expense. The expense being the traumatic experience YOU faced by his pussyfooting around and subtle dishonesty and lack of communication.

 

 

I totally agree. Canceling on someone whether its through these circumstances or actual friends/acquaintances has become the norm. Mostly due to the advancement In technology and being able to text etc. Most conversations are carried through texts. I read an article on this a few years ago that confirmed we as a society have become numb to decency in this regard. For me personally I brush it off. Never take it personal. BUT I am learning that people will only treat you how you allow them I.E if You're passive You can and will become a doormat by someone.

[Nvr2Thick]

I totally agree. Canceling on someone whether its through these circumstances or actual friends/acquaintances has become the norm. Mostly due to the advancement In technology and being able to text etc. Most conversations are carried through texts. I read an article on this a few years ago that confirmed we as a society have become numb to decency in this regard. For me personally I brush it off. Never take it personal. BUT I am learning that people will only treat you how you allow them I.E if You're passive You can and will become a doormat by someone.

 

I admire your instincts. There had been times early on as a client when I felt as though I was facing pretty dark times while I was waiting to meet an escort. I had to set aside some serious self-loathing as I hired hot guys with attitudes, or went through a chain of bad experiences with escorts who were abusive or aloof or just not all that good. I'd find myself excited as I set up an encounter, but wanting to find an excuse to bail as we got closer to the time to meet. As a client you're often alone with these oppressive doubts, without a buddy to talk you through them. I've found that the best escorts, and the ones that would break the chain, often really made me want to meet them -- they drew me in with their excitement and assurance that we'd have a good time. Certainly it would have been reasonable to cut this client loose regardless of his reasons for canceling. You've gone above and beyond that by trusting in the client's underlying sincerity and giving him ample opportunity to get what he needed in spite of his doubts and fears.

[+ Keith30309]

There had been times early on as a client when I felt as though I was facing pretty dark times while I was waiting to meet an escort. I had to set aside some serious self-loathing as I hired hot guys with attitudes, or went through a chain of bad experiences with escorts who were abusive or aloof or just not all that good. I'd find myself excited as I set up an encounter, but wanting to find an excuse to bail as we got closer to the time to meet. As a client you're often alone with these oppressive doubts, without a buddy to talk you through them. I've found that the best escorts, and the ones that would break the chain, often really made me want to meet them -- they drew me in with their excitement and assurance that we'd have a good time.

 

Kudos- I could not have said it better!